Sleep problems

[Guest guest]

Allicia,

I think I understand where you are at. For years I have been so sleepy that

I can't read a book or watch tv. The minute I sit down I start to fall asleep.

Often I fall asleep at the computer while I am typing and I snap awake and see

that I have typed gibberish. Sometimes it takes me several minutes to write a

small email and then I have to get up and find something else to do. In order

to stay awake I have stayed on my feet never sitting down except of course to go

to the bathroom! But staying on my feet for 10-14 hours per day has contributed

to my constantly painful feet problems. I used to really enjoy reading, but I

can't do it anymore. The second my head hits the pillow I am out like a light.

The problem that I have is that I am constantly aware of my surroundings and

never feel like I am asleep. My family is insistant on watching tv til all

hours and no matter what room I try to lay down in it seems someone is watching

tv. My husband gets mad if I shut off the tv or ask that it be shut off. He

thinks I am being selfish even though I have tried to explain how hard it is for

me to sleep proper with the tv on. What happens to me is that I dream about

what's on tv, but in my dreams things get all messed up. Like the night that

Roy died I dreampt that it was someone else. I can't remember who

anymore, but I got up and told someone that this other person had died. See I

can't even tell the difference often times if I am awake or asleep. I will

dream conversations with my husband or children or other people and the next day

I have to think very hard to try and decide if the conversations were real or

not. Because I dream nearly all night every night I wake up feeling just

exhausted and like I really did all the things in my dreams! I have some dreams

that just come over and over and if I do wake up I just fall back to sleep and

dream the same dreams with a hundred minor variances. Often times in my dreams

I am completely aware that I am dreaming and I can manipulate the dreams and

make them go any which way I want. It's very strange.

The ironic thing is, that when I am awake late at night I can have a real

conversation with someone and the next day they will tell me all about it and I

won't remember. I had some very scary times when I was letting daycare children

out. Their mothers would come in the middle of the night and I would forget

that I let them out. A couple of times I had to call them in the middle of the

night freaked at not remembering when I let them go home. Their mothers would

tell me we stood there and had a conversations. I swear people I have never

taken a drink in my life! Fortunately these mothers knew that I was sleep

deprived and they trusted me. Sometimes my children or my husband would be up

late watching tv so I could ask them if I let so and so out.

My sleep disorder centers around getting up to go to the bathroom anywhere

from 2-10 times per night. On top of that I will have to change my daughter at

least once in the night. The cat will wake me up by stepping on my hair at

least twice. My husband will fling his leg on me waking me up at least 2-3

times. The television or some freaky dream will wake me up 1-5 times per night.

After years of answering the door I will wake up and still wonder if I have kids

to let out or if my older kids need checked on. I sleep with my 2 year old so I

don't have to worry over her, but I still do.

For many years I tried sleeping in another room on the couch. But my

husband always thinks I am mad at him and then our relationship gets all out of

whack. I am trying really hard not to do that though I have slept on the couch

a couple of times lately. I just wish my family knew how much I need real

sleep! The other night I took a sleeping pill. I still woke up a lot of times,

but I just felt horribly groggy when I needed to go to the bathroom and my mouth

was dry. The next day I felt even more tired and groggy, so what's the point?

I am pretty much convinced that these sleep issues have brought on my other

problems.

Funny thing is, I feel really good when I sleep. I love getting to the end

of the day so I have a legitimate excuse to lay down. I would sleep during the

day if I could, but my husband would also come unglued if I didn't get enough

done.

ttyl

Suzi

[Guest guest]

suzimcmullen@... wrote:

> For many years I tried sleeping in another room on the couch. But my

husband always thinks I am mad at him and then our relationship gets all out >

of whack.

Wow, talk about your hubby wanting his cake and eating it too! It

definitely sounds like you need to dump the tv so you can sleep. Have

you tried ear plugs? It's not like you can't hear anything, but the

level is greatly reduced. Or maybe, your hubby would be willing to use

headphones while he's watching and you're trying to sleep. It might

help if you can get someone to talk to him about how this is harming

you.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

suzimcmullen@... wrote:

> For many years I tried sleeping in another room on the couch. But my

husband always thinks I am mad at him and then our relationship gets all out >

of whack.

Wow, talk about your hubby wanting his cake and eating it too! It

definitely sounds like you need to dump the tv so you can sleep. Have

you tried ear plugs? It's not like you can't hear anything, but the

level is greatly reduced. Or maybe, your hubby would be willing to use

headphones while he's watching and you're trying to sleep. It might

help if you can get someone to talk to him about how this is harming

you.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

suzimcmullen@... wrote:

> For many years I tried sleeping in another room on the couch. But my

husband always thinks I am mad at him and then our relationship gets all out >

of whack.

Wow, talk about your hubby wanting his cake and eating it too! It

definitely sounds like you need to dump the tv so you can sleep. Have

you tried ear plugs? It's not like you can't hear anything, but the

level is greatly reduced. Or maybe, your hubby would be willing to use

headphones while he's watching and you're trying to sleep. It might

help if you can get someone to talk to him about how this is harming

you.

Darcy