Guest guest Posted June 22, 2000 Report Share Posted June 22, 2000 Dear CJ - Did it ever occur to you that you may be less shy as the pounds shed??? As you gain confidence as every pound goes you will become more and more self assured and will blossom into a new, beautiful, secure, woman!!! Look out world - here comes CJ!!! Joanne in Ohio cw021863@... wrote: > Hello Everyone! > > I have been approved and am too excited about my upcoming surgery. One of my > problems is that I am " very shy " and am concerned about how to respond to > people after I lose my weight. So far, the only persons who know about it > are my husband, teen son, best friend, and the secretary who bugged me for > weeks to go with her to weight watchers. I am dealing with my best friend > because she thinks I am going to die if I have the surgery (I told her I > would die if I didn't). > > I know that there will be tons of questions like how much have you lost and > how did you lose it. Has anyone else faced this and if so, how did you > handle it? > > Thanks > > CJ > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > SALESFORCE.COM MAKES SOFTWARE OBSOLETE > Secure, online sales force automation with 5 users FREE for 1 year! > http://click.egroups.com/1/2658/3/_/453517/_/961647850/ > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2000 Report Share Posted June 22, 2000 Dear CJ - Did it ever occur to you that you may be less shy as the pounds shed??? As you gain confidence as every pound goes you will become more and more self assured and will blossom into a new, beautiful, secure, woman!!! Look out world - here comes CJ!!! Joanne in Ohio cw021863@... wrote: > Hello Everyone! > > I have been approved and am too excited about my upcoming surgery. One of my > problems is that I am " very shy " and am concerned about how to respond to > people after I lose my weight. So far, the only persons who know about it > are my husband, teen son, best friend, and the secretary who bugged me for > weeks to go with her to weight watchers. I am dealing with my best friend > because she thinks I am going to die if I have the surgery (I told her I > would die if I didn't). > > I know that there will be tons of questions like how much have you lost and > how did you lose it. Has anyone else faced this and if so, how did you > handle it? > > Thanks > > CJ > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > SALESFORCE.COM MAKES SOFTWARE OBSOLETE > Secure, online sales force automation with 5 users FREE for 1 year! > http://click.egroups.com/1/2658/3/_/453517/_/961647850/ > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2000 Report Share Posted June 22, 2000 CJ, I am a nurse and work in long-term care. I told a few people at work that I was working on having the MGB. I don't think they really believed I would do it. I am a shy person also, but have worked there for 19 years, so I feel very comfortable with most of the employees. I spoke about having the mamogram, physical and pap test. They knew I had not had these done in a long time and HATE to have to go to the doctor. Everything came together so fast for me (only about a month from seeing my PCP to having surgery) that most people didn't know anything. When they found out I was gone for 2 weeks they dreamed up horrible ideas of what had happened. Some would catch a little snippet and make up things. There was a rumor that they found something on my pap or mamogram that was so bad that I had to go to N. C. to have it taken care of. What really happened was I found out late Thurs before Memorial weekend that I needed to be at clinic on Tues. I only worked one more day and needed to get a lot done so I only told a few that I had a date. These people did not feel that it was their business to tell my business. When I got back I went to work the next day to visit and tell my coworkers what I had done. Everyone was supportive and I let them know it was okay to ask questions. I didn't want them to think I was dying of some horrible disease when they saw me losing weight at a rapid rate. I tell people that I am happy with my decision, I am not embarrassed or ashamed that I had this surgery. I am happy to educate anyone who needs this or knows of someone that could use this. How you handle this will depend on your personality and how free you want to be with personal information. This is just my way of dealing with it. Best of luck. Darlene cw021863@... wrote: > Hello Everyone! > > I have been approved and am too excited about my upcoming surgery. One of my > problems is that I am " very shy " and am concerned about how to respond to > people after I lose my weight. So far, the only persons who know about it > are my husband, teen son, best friend, and the secretary who bugged me for > weeks to go with her to weight watchers. I am dealing with my best friend > because she thinks I am going to die if I have the surgery (I told her I > would die if I didn't). > > I know that there will be tons of questions like how much have you lost and > how did you lose it. Has anyone else faced this and if so, how did you > handle it? > > Thanks > > CJ > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > SALESFORCE.COM MAKES SOFTWARE OBSOLETE > Secure, online sales force automation with 5 users FREE for 1 year! > http://click.egroups.com/1/2658/3/_/453517/_/961647850/ > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2000 Report Share Posted June 23, 2000 I normally only observe the posts. I don't usually wade into the discussions. Since I'm new I figure I can get more info than I can share info because I really don't know much yet. HOWEVER - regarding the question as to whether to tell others I am going to have the surgery or not to tell them. Secrets give others the power over your life. I choose not to give anyone that power. I know I have been ridiculed for my weight. What difference does it make if I'm ridiculed over how I choose to solve my problem? I have a young daughter that we had to forcibly enroll in long-term drug treatment. I was very, very upset over the situation. However, I was not going to allow others to whisper and spread rumors about us and the situation. I handled the matter head on. I was very public with the situation and answered any and all questions. By the way I have an EXTREMELY public position (was the chairman of our school board - served for over ll years). You would be shocked at the lack of rumors and whispers BECAUSE I faced it head on. We all face such shame and ridicule. I've finally found something that I think will help me PERMANENTLY in this area and I refuse to allow little people (gossipers) to keep me from finding peace. I hope this helps someone as you all have helped me TREMENDOUSLY. Janice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2000 Report Share Posted June 23, 2000 I normally only observe the posts. I don't usually wade into the discussions. Since I'm new I figure I can get more info than I can share info because I really don't know much yet. HOWEVER - regarding the question as to whether to tell others I am going to have the surgery or not to tell them. Secrets give others the power over your life. I choose not to give anyone that power. I know I have been ridiculed for my weight. What difference does it make if I'm ridiculed over how I choose to solve my problem? I have a young daughter that we had to forcibly enroll in long-term drug treatment. I was very, very upset over the situation. However, I was not going to allow others to whisper and spread rumors about us and the situation. I handled the matter head on. I was very public with the situation and answered any and all questions. By the way I have an EXTREMELY public position (was the chairman of our school board - served for over ll years). You would be shocked at the lack of rumors and whispers BECAUSE I faced it head on. We all face such shame and ridicule. I've finally found something that I think will help me PERMANENTLY in this area and I refuse to allow little people (gossipers) to keep me from finding peace. I hope this helps someone as you all have helped me TREMENDOUSLY. Janice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2000 Report Share Posted June 23, 2000 I normally only observe the posts. I don't usually wade into the discussions. Since I'm new I figure I can get more info than I can share info because I really don't know much yet. HOWEVER - regarding the question as to whether to tell others I am going to have the surgery or not to tell them. Secrets give others the power over your life. I choose not to give anyone that power. I know I have been ridiculed for my weight. What difference does it make if I'm ridiculed over how I choose to solve my problem? I have a young daughter that we had to forcibly enroll in long-term drug treatment. I was very, very upset over the situation. However, I was not going to allow others to whisper and spread rumors about us and the situation. I handled the matter head on. I was very public with the situation and answered any and all questions. By the way I have an EXTREMELY public position (was the chairman of our school board - served for over ll years). You would be shocked at the lack of rumors and whispers BECAUSE I faced it head on. We all face such shame and ridicule. I've finally found something that I think will help me PERMANENTLY in this area and I refuse to allow little people (gossipers) to keep me from finding peace. I hope this helps someone as you all have helped me TREMENDOUSLY. Janice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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