Re: Where do I start? Help.

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In a message dated 08/04/2002 11:13:28 PM US Eastern Standard Time,

marench@... writes:

> He has no dang

> clue how much I'm going through, I've tried to tell him, but it just

> doesn't register.

Oh dear sweetie...you are where I was a year ago. It is very stressful

dealing with this I know...we all know. My father and boyfriend was very

un-understanding (if you will..lol) For the most part...(guys don't take this

wrong) Men don't understand pain....they do not have to deal with it on a

basis or level that women do....granted that doesn't make it right for the

way he is treating you or for the mean things that he is saying.

I have an article somewhere in this big ole' favorites folder of mine...that

talks about helping your spouse understand your pain. I will look through it

and get it back to you ASAP...

You are also sooo correct what works for someone may not work for someone

else. This cruddy crud is deffinately challenging and frustrating. Maybe if I

could give you a little of my sleepiness and you could give me a little of

your awakeness we could get it evened out eventually....lol

If you need to talk about anything or want to even just send me a

joke...don't hesitate. I'm always here. I wish you clearer days and nights.

Lots of *gentle* hugzzz

Allicia

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 08/04/2002 11:13:28 PM US Eastern Standard Time,

marench@... writes:

> He has no dang

> clue how much I'm going through, I've tried to tell him, but it just

> doesn't register.

Oh dear sweetie...you are where I was a year ago. It is very stressful

dealing with this I know...we all know. My father and boyfriend was very

un-understanding (if you will..lol) For the most part...(guys don't take this

wrong) Men don't understand pain....they do not have to deal with it on a

basis or level that women do....granted that doesn't make it right for the

way he is treating you or for the mean things that he is saying.

I have an article somewhere in this big ole' favorites folder of mine...that

talks about helping your spouse understand your pain. I will look through it

and get it back to you ASAP...

You are also sooo correct what works for someone may not work for someone

else. This cruddy crud is deffinately challenging and frustrating. Maybe if I

could give you a little of my sleepiness and you could give me a little of

your awakeness we could get it evened out eventually....lol

If you need to talk about anything or want to even just send me a

joke...don't hesitate. I'm always here. I wish you clearer days and nights.

Lots of *gentle* hugzzz

Allicia

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Hi nne,

I read your e-mail and I was wondering if this may help. I recently visited this

website, they have letters written for family members to help them understand

our illness. I invite you to take a look for yourself. Maybe it will help.

www.fibrohugs.com

Hang in there, I know it's hard. I have little ones too. It gets easier with

time. Have you tried counseling? It's one way to receive the coping skills you

need. I've done that and it really helps. You just need to find what works for

you. Pray hard. I will say one for you too.

Take care,