Re: Apology to Irene

[Guest guest]

Hi Irene,

Since I've been on the list, I've seen you get blasted a couple of

times and have to admit I NEVER understood why. I've always

interpreted your replies as being kindhearted and helpful. You're

also very open and honest in sharing yourself and I think that's a

real gift to people. So I want to reassure you that I was not

thinking specifically of you when I wrote that some people had more

abrupt styles than others. I really was just talking generalities.

If I caused you to relive any unpleasant times, I am really sorry

because I didn't think you deserved it the first time around.

Concise replies are a blessing and I wish I had the gift. Lots of

list members are able to keep it short (unlike me).

I could kick myself for not wording it differently so you didn't feel

singled out. I guess it is possible to blow it with too many words

as well as too few!

Margaret

>Margaret writes,

>

>> Also, I haven't seen anyone on this list be mean spirited or

>> deliberately try to hurt someone else. Sometimes replies seem curt

>> and abrupt, and without the smiles and body language, to know the

>> intent is friendly, it's possible to interpret the reply as being

>> hostile or patronizing. Usually it's just someone's

>> style...Sometimes someone is saving words because it hurts to type.

>> Almost always, when the curtness is pointed out, the person who

>> replied is astonished and apologetic.

>

>

>I am sorry to say this sounds an awful lot like me. I do have a tendency to

>be abrupt or curt in answering some emails. I do not mean any harm and I am

>truly sorry if I have ever hurt anybody.

>

>Missy told me that I worry to much and I am afraid that I do worry that have

>said something that will be interpreted the wrong way. It is just my way.

>>

>>

>

>

>Take care,

>Irene

>

[Guest guest]

---I am an " abrupt " person too. I work, I'm a student, a single

mother/grandmother, but I would DIE without my online fibro support.

I keep it short so I CAN reply. luv ya's - Terri

In @y..., Margaret Dienelt wrote:

> Hi Irene,

>

> Since I've been on the list, I've seen you get blasted a couple of

> times and have to admit I NEVER understood why. I've always

> interpreted your replies as being kindhearted and helpful. You're

> also very open and honest in sharing yourself and I think that's a

> real gift to people. So I want to reassure you that I was not

> thinking specifically of you when I wrote that some people had more

> abrupt styles than others. I really was just talking generalities.

>

> If I caused you to relive any unpleasant times, I am really sorry

> because I didn't think you deserved it the first time around.

> Concise replies are a blessing and I wish I had the gift. Lots of

> list members are able to keep it short (unlike me).

>

> I could kick myself for not wording it differently so you didn't

feel

> singled out. I guess it is possible to blow it with too many words

> as well as too few!

>

> Margaret

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> >Margaret writes,

> >

> >> Also, I haven't seen anyone on this list be mean spirited or

> >> deliberately try to hurt someone else. Sometimes replies seem

curt

> >> and abrupt, and without the smiles and body language, to know

the

> >> intent is friendly, it's possible to interpret the reply as

being

> >> hostile or patronizing. Usually it's just someone's

> >> style...Sometimes someone is saving words because it hurts to

type.

> >> Almost always, when the curtness is pointed out, the person who

> >> replied is astonished and apologetic.

> >

> >

> >I am sorry to say this sounds an awful lot like me. I do have a

tendency to

> >be abrupt or curt in answering some emails. I do not mean any

harm and I am

> >truly sorry if I have ever hurt anybody.

> >

> >Missy told me that I worry to much and I am afraid that I do worry

that have

> >said something that will be interpreted the wrong way. It is just

my way.

> >>

> >>

> >

> >

> >Take care,

> >Irene

> >

>

>