Re: Saying No (was What I gain from having Fibro)

[Guest guest]

It took me getting tinnitus and fibro to learn to say no. I would always

agree to do something that I was asked to do when I didn't want to but I

would do it anyhow.

Now I know my limitations, I know what I can do and what I can't. I say no

to a lot of things now and I don't worry as I used to do that it would make

that person upset with me.

If I am uncertain, I will say so and tell them that I will get back to them

by a certain time to let them know if I can go or do what they wanted me to

do.

Saying no gives me a lot more time for myself and my husband. I used to cook

chili in my cookoffs all summer. I don't any more. The heat gets to me and

it is not fun when you are miserable and just want to go home. I told my

friends at the beginning of summer that I would not be back cooking until

October and they accepted that and I did not have to tell them every weekend

that I was not going to cook.

I learned to say no but it was the hard way. But I learned.

Take care,

Irene

Books may well be the only true magic

Alice Hoffman