Re: WHERE ARE YOU??

[Guest guest]

Hi Genz,

I am fairly new to the list, but I sense that a lot of people love and care

about you. You will be hurting yourself and many others by leaving because

of " one person, " as you put it. This might not work for you, but maybe you

could just skip over the posts from that person. Everyone is different and

since you can't change them, you can always change you--change the way you

react to them by not letting them assume so much importance. Feel free to

tell me to go fly a kite, but I don't even know you, yet clearly feel a great

deal of warmth beaming from your posts. We pre-ops (and moms of pre-ops)

need all the warm beams we can get!!!!!

Regards,

Debbie in IL

a message dated 6/18/00 5:51:03 PM Pacific Daylight Time,

smootgen@... writes:

<< Hi Marie,

I'm here. I'm very disturbed by all the negative comments that have

been made about the very surgery that is saving my life. I don't understand

why anyone is allowed to compromise the integrity of this list just because

they are hormonal. I am also going through a hormonal change but I have been

able to contain myself. Irrational behavior has a tendency to wipe out a

person's credibility....no matter how knowledgeable they are. In my opinion

that is what I have witnessed on this list. It's really sad. At first I read

these unbelievable posts and just laughed to myself because they were so

ludicrous. Then it got to the point that it was no longer funny. I feel as

if I have endured an emotional beating by someone that I used to respect. I

choose not to inflict any undue pain and anguish upon this list when my

hormones/cortisol are on a rollercoaster ride. Foolish me, I thought my

fellow MGBers would have the same courtesy. I look to this list to be an

uplifting positive aspect of my surgery. I feel it has been abused and I am

sorry that one person has assumed it's ok to to inflict such behavior on the

other members of this list. I have always tried to be kind and supportive

for everyone here but I feel that irrational behavior should be tolerated

for only so long.

One part of me says that I need this list very much but another part

of me says I don't need the negative attitude and irrational behavior of

someone that doesn't care what they say and how it affects others. Sorry

Dr.R, right now it hurts too much to look at things sideways or upside down

no matter how true they are. At this point of my MGB journey

I need positive reinforcement from my friends on this list not an irrational

tiraid every other time I look at my e-mail. I feel we all have something of

value to contribute..maybe I'm wrong.

Best Wishes,

Genz >>