Guest guest Posted September 9, 2002 Report Share Posted September 9, 2002 , I have felt this way soooo many times! My husband is so great all of the time, but every once in a while, he gets really down. We were dating only five months, when I first got sick. We've been together four - married three of those. So, he only knows the sick me for the most part. So, that says a lot about what kind of man he is - just to stick around. Sounds like yours is somewhat the same. I always aplogize for being sick - especially when I'm in the hospital or really sick. I just keep saying, " I'm sorry. " He just tells me to stop and that he loves me no matter how sick I am. I have to try and put myself in his shoes sometimes just to check myself. I can't imagine hearing the griping, moaning and groaning that he tolerates when I'm feeling bad (which seems to be quite a bit). Anyways, I sympathize with the day you're having, and I hate that you're depressed. The only way I usually get out of these slumps is to start thanking God for the life that I do have - without this life, I would never have met my wonderful husband, and I never would have had my two wonderful little angels!! Wishing you a much better day - and one without pain! in KY tuck9906 wrote:Hi All! I'm so depressed I guess I need to vent. Went to pain managemnet the first time Thursday, gave me new meds and they make me feel like crap. I was talking to my husband who has been so very supportive. Instead of my usual wonderful husband this morning he was real snippy and said he just wants his wife back. I guess I can't blame him, I want me back too! I'm so sick of feeling this way, of cheating my husband out of a semi-normal wife and of having a life. Does it ever get better? What do you do when you want to give up? thanks for letting me vent. P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2002 Report Share Posted September 9, 2002 , I have felt this way soooo many times! My husband is so great all of the time, but every once in a while, he gets really down. We were dating only five months, when I first got sick. We've been together four - married three of those. So, he only knows the sick me for the most part. So, that says a lot about what kind of man he is - just to stick around. Sounds like yours is somewhat the same. I always aplogize for being sick - especially when I'm in the hospital or really sick. I just keep saying, " I'm sorry. " He just tells me to stop and that he loves me no matter how sick I am. I have to try and put myself in his shoes sometimes just to check myself. I can't imagine hearing the griping, moaning and groaning that he tolerates when I'm feeling bad (which seems to be quite a bit). Anyways, I sympathize with the day you're having, and I hate that you're depressed. The only way I usually get out of these slumps is to start thanking God for the life that I do have - without this life, I would never have met my wonderful husband, and I never would have had my two wonderful little angels!! Wishing you a much better day - and one without pain! in KY tuck9906 wrote:Hi All! I'm so depressed I guess I need to vent. Went to pain managemnet the first time Thursday, gave me new meds and they make me feel like crap. I was talking to my husband who has been so very supportive. Instead of my usual wonderful husband this morning he was real snippy and said he just wants his wife back. I guess I can't blame him, I want me back too! I'm so sick of feeling this way, of cheating my husband out of a semi-normal wife and of having a life. Does it ever get better? What do you do when you want to give up? thanks for letting me vent. P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2002 Report Share Posted September 9, 2002 , I have felt this way soooo many times! My husband is so great all of the time, but every once in a while, he gets really down. We were dating only five months, when I first got sick. We've been together four - married three of those. So, he only knows the sick me for the most part. So, that says a lot about what kind of man he is - just to stick around. Sounds like yours is somewhat the same. I always aplogize for being sick - especially when I'm in the hospital or really sick. I just keep saying, " I'm sorry. " He just tells me to stop and that he loves me no matter how sick I am. I have to try and put myself in his shoes sometimes just to check myself. I can't imagine hearing the griping, moaning and groaning that he tolerates when I'm feeling bad (which seems to be quite a bit). Anyways, I sympathize with the day you're having, and I hate that you're depressed. The only way I usually get out of these slumps is to start thanking God for the life that I do have - without this life, I would never have met my wonderful husband, and I never would have had my two wonderful little angels!! Wishing you a much better day - and one without pain! in KY tuck9906 wrote:Hi All! I'm so depressed I guess I need to vent. Went to pain managemnet the first time Thursday, gave me new meds and they make me feel like crap. I was talking to my husband who has been so very supportive. Instead of my usual wonderful husband this morning he was real snippy and said he just wants his wife back. I guess I can't blame him, I want me back too! I'm so sick of feeling this way, of cheating my husband out of a semi-normal wife and of having a life. Does it ever get better? What do you do when you want to give up? thanks for letting me vent. P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 29, 2004 Report Share Posted August 29, 2004 You explained that so well ! That is so true! We must grieve for our old selves. I went through that when my lupus was dxed and I got real sick. I adjusted and cut my work hours, got meds and tried to get a handle on my anger. After my cancer made me so sick and I got Fibro and arthritis I had a real, real long grieving process! I still get depressed and angry but not as often. I too have spend many hours trying to avoid the bed (it was calling out to me) some days I hate to get up. Almost every night I hate to try to sleep, the pain gets worse and I toss and turn. From: Carey Sent: Thursday, July 29, 2004 9:30 AM To: LUPIES Subject: TO MEG AND LISA/ DEPRESSED , and Meg, I think we all go through this ......I refer to it as grieving for a lost loved one, " ..OUR OLD SELVES " we tend to go through the grieving process as if we have lost a loved one, and in a sense we have. I will go through all the different aspects....disbelief, anger, pain, depression, and then finally to a sort of Peace .....and in this state we are finally able to survive and go on even though some days are harder than others......You are going to find a few really good days to look back on . I also find it helpful to remember and cherish the times when I still had the " OLD ME " instead of grieving for them. I still have days like you describe......just spending the whole day yearning for bedtime when i can sleep and forget . Express yourself with over 8,000 FREE Email Smileys - click here! Get your FREE personalized email signature at My Mail Signature! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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