Guest guest Posted January 20, 2009 Report Share Posted January 20, 2009 I've been reading the posts about sending a deceased members posts on to family. My opinion is that what is said in this group, should stay in this group. For many people this is the one place they can go to ask those really hard questions, vent about a horrible day or bare their soul. I know that I haven't been active in the group for awhile, however I know that my psc is progressing, and when I'm willing to really face that then this group will be who I turn to. But, I wouldn't do that if I thought for a second that my posts would be turned over to my family should something happen to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 20, 2009 Report Share Posted January 20, 2009 > ... if there's something you [or > others] don't want people to find, your only true protection from that > would be not to post it. Actually, members can delete their own posting from the online archive (so can moderators). That is why message number are occasional not consecutive. Of course that doesn't delete it from any of the email inboxes it has been sent to or from any archives of the archive that may have been made. As far as collecting Colleen's messages and sending them to her family, I am against it. I think it does violate the trust of the group and is intrusive rather than comforting. I know that there are some pairs of PSCers and care givers - like Ken and Barb - but most of us are here without our opposite. In my case my wife and care giver knows very well that I am a member of this group, but has no interest in belonging herself. I'm sure that Jens was aware that Colleen was a member of this group also. If he wanted to see Colleen's contributions he could join and search them out. If we do anything I think it should be limited to a message of sympathy and that if he wishes to see Colleen's contributions to the group they are available in the archives. Tim R Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 20, 2009 Report Share Posted January 20, 2009 > ... if there's something you [or > others] don't want people to find, your only true protection from that > would be not to post it. Actually, members can delete their own posting from the online archive (so can moderators). That is why message number are occasional not consecutive. Of course that doesn't delete it from any of the email inboxes it has been sent to or from any archives of the archive that may have been made. As far as collecting Colleen's messages and sending them to her family, I am against it. I think it does violate the trust of the group and is intrusive rather than comforting. I know that there are some pairs of PSCers and care givers - like Ken and Barb - but most of us are here without our opposite. In my case my wife and care giver knows very well that I am a member of this group, but has no interest in belonging herself. I'm sure that Jens was aware that Colleen was a member of this group also. If he wanted to see Colleen's contributions he could join and search them out. If we do anything I think it should be limited to a message of sympathy and that if he wishes to see Colleen's contributions to the group they are available in the archives. Tim R Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 20, 2009 Report Share Posted January 20, 2009 ,I believe you are absolutely correct. These posts, as e-mails, could end up on CNN, so it's best to watch what we say. Although I know I've certainly written things already that I wouldn't want read on CNN.I don't know if my family would want the posts, but quite frankly I don't think they'd be interested. Marie To: From: peterf8@...Date: Tue, 20 Jan 2009 23:06:18 +0000Subject: Re: forwarding posts Hi While I agree with you that what is stated in this group should stay here, something nobody has really touched on is that there's nothing stopping other people from joining the group and looking up the old messages themselves. [Please correct me if I'm wrong on that one since I forget what all was involved with joining the group originally.] So my suggestion would always be that if there's something you [or others] don't want people to find, your only true protection from that would be not to post it. I realize this amounts to a certain amount of self-censorship, but sometimes, after I've written an entire response to someone's message here, I'll reread it a few times before I hit the "send" button. If it comes across sounding not so much as I intended, I'll hit "cancel" instead. I figure, if I'm uncomfortable with it now, I'll likely be even more so later. In my opinion, this type of a forum or Facebook or any other net-based discussion board is really only as secure as e-mail. And we all know how trustworthy that is ..... Windows Live™: Keep your life in sync. See how it works. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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