Re: husband with no compassion

August 7, 2002

Hi nne,

It broke my heart to read your letter. My ex once went to play GOLF in the

RAIN when I had the FLU and 2 kids under 3. I remember it today,

and it was 30 years ago! I didn't have fibro then, but the LACK OF

COMPASSION in my ex, because he didn't really love me , was evident.

I hope you can afford, through insurance or otherwise, to visit a therapist

who you can talk to about this. Then have your husband come to an appt.

with you, having the therapist help you discuss your issues

I did this with my present husband, when I was overwhelmed with guilt because

I was lying in bed while he was cooking dinner (he likes to cook).

Anyway, that visit helped to clear the air.

Also, print out any articles you can about fibro, chronic fatigue, etc.

Your husband sounds like he needs to see " Dr. Phil " for a

consciousness-raising!

Let me know if I can help you. I'm 56, just got SS Disability this year,

and my 2nd husband has been very supportive, although we don't have children

in the house. That makes a big difference.

ONE MORE TIME of uttering that " " and I would just LOSE IT!

Let him know that word is no longer acceptable AT ANY TIME!

A doctor at a walk-in clinic used that word on me, and I wrote him a letter

telling him how steamed I was. He wrote back, saying he was HARD OF

HEARING, and that he really didn't say it - yeah, right!

Please seek the help of a therapist before you lose your self esteem..

Colette, Delray Beach, FL

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