Re: , Happy Monday!!! ( kinda long)

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Good for you!!!! I know how hard it can be to " realize " that maybe

the person we have chosen for our posible " life mate " isn't the

one. I was with my 1st husband for 9 years and the best thing I

ever did was leave him and start out new... If things didn't

change, I probably wouldn't be here to type this letter today! It

wasn't any type of physical abuse, just mental. He made me feel

that I was never " perfect " enough and I was doing what ever it took

to please him and make him happy. I was killing myself and wonder

if all the things I did to be so " perfect " have anything to do with

all the " problems " I have now....

I know that seeing him feel vunerable is sort of a " REWARD " for

what he has put you through, but keep in mind that there is a fine

line between " LOVE and HATE " and you need to focus on what is

going to be the best for you. Is it going to be a friendship with

him, or is it better if we go our seperate ways? This is a very

difficult situation, and from my experience, I would really weigh

out the good from the bad and decide from their. If you can be

friends, well good for you!! but, if not, then you need to move

forward, because if you don't, you will not make it with this

disease.... Remember that " STRESS " only makes our lives worse.

I don't mean to be a " downer or sarcastic " I just care!

With Love,

Barbara