Guest guest Posted July 15, 2002 Report Share Posted July 15, 2002 Hi Irene, Since I've been on the list, I've seen you get blasted a couple of times and have to admit I NEVER understood why. I've always interpreted your replies as being kindhearted and helpful. You're also very open and honest in sharing yourself and I think that's a real gift to people. So I want to reassure you that I was not thinking specifically of you when I wrote that some people had more abrupt styles than others. I really was just talking generalities. If I caused you to relive any unpleasant times, I am really sorry because I didn't think you deserved it the first time around. Concise replies are a blessing and I wish I had the gift. Lots of list members are able to keep it short (unlike me). I could kick myself for not wording it differently so you didn't feel singled out. I guess it is possible to blow it with too many words as well as too few! Margaret >Margaret writes, > >> Also, I haven't seen anyone on this list be mean spirited or >> deliberately try to hurt someone else. Sometimes replies seem curt >> and abrupt, and without the smiles and body language, to know the >> intent is friendly, it's possible to interpret the reply as being >> hostile or patronizing. Usually it's just someone's >> style...Sometimes someone is saving words because it hurts to type. >> Almost always, when the curtness is pointed out, the person who >> replied is astonished and apologetic. > > >I am sorry to say this sounds an awful lot like me. I do have a tendency to >be abrupt or curt in answering some emails. I do not mean any harm and I am >truly sorry if I have ever hurt anybody. > >Missy told me that I worry to much and I am afraid that I do worry that have >said something that will be interpreted the wrong way. It is just my way. >> >> > > >Take care, >Irene > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2002 Report Share Posted July 15, 2002 Hi Irene, Since I've been on the list, I've seen you get blasted a couple of times and have to admit I NEVER understood why. I've always interpreted your replies as being kindhearted and helpful. You're also very open and honest in sharing yourself and I think that's a real gift to people. So I want to reassure you that I was not thinking specifically of you when I wrote that some people had more abrupt styles than others. I really was just talking generalities. If I caused you to relive any unpleasant times, I am really sorry because I didn't think you deserved it the first time around. Concise replies are a blessing and I wish I had the gift. Lots of list members are able to keep it short (unlike me). I could kick myself for not wording it differently so you didn't feel singled out. I guess it is possible to blow it with too many words as well as too few! Margaret >Margaret writes, > >> Also, I haven't seen anyone on this list be mean spirited or >> deliberately try to hurt someone else. Sometimes replies seem curt >> and abrupt, and without the smiles and body language, to know the >> intent is friendly, it's possible to interpret the reply as being >> hostile or patronizing. Usually it's just someone's >> style...Sometimes someone is saving words because it hurts to type. >> Almost always, when the curtness is pointed out, the person who >> replied is astonished and apologetic. > > >I am sorry to say this sounds an awful lot like me. I do have a tendency to >be abrupt or curt in answering some emails. I do not mean any harm and I am >truly sorry if I have ever hurt anybody. > >Missy told me that I worry to much and I am afraid that I do worry that have >said something that will be interpreted the wrong way. It is just my way. >> >> > > >Take care, >Irene > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2002 Report Share Posted July 15, 2002 ---I am an " abrupt " person too. I work, I'm a student, a single mother/grandmother, but I would DIE without my online fibro support. I keep it short so I CAN reply. luv ya's - Terri In @y..., Margaret Dienelt wrote: > Hi Irene, > > Since I've been on the list, I've seen you get blasted a couple of > times and have to admit I NEVER understood why. I've always > interpreted your replies as being kindhearted and helpful. You're > also very open and honest in sharing yourself and I think that's a > real gift to people. So I want to reassure you that I was not > thinking specifically of you when I wrote that some people had more > abrupt styles than others. I really was just talking generalities. > > If I caused you to relive any unpleasant times, I am really sorry > because I didn't think you deserved it the first time around. > Concise replies are a blessing and I wish I had the gift. Lots of > list members are able to keep it short (unlike me). > > I could kick myself for not wording it differently so you didn't feel > singled out. I guess it is possible to blow it with too many words > as well as too few! > > Margaret > > > > > > > > >Margaret writes, > > > >> Also, I haven't seen anyone on this list be mean spirited or > >> deliberately try to hurt someone else. Sometimes replies seem curt > >> and abrupt, and without the smiles and body language, to know the > >> intent is friendly, it's possible to interpret the reply as being > >> hostile or patronizing. Usually it's just someone's > >> style...Sometimes someone is saving words because it hurts to type. > >> Almost always, when the curtness is pointed out, the person who > >> replied is astonished and apologetic. > > > > > >I am sorry to say this sounds an awful lot like me. I do have a tendency to > >be abrupt or curt in answering some emails. I do not mean any harm and I am > >truly sorry if I have ever hurt anybody. > > > >Missy told me that I worry to much and I am afraid that I do worry that have > >said something that will be interpreted the wrong way. It is just my way. > >> > >> > > > > > >Take care, > >Irene > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2002 Report Share Posted July 16, 2002 Margaret, don't think anymore about it. It is not a problem. Don't sweat the small stuff. Right now, I have so many problems that this comes way down on the list. > > If I caused you to relive any unpleasant times, I am really sorry > because I didn't think you deserved it the first time around. > Concise replies are a blessing and I wish I had the gift. Lots of > list members are able to keep it short (unlike me). > > I could kick myself for not wording it differently so you didn't feel > singled out. I guess it is possible to blow it with too many words > as well as too few! > Take care, Irene Books may well be the only true magic Alice Hoffman Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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