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In church Sunday the priest was talking about his two years in China in

the underground Catholic Church. He asked for us to consider opening our

homes to adopt a chinese girl...and my own kids turned to me asking if we

could. Boy, what a decision. How will having FM interfere with me having

another child. I have wanted one more child since I was 29 when I had to

have a sudden hysterectomy. My oldest two will be in college in a year,

my youngest is 13. He thinks it would be great and he always wanted to

get to know someone from another country. It would be a dream come true!

But will they turn me down because I'm not as physically active at 42

with FM. Yet, I do more outside things than most moms on our street, they

don't know I wake up hurting every morning. My neighbor across the street

has tried for years to have a baby and wants to join me in adopting so

the girls would have peers to grow up with if we decide we can do it.

Then the money issue. I don't make much money teaching my classes and

hosting my website. I'd have to see about fund raising to cover the

expenses etc.

So am I crazy to follow a dream and do it or admit my limitations and

just help my neighbor? My husband's mother was 48 when he surprised

them...

please keep us in your prayers and let me know your suggestions! I'm

afraid to tell my parents, they know I'm wonderful with kids but know I

struggle with flairs at times.

Blessings,

Marie

www.anaturalplace.com

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In church Sunday the priest was talking about his two years in China in

the underground Catholic Church. He asked for us to consider opening our

homes to adopt a chinese girl...and my own kids turned to me asking if we

could. Boy, what a decision. How will having FM interfere with me having

another child. I have wanted one more child since I was 29 when I had to

have a sudden hysterectomy. My oldest two will be in college in a year,

my youngest is 13. He thinks it would be great and he always wanted to

get to know someone from another country. It would be a dream come true!

But will they turn me down because I'm not as physically active at 42

with FM. Yet, I do more outside things than most moms on our street, they

don't know I wake up hurting every morning. My neighbor across the street

has tried for years to have a baby and wants to join me in adopting so

the girls would have peers to grow up with if we decide we can do it.

Then the money issue. I don't make much money teaching my classes and

hosting my website. I'd have to see about fund raising to cover the

expenses etc.

So am I crazy to follow a dream and do it or admit my limitations and

just help my neighbor? My husband's mother was 48 when he surprised

them...

please keep us in your prayers and let me know your suggestions! I'm

afraid to tell my parents, they know I'm wonderful with kids but know I

struggle with flairs at times.

Blessings,

Marie

www.anaturalplace.com

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---I would think being at home would be the ideal for adopting a

child. Go for it. It could be the most rewarding experience of your

life.

In @y..., mausden@j... wrote:

> In church Sunday the priest was talking about his two years in

China in

> the underground Catholic Church. He asked for us to consider

opening our

> homes to adopt a chinese girl...and my own kids turned to me asking

if we

> could. Boy, what a decision. How will having FM interfere with me

having

> another child. I have wanted one more child since I was 29 when I

had to

> have a sudden hysterectomy. My oldest two will be in college in a

year,

> my youngest is 13. He thinks it would be great and he always wanted

to

> get to know someone from another country. It would be a dream come

true!

> But will they turn me down because I'm not as physically active at

42

> with FM. Yet, I do more outside things than most moms on our

street, they

> don't know I wake up hurting every morning. My neighbor across the

street

> has tried for years to have a baby and wants to join me in adopting

so

> the girls would have peers to grow up with if we decide we can do

it.

> Then the money issue. I don't make much money teaching my classes

and

> hosting my website. I'd have to see about fund raising to cover the

> expenses etc.

>

> So am I crazy to follow a dream and do it or admit my limitations

and

> just help my neighbor? My husband's mother was 48 when he surprised

> them...

>

> please keep us in your prayers and let me know your suggestions! I'm

> afraid to tell my parents, they know I'm wonderful with kids but

know I

> struggle with flairs at times.

>

> Blessings,

> Marie

>

> www.anaturalplace.com

>

> ________________________________________________________________

> GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO!

> Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less!

> Join Juno today! For your FREE software, visit:

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---I would think being at home would be the ideal for adopting a

child. Go for it. It could be the most rewarding experience of your

life.

In @y..., mausden@j... wrote:

> In church Sunday the priest was talking about his two years in

China in

> the underground Catholic Church. He asked for us to consider

opening our

> homes to adopt a chinese girl...and my own kids turned to me asking

if we

> could. Boy, what a decision. How will having FM interfere with me

having

> another child. I have wanted one more child since I was 29 when I

had to

> have a sudden hysterectomy. My oldest two will be in college in a

year,

> my youngest is 13. He thinks it would be great and he always wanted

to

> get to know someone from another country. It would be a dream come

true!

> But will they turn me down because I'm not as physically active at

42

> with FM. Yet, I do more outside things than most moms on our

street, they

> don't know I wake up hurting every morning. My neighbor across the

street

> has tried for years to have a baby and wants to join me in adopting

so

> the girls would have peers to grow up with if we decide we can do

it.

> Then the money issue. I don't make much money teaching my classes

and

> hosting my website. I'd have to see about fund raising to cover the

> expenses etc.

>

> So am I crazy to follow a dream and do it or admit my limitations

and

> just help my neighbor? My husband's mother was 48 when he surprised

> them...

>

> please keep us in your prayers and let me know your suggestions! I'm

> afraid to tell my parents, they know I'm wonderful with kids but

know I

> struggle with flairs at times.

>

> Blessings,

> Marie

>

> www.anaturalplace.com

>

> ________________________________________________________________

> GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO!

> Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less!

> Join Juno today! For your FREE software, visit:

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Marie, I am going to be one or maybe the only one, that thinks adopting would

be a mistake. Having fibro makes it difficult to do the things that we want

to do and we have the freedom, at least, most of the time to say no, I can't

do that. With a baby you can't do that. I remember how hard it was taking

care of a baby when I was young and healthy. I couldn't do it today.

When you have a flare, how could you help your baby. It doesn't matter if it

is a flare ever now and then, it is still a flare. And there is fibro fog.

You could easily forget to do something that needed to be done for the child.

I know that I am going to, once again, be jumped on for what I have said but

if you ask a question, then you get an answer. Not always to your liking.

> In @y..., mausden@j... wrote:

> > In church Sunday the priest was talking about his two years in

> China in

> > the underground Catholic Church. He asked for us to consider

> opening our

> > homes to adopt a chinese girl...and my own kids turned to me asking

> if we

> > could. Boy, what a decision. How will having FM interfere with me

> having

> > another child. I have wanted one more child since I was 29 when I

> had to

> > have a sudden hysterectomy. My oldest two will be in college in a

> year,

> > my youngest is 13. He thinks it would be great and he always wanted

> to

> > get to know someone from another country. It would be a dream come

> true!

> > But will they turn me down because I'm not as physically active at

> 42

> > with FM. Yet, I do more outside things than most moms on our

> street, they

> > don't know I wake up hurting every morning. My neighbor across the

> street

> > has tried for years to have a baby and wants to join me in adopting

> so

> > the girls would have peers to grow up with if we decide we can do

> it.

> > Then the money issue. I don't make much money teaching my classes

> and

> > hosting my website. I'd have to see about fund raising to cover the

> > expenses etc.

> >

> > So am I crazy to follow a dream and do it or admit my limitations

> and

> > just help my neighbor? My husband's mother was 48 when he surprised

> > them...

> >

> > please keep us in your prayers and let me know your suggestions! I'm

> > afraid to tell my parents, they know I'm wonderful with kids but

> know I

> > struggle with flairs at times.

> >

> > Blessings,

> > Marie

>

Take care,

Irene

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Sweet Katlin wrote:

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> I don't think giving a child a home and love is a mistake. Yes, we can't do

everything we want, but offering a child love even when we feel cruddy is

possible. I have 4 children myself and most of the time my 2 year old neice.

When I feel so bad and don't want to get out of bed I know that my day will > be

full of joy because of my children.

I think you're right you can always offer a child love, but how about

physically taking care of them? (I'm not specifically referring to you,

just people in general.) In my mind, it's more a matter of " will this

child get physically taken care of " . If the future parent is in the

middle of a flare, can she physically get up to deal with the child on a

regular basis? Will the spouse do his fair share of child care or do

they travel on a regular basis so there isn't a lot of back up? Is

there a close family member or friend willing to help out for a day or

two? If the baby keeps you up a lot at night, day in and day out, can

you handle the extra pain this might bring? In my mind, those are the

kinds of questions to be asking yourself first. Then if you think you

have pretty good answers for those kinds of questions, then I think

adding a child becomes a much easier decision.

I don't think you have to be able to take the kids to the park on a

regular basis, or set up play dates twice a week to be able to be a good

mother. Love goes a long way to help with the disappointment of missing

going to the movies because mom got a flare. Setting up a family movie

and watching from the sofa may be a great second choice. I just think

that careful planning on how you're going to deal with the physical care

is (as best you can plan those kinds of things, yes unforeseen things do

come up), needs to be step one. Just my opinion which may or may not be

worth two cents.

Darcy

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Sweet Katlin wrote:

>

> I don't think giving a child a home and love is a mistake. Yes, we can't do

everything we want, but offering a child love even when we feel cruddy is

possible. I have 4 children myself and most of the time my 2 year old neice.

When I feel so bad and don't want to get out of bed I know that my day will > be

full of joy because of my children.

I think you're right you can always offer a child love, but how about

physically taking care of them? (I'm not specifically referring to you,

just people in general.) In my mind, it's more a matter of " will this

child get physically taken care of " . If the future parent is in the

middle of a flare, can she physically get up to deal with the child on a

regular basis? Will the spouse do his fair share of child care or do

they travel on a regular basis so there isn't a lot of back up? Is

there a close family member or friend willing to help out for a day or

two? If the baby keeps you up a lot at night, day in and day out, can

you handle the extra pain this might bring? In my mind, those are the

kinds of questions to be asking yourself first. Then if you think you

have pretty good answers for those kinds of questions, then I think

adding a child becomes a much easier decision.

I don't think you have to be able to take the kids to the park on a

regular basis, or set up play dates twice a week to be able to be a good

mother. Love goes a long way to help with the disappointment of missing

going to the movies because mom got a flare. Setting up a family movie

and watching from the sofa may be a great second choice. I just think

that careful planning on how you're going to deal with the physical care

is (as best you can plan those kinds of things, yes unforeseen things do

come up), needs to be step one. Just my opinion which may or may not be

worth two cents.

Darcy

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Sweet Katlin wrote:

>

> I don't think giving a child a home and love is a mistake. Yes, we can't do

everything we want, but offering a child love even when we feel cruddy is

possible. I have 4 children myself and most of the time my 2 year old neice.

When I feel so bad and don't want to get out of bed I know that my day will > be

full of joy because of my children.

I think you're right you can always offer a child love, but how about

physically taking care of them? (I'm not specifically referring to you,

just people in general.) In my mind, it's more a matter of " will this

child get physically taken care of " . If the future parent is in the

middle of a flare, can she physically get up to deal with the child on a

regular basis? Will the spouse do his fair share of child care or do

they travel on a regular basis so there isn't a lot of back up? Is

there a close family member or friend willing to help out for a day or

two? If the baby keeps you up a lot at night, day in and day out, can

you handle the extra pain this might bring? In my mind, those are the

kinds of questions to be asking yourself first. Then if you think you

have pretty good answers for those kinds of questions, then I think

adding a child becomes a much easier decision.

I don't think you have to be able to take the kids to the park on a

regular basis, or set up play dates twice a week to be able to be a good

mother. Love goes a long way to help with the disappointment of missing

going to the movies because mom got a flare. Setting up a family movie

and watching from the sofa may be a great second choice. I just think

that careful planning on how you're going to deal with the physical care

is (as best you can plan those kinds of things, yes unforeseen things do

come up), needs to be step one. Just my opinion which may or may not be

worth two cents.

Darcy

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