New member ... dating and CFS

[Guest guest]

Hi everyone,

I was diagnosed in 1986 back when CFS was Yuppie flu and all

imaginary, in fact only middle aged white women who were depressed

got it, I'm a black man and was in my 30's and very active back then.

The worst possible aspect of this illness is it's name which most

people regard as laziness, i.e., fatigue. Afterall everybody feels

tired, so what the hell is wrong with me right? The other issue is

being a man and for that matter a black man, social stigmas don't

allow for these anomalies.

After my ex-wife decided this was all psycho-somatic she left calling

me " a disappointment as a husband a father and a provider " , a real

kick in the head for a person who has constant headaches to start

with. I stopped all dating for years, no way was I going to subject

myself to being someone elses disappointment. All these years later

there still have been few relationships, mostly out of choice but

also out of fear that no one would ever want me this way. OK, so

maybe I'm slow to learn ... but how about looking for a partner who

deals with the same thing I do huh? I can't hang out with aerobics

chicks from the gym like I used to, so now it's time for a slow

dance. I'm sure hoping to make a few friends here who can be totally

open and honest, we can boost each other's spirits and cry the blues

in our tonics. I put my picture in the photos section too so you can

see who I am, not too hard to look at for 50 and with a case of the

" you don't look sick " illness.

Peace, Love & Wellness,

Reggie