Guest guest Posted July 15, 2002 Report Share Posted July 15, 2002 In church Sunday the priest was talking about his two years in China in the underground Catholic Church. He asked for us to consider opening our homes to adopt a chinese girl...and my own kids turned to me asking if we could. Boy, what a decision. How will having FM interfere with me having another child. I have wanted one more child since I was 29 when I had to have a sudden hysterectomy. My oldest two will be in college in a year, my youngest is 13. He thinks it would be great and he always wanted to get to know someone from another country. It would be a dream come true! But will they turn me down because I'm not as physically active at 42 with FM. Yet, I do more outside things than most moms on our street, they don't know I wake up hurting every morning. My neighbor across the street has tried for years to have a baby and wants to join me in adopting so the girls would have peers to grow up with if we decide we can do it. Then the money issue. I don't make much money teaching my classes and hosting my website. I'd have to see about fund raising to cover the expenses etc. So am I crazy to follow a dream and do it or admit my limitations and just help my neighbor? My husband's mother was 48 when he surprised them... please keep us in your prayers and let me know your suggestions! I'm afraid to tell my parents, they know I'm wonderful with kids but know I struggle with flairs at times. Blessings, Marie www.anaturalplace.com ________________________________________________________________ GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO! Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less! Join Juno today! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/web/. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 17, 2002 Report Share Posted July 17, 2002 Marie, I am going to be one or maybe the only one, that thinks adopting would be a mistake. Having fibro makes it difficult to do the things that we want to do and we have the freedom, at least, most of the time to say no, I can't do that. With a baby you can't do that. I remember how hard it was taking care of a baby when I was young and healthy. I couldn't do it today. When you have a flare, how could you help your baby. It doesn't matter if it is a flare ever now and then, it is still a flare. And there is fibro fog. You could easily forget to do something that needed to be done for the child. I know that I am going to, once again, be jumped on for what I have said but if you ask a question, then you get an answer. Not always to your liking. > In @y..., mausden@j... wrote: > > In church Sunday the priest was talking about his two years in > China in > > the underground Catholic Church. He asked for us to consider > opening our > > homes to adopt a chinese girl...and my own kids turned to me asking > if we > > could. Boy, what a decision. How will having FM interfere with me > having > > another child. I have wanted one more child since I was 29 when I > had to > > have a sudden hysterectomy. My oldest two will be in college in a > year, > > my youngest is 13. He thinks it would be great and he always wanted > to > > get to know someone from another country. It would be a dream come > true! > > But will they turn me down because I'm not as physically active at > 42 > > with FM. Yet, I do more outside things than most moms on our > street, they > > don't know I wake up hurting every morning. My neighbor across the > street > > has tried for years to have a baby and wants to join me in adopting > so > > the girls would have peers to grow up with if we decide we can do > it. > > Then the money issue. I don't make much money teaching my classes > and > > hosting my website. I'd have to see about fund raising to cover the > > expenses etc. > > > > So am I crazy to follow a dream and do it or admit my limitations > and > > just help my neighbor? My husband's mother was 48 when he surprised > > them... > > > > please keep us in your prayers and let me know your suggestions! I'm > > afraid to tell my parents, they know I'm wonderful with kids but > know I > > struggle with flairs at times. > > > > Blessings, > > Marie > Take care, Irene Books may well be the only true magic Alice Hoffman Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2002 Report Share Posted July 18, 2002 I don't think giving a child a home and love is a mistake. Yes, we can't do everything we want, but offering a child love even when we feel cruddy is possible. I have 4 children myself and most of the time my 2 year old neice. When I feel so bad and don't want to get out of bed I know that my day will be full of joy because of my children. It's hard work now that I have fibro/cfs & the syncope, but it's worth every bit of my energy & pain. This is just my view.....sorry my e-mails are so " choppy. " I am at the beginning of another flare I think. Take care everyone! ~ I am going to be one or maybe the only one, that thinks adopting would be a mistake. Having fibro makes it difficult to do the things that we want to do and we have the freedom, at least, most of the time to say no, I can't do that. With a baby you can't do that. I remember how hard it was taking care of a baby when I was young and healthy. I couldn't do it today. When you have a flare, how could you help your baby. It doesn't matter if it is a flare ever now and then, it is still a flare. And there is fibro fog. You could easily forget to do something that needed to be done for the child. I know that I am going to, once again, be jumped on for what I have said but if you ask a question, then you get an answer. Not always to your liking. > In @y..., mausden@j... wrote: > > In church Sunday the priest was talking about his two years in > China in > > the underground Catholic Church. He asked for us to consider > opening our > > homes to adopt a chinese girl...and my own kids turned to me asking > if we > > could. Boy, what a decision. How will having FM interfere with me > having > > another child. I have wanted one more child since I was 29 when I > had to > > have a sudden hysterectomy. My oldest two will be in college in a > year, > > my youngest is 13. He thinks it would be great and he always wanted > to > > get to know someone from another country. It would be a dream come > true! > > But will they turn me down because I'm not as physically active at > 42 > > with FM. Yet, I do more outside things than most moms on our > street, they > > don't know I wake up hurting every morning. My neighbor across the > street > > has tried for years to have a baby and wants to join me in adopting > so > > the girls would have peers to grow up with if we decide we can do > it. > > Then the money issue. I don't make much money teaching my classes > and > > hosting my website. I'd have to see about fund raising to cover the > > expenses etc. > > > > So am I crazy to follow a dream and do it or admit my limitations > and > > just help my neighbor? My husband's mother was 48 when he surprised > > them... > > > > please keep us in your prayers and let me know your suggestions! I'm > > afraid to tell my parents, they know I'm wonderful with kids but > know I > > struggle with flairs at times. > > > > Blessings, > > Marie > Take care, Irene Books may well be the only true magic Alice Hoffman Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2002 Report Share Posted July 18, 2002 I don't think giving a child a home and love is a mistake. Yes, we can't do everything we want, but offering a child love even when we feel cruddy is possible. I have 4 children myself and most of the time my 2 year old neice. When I feel so bad and don't want to get out of bed I know that my day will be full of joy because of my children. It's hard work now that I have fibro/cfs & the syncope, but it's worth every bit of my energy & pain. This is just my view.....sorry my e-mails are so " choppy. " I am at the beginning of another flare I think. Take care everyone! ~ I am going to be one or maybe the only one, that thinks adopting would be a mistake. Having fibro makes it difficult to do the things that we want to do and we have the freedom, at least, most of the time to say no, I can't do that. With a baby you can't do that. I remember how hard it was taking care of a baby when I was young and healthy. I couldn't do it today. When you have a flare, how could you help your baby. It doesn't matter if it is a flare ever now and then, it is still a flare. And there is fibro fog. You could easily forget to do something that needed to be done for the child. I know that I am going to, once again, be jumped on for what I have said but if you ask a question, then you get an answer. Not always to your liking. > In @y..., mausden@j... wrote: > > In church Sunday the priest was talking about his two years in > China in > > the underground Catholic Church. He asked for us to consider > opening our > > homes to adopt a chinese girl...and my own kids turned to me asking > if we > > could. Boy, what a decision. How will having FM interfere with me > having > > another child. I have wanted one more child since I was 29 when I > had to > > have a sudden hysterectomy. My oldest two will be in college in a > year, > > my youngest is 13. He thinks it would be great and he always wanted > to > > get to know someone from another country. It would be a dream come > true! > > But will they turn me down because I'm not as physically active at > 42 > > with FM. Yet, I do more outside things than most moms on our > street, they > > don't know I wake up hurting every morning. My neighbor across the > street > > has tried for years to have a baby and wants to join me in adopting > so > > the girls would have peers to grow up with if we decide we can do > it. > > Then the money issue. I don't make much money teaching my classes > and > > hosting my website. I'd have to see about fund raising to cover the > > expenses etc. > > > > So am I crazy to follow a dream and do it or admit my limitations > and > > just help my neighbor? My husband's mother was 48 when he surprised > > them... > > > > please keep us in your prayers and let me know your suggestions! I'm > > afraid to tell my parents, they know I'm wonderful with kids but > know I > > struggle with flairs at times. > > > > Blessings, > > Marie > Take care, Irene Books may well be the only true magic Alice Hoffman Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2002 Report Share Posted July 18, 2002 I don't think giving a child a home and love is a mistake. Yes, we can't do everything we want, but offering a child love even when we feel cruddy is possible. I have 4 children myself and most of the time my 2 year old neice. When I feel so bad and don't want to get out of bed I know that my day will be full of joy because of my children. It's hard work now that I have fibro/cfs & the syncope, but it's worth every bit of my energy & pain. This is just my view.....sorry my e-mails are so " choppy. " I am at the beginning of another flare I think. Take care everyone! ~ I am going to be one or maybe the only one, that thinks adopting would be a mistake. Having fibro makes it difficult to do the things that we want to do and we have the freedom, at least, most of the time to say no, I can't do that. With a baby you can't do that. I remember how hard it was taking care of a baby when I was young and healthy. I couldn't do it today. When you have a flare, how could you help your baby. It doesn't matter if it is a flare ever now and then, it is still a flare. And there is fibro fog. You could easily forget to do something that needed to be done for the child. I know that I am going to, once again, be jumped on for what I have said but if you ask a question, then you get an answer. Not always to your liking. > In @y..., mausden@j... wrote: > > In church Sunday the priest was talking about his two years in > China in > > the underground Catholic Church. He asked for us to consider > opening our > > homes to adopt a chinese girl...and my own kids turned to me asking > if we > > could. Boy, what a decision. How will having FM interfere with me > having > > another child. I have wanted one more child since I was 29 when I > had to > > have a sudden hysterectomy. My oldest two will be in college in a > year, > > my youngest is 13. He thinks it would be great and he always wanted > to > > get to know someone from another country. It would be a dream come > true! > > But will they turn me down because I'm not as physically active at > 42 > > with FM. Yet, I do more outside things than most moms on our > street, they > > don't know I wake up hurting every morning. My neighbor across the > street > > has tried for years to have a baby and wants to join me in adopting > so > > the girls would have peers to grow up with if we decide we can do > it. > > Then the money issue. I don't make much money teaching my classes > and > > hosting my website. I'd have to see about fund raising to cover the > > expenses etc. > > > > So am I crazy to follow a dream and do it or admit my limitations > and > > just help my neighbor? My husband's mother was 48 when he surprised > > them... > > > > please keep us in your prayers and let me know your suggestions! I'm > > afraid to tell my parents, they know I'm wonderful with kids but > know I > > struggle with flairs at times. > > > > Blessings, > > Marie > Take care, Irene Books may well be the only true magic Alice Hoffman Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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