Re: been awhile..........

[Guest guest]

Hey Alison,

I'm new there (been about a week). I have Fibro and

costochondritis and IBS. They have put me on Elavil

and Ultracet for the pain. It is starting to work,

.

I know break ups can be soooo depressing. I have been

married 4 times. Twice to my third husband, which I

guess makes the saying " Third time is a charm. "

He has really been a life saver.

I am 32 years old with 3 children. Two boys (13 and

10) and one little girl (she'll be 6 in three days).

If you need anyone to talk to I am on line all day

Mond thru Friday at work and usually have time to

chat. afayem@....

a Faye

--- abbuttercup55 abbuttercup55@...> wrote:

> hello~ i'm finally back. i've been gone for a long

> time so i will

> introduce myself again to all those who may have

> forgotten or to the

> new members. my name is alison and i have

> CFS/FMS/arthritis/depression. i live in vermont and

> now am living

> with my parents. i broke up with my fiance about 2

> months ago, and

> it's been rough lately. i've been very depressed

> and in and out of

> the hospital. i was in about 7 weeks ago with

> kidney stones that i

> was unable to pass and had to have 2 surgeries to

> blow them up. then

> i was in the hospital again last week with a

> 'virus'. i think that

> they weren't sure what was wrong with me so that's

> what they called

> it. i was passing out for no reason and having hot

> spells and then

> chills and other things. each time i was in for 4

> days. i hate the

> hospital i've started counseling to try and help

> with the

> depression. i've only gone 3 times but i really

> like my counselor,

> so hopefully it'll help. he's trying to help me be

> strong and not

> call or see my ex. i get really lonely at night or

> sometimes during

> the day and break down and call him. i was talking

> to him everyday

> for awhile and even seeing him, so it wasn't a true

> break-up. i

> haven't talked to him since last thursday and it's

> really hard but

> i'm trying. i need support on that i'm so

> scared that i'll never

> find anyone else, even though i'm only 21. i'm

> going to try and

> start school again in the spring, only taking a

> class or 2. i am

> working right now, at a job i love. they're very

> good to me and

> understand when i need to take a nap. well, that's

> some of what's

> been happening i hope everyone is well and

> happy. talk to you

> all soon

> luv and hugs

> ali

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Ali~

I'm sorry that you've had several bad months due to being in the hospital and

the break up between you and your ex-boyfriend. I am glad that you are feeling

better physically and I do hope that you continue to get better.

A break up is hard to get through, but with support from your counselor,

family, friends, and other supporters you'll make it through. And in time you'll

meet someone.

I'm glad you are back and feel free to e-mail me. Sorry this is short, but I

have to go seperate my kids before they really hurt eachother. I really am ready

for school to start back up. Take care!

~

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[Guest guest]

> " hello~ i'm finally back. i've been gone for a long time so i will

> introduce myself again to all those who may have forgotten or to

the

> new members. my name is alison and i have

> CFS/FMS/arthritis/depression. i live in vermont and now am living

> with my parents. i broke up with my fiance about 2 months ago, and

> it's been rough lately. i've been very depressed and in and out of

> the hospital. "

Ali: I am only new to this forum but I've had FMS/MPS and Chronic

Pain for over 10 years. I wanted to reply to your message for two

reasons. I lost my marriage of 25 years, in part, due to my health

and the choices I made about how I dealt with it. I can only imagine

that at 21, losing your fiance, for whatever reason, is a difficult

situation to deal with on top of your medical conditions. There are

many wonderful men out there who see beyond illness and the

limitations of our conditions to the lovely people we are inside.

I've found one and I am sure, that if you just relax and let things

happen, you will too. Trust in yourself!

The second reason I wanted to reply was your mention of depression.

A depressive episode is not a thing I would wish on my worst enemy. I

was in one for over 2 years, not even knowing, at times, just how bad

I was. But with alot of family support, medication, a great

psychiatrist, time and patience, the episode is now over. I wanted

to congratulate you for seeking out a counsellor and to let you know

that although there may be many times when it all seems too much to

cope with, it will pass and you will be able to function

more " normally " in life, taste food, have " real " feeling replace the

numbness inside and see hope in the future.

I wish you luck and look forward to reading your posts in here from

now on...... Lamisa..