Guest guest Posted May 5, 2002 Report Share Posted May 5, 2002 I think you are approaching this very level headed and doing the right thing. Instead of staying at work and finding a doctor who could understand what I was going through I just stopped going to work. I have always been one who gives 110% at work and they just kept taking advantage of me even when I would tell them I could not keep the pace up that they were throwing my way. I was a cook at a very busy resturant and they took advantage of my past management skills and were leaving me short handed so they could save money on payroll not caring if they were killing me which was how I felt. When I would try to take a day off they would actually bully me. So I just didn't show up one day and now I am unable to collect unemployment. So again I think you are doing the right thing wish I had done it your way. --- vixen_luv VxnLuv@...> wrote: > Well I saw my doctor on wed and she did listen to me > and said that it > does sound like I have all the symptoms of CFS and > FMS. But that is > all she really said. I told her about my sleep > study and how bad my > stage 4 sleep is. She put me on Elavil to help with > my sleeping. I > think I am noticing a difference in how rested I > feel. So I have > hope about this drug helping me. My problem is I > work full time, I > am a Eligiblitly Interview for the state welfare > dept. (food stamps, > cash assistance and medical) this job is VERY > stressful, there are > many time deadlines and clients who don't understand > why they can't > have their benefits tomorrow and if you make a > mistake and it costs > the state money GOD FORBID! Not to mention office > politics. > > When I was at the doctors I told her I need time off > but I have been > sick so much that there is no way they would let me > take time off > with out a doctors note. The memory problems and > concentration > problems are making it very hard for me to do my > job. That just adds > more stress and I feel like I am going to lose it > soon with out some > time off and to just rest. I am so exhausted. > > The doctor at first didnt' want to give me time off > cuz she was > afraid I would stay home and sleep all day. I told > her maybe for the > first couple of days but I understand that I have to > make lifesyle > chagnes and my sleeping patterns and habits are a > major one. I am > willing to do what ever it takes to feel better. > > My parents are very supportive, my mom has FMS and > my dad does not > but he has a variety of other medical problems (the > joke in our > family is while my mom and I have every test come > out normal, my dad > is afraid to take another test for fear it will be > abnormal TOO!) > My best friend believes I don't feel well but she > has a hard time > with everything. She thinks I might get used to not > working and feel > so much better not working that I will never go back > or when I do > everything will start all over again because nothing > at work will > change. The thing is right now I am so tired that I > just feel I need > some time to rest, take the elavil let it help my > sleep, dothe mild > exercise and all the things that can help relieve > the symptoms. But > I just don't feel that I can do that without some > time off work. In > fact the thought of going back to work right now, > give me tremndous > anxiety, almost to the point of if i to I might have > an anxiety > attack. Now my doctor said if my problems were > mental and depression > she understood taking me off work but not just for > the fatigue. I > told her what I just said above and she took me off > the rest of the > week. I am supposed to go back tomorrow and bring > the med leave > papers from work (which my bosses still have not > gotten to me) cuz > she says she can't fill them out without me there. > > I guess my point to this extremly long post (thanks > for baring with > me) is from others who KNOW what the fatigue and the > cognitve fog is > like am I doing the right thing to take time off > work? Should I try > my lifestyple chagnings and so on and continue > working? Am I setting > my self up for familiar if I don't? I feel I need > to rest, and get > things improving before i can go back and deal with > the stress of my > job.my major concerns are the memory problems, > concentration and > irrability, I am making many mistakes at work that > I know I shoudl > not be making, I am forgetting things left and > right. > > Thanks, > Robin > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2002 Report Share Posted May 6, 2002 vixen_luv wrote: > The doctor at first didnt' want to give me time off cuz she was > afraid I would stay home and sleep all day. I told her maybe for the > first couple of days but I understand that I have to make lifesyle > chagnes and my sleeping patterns and habits are a major one. I am > willing to do what ever it takes to feel better. Will she support you with a part time work note? When I had major surgery a few years ago, I didn't have a doctor locally (the surgery was done out of state) to help support me about going back to work. I tried to go back way too early and had severe fatigue. I got my local doctor to write me a note for work. She said it was depression from the surgery which was fine (although I think it was just more surgery fatigue and less depression), but she did support me for several notes for half days, and then 3/4 days. See if your doctor will do a few days off full time, and then a few weeks of half days. She thinks I might get used to not working and feel > so much better not working that I will never go back or when I do > everything will start all over again because nothing at work will > change. This is not necessarily true. I ended up going back to work full time, and it wasn't until I put myself into a major flare that I ended up having to quit work. That was almost a year later. taking a break is just that, taking a break. > > I guess my point to this extremly long post (thanks for baring with > me) is from others who KNOW what the fatigue and the cognitve fog is > like am I doing the right thing to take time off work? Should I try > my lifestyple chagnings and so on and continue working? Am I setting > my self up for familiar if I don't? If your stress won't change, then maybe finding an easier job would be good in the long run, but that has nothing to do with now. If you are that down, taking a break will be good for you, and help you to judge whether you need to change things on down the line. There are plenty of people who take time off from work, get better and go back. Good luck. Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2002 Report Share Posted May 6, 2002 vixen_luv wrote: > The doctor at first didnt' want to give me time off cuz she was > afraid I would stay home and sleep all day. I told her maybe for the > first couple of days but I understand that I have to make lifesyle > chagnes and my sleeping patterns and habits are a major one. I am > willing to do what ever it takes to feel better. Will she support you with a part time work note? When I had major surgery a few years ago, I didn't have a doctor locally (the surgery was done out of state) to help support me about going back to work. I tried to go back way too early and had severe fatigue. I got my local doctor to write me a note for work. She said it was depression from the surgery which was fine (although I think it was just more surgery fatigue and less depression), but she did support me for several notes for half days, and then 3/4 days. See if your doctor will do a few days off full time, and then a few weeks of half days. She thinks I might get used to not working and feel > so much better not working that I will never go back or when I do > everything will start all over again because nothing at work will > change. This is not necessarily true. I ended up going back to work full time, and it wasn't until I put myself into a major flare that I ended up having to quit work. That was almost a year later. taking a break is just that, taking a break. > > I guess my point to this extremly long post (thanks for baring with > me) is from others who KNOW what the fatigue and the cognitve fog is > like am I doing the right thing to take time off work? Should I try > my lifestyple chagnings and so on and continue working? Am I setting > my self up for familiar if I don't? If your stress won't change, then maybe finding an easier job would be good in the long run, but that has nothing to do with now. If you are that down, taking a break will be good for you, and help you to judge whether you need to change things on down the line. There are plenty of people who take time off from work, get better and go back. Good luck. Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2002 Report Share Posted May 6, 2002 vixen_luv wrote: > The doctor at first didnt' want to give me time off cuz she was > afraid I would stay home and sleep all day. I told her maybe for the > first couple of days but I understand that I have to make lifesyle > chagnes and my sleeping patterns and habits are a major one. I am > willing to do what ever it takes to feel better. Will she support you with a part time work note? When I had major surgery a few years ago, I didn't have a doctor locally (the surgery was done out of state) to help support me about going back to work. I tried to go back way too early and had severe fatigue. I got my local doctor to write me a note for work. She said it was depression from the surgery which was fine (although I think it was just more surgery fatigue and less depression), but she did support me for several notes for half days, and then 3/4 days. See if your doctor will do a few days off full time, and then a few weeks of half days. She thinks I might get used to not working and feel > so much better not working that I will never go back or when I do > everything will start all over again because nothing at work will > change. This is not necessarily true. I ended up going back to work full time, and it wasn't until I put myself into a major flare that I ended up having to quit work. That was almost a year later. taking a break is just that, taking a break. > > I guess my point to this extremly long post (thanks for baring with > me) is from others who KNOW what the fatigue and the cognitve fog is > like am I doing the right thing to take time off work? Should I try > my lifestyple chagnings and so on and continue working? Am I setting > my self up for familiar if I don't? If your stress won't change, then maybe finding an easier job would be good in the long run, but that has nothing to do with now. If you are that down, taking a break will be good for you, and help you to judge whether you need to change things on down the line. There are plenty of people who take time off from work, get better and go back. Good luck. Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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