Guest guest Posted June 22, 2000 Report Share Posted June 22, 2000 Marie, I agree with you on this. Marie and I had surgery the same day. I used to buy my lunch at work. Now I bought a lunch bag and I was being kidded about having such a lg bag when all I carry is prepackaged applesauce or jello. I opened my bag and said this is why it is so large. It contains my vitamins, citrucel, Tums, Actigall and Carafate. I said it isn't really a luch bag it is really my medicine cabinet. There is a lot of juggling of meds. They have to be taken at different times and they were kidding me about being so disciplined about taking my meds and that I always seemed to be taking something. Instead of a candy jar in my office I gave the candy away and put Tums in the container. They look pretty and stay handy. Darlene furball2u@... wrote: > > > > > > Hello Everyone! > > > > > > I have been approved and am too excited about my upcoming > surgery. One of > > my > > > problems is that I am " very shy " and am concerned about how to > respond to > > > people after I lose my weight. So far, the only persons who > know about it > > > are my husband, teen son, best friend, and the secretary who > bugged me for > > > weeks to go with her to weight watchers. I am dealing with my > best friend > > > because she thinks I am going to die if I have the surgery (I > told her I > > > would die if I didn't). > > > >> > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2000 Report Share Posted June 22, 2000 Marie, I agree with you on this. Marie and I had surgery the same day. I used to buy my lunch at work. Now I bought a lunch bag and I was being kidded about having such a lg bag when all I carry is prepackaged applesauce or jello. I opened my bag and said this is why it is so large. It contains my vitamins, citrucel, Tums, Actigall and Carafate. I said it isn't really a luch bag it is really my medicine cabinet. There is a lot of juggling of meds. They have to be taken at different times and they were kidding me about being so disciplined about taking my meds and that I always seemed to be taking something. Instead of a candy jar in my office I gave the candy away and put Tums in the container. They look pretty and stay handy. Darlene furball2u@... wrote: > > > > > > Hello Everyone! > > > > > > I have been approved and am too excited about my upcoming > surgery. One of > > my > > > problems is that I am " very shy " and am concerned about how to > respond to > > > people after I lose my weight. So far, the only persons who > know about it > > > are my husband, teen son, best friend, and the secretary who > bugged me for > > > weeks to go with her to weight watchers. I am dealing with my > best friend > > > because she thinks I am going to die if I have the surgery (I > told her I > > > would die if I didn't). > > > >> > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2000 Report Share Posted June 22, 2000 Marie, I agree with you on this. Marie and I had surgery the same day. I used to buy my lunch at work. Now I bought a lunch bag and I was being kidded about having such a lg bag when all I carry is prepackaged applesauce or jello. I opened my bag and said this is why it is so large. It contains my vitamins, citrucel, Tums, Actigall and Carafate. I said it isn't really a luch bag it is really my medicine cabinet. There is a lot of juggling of meds. They have to be taken at different times and they were kidding me about being so disciplined about taking my meds and that I always seemed to be taking something. Instead of a candy jar in my office I gave the candy away and put Tums in the container. They look pretty and stay handy. Darlene furball2u@... wrote: > > > > > > Hello Everyone! > > > > > > I have been approved and am too excited about my upcoming > surgery. One of > > my > > > problems is that I am " very shy " and am concerned about how to > respond to > > > people after I lose my weight. So far, the only persons who > know about it > > > are my husband, teen son, best friend, and the secretary who > bugged me for > > > weeks to go with her to weight watchers. I am dealing with my > best friend > > > because she thinks I am going to die if I have the surgery (I > told her I > > > would die if I didn't). > > > >> > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2000 Report Share Posted June 22, 2000 Debbie. I can understand how your daughter feels. I too do not want to tell many people. Somehow, even though I know differently, I still feel like people think that being fat is a failing and that we can do something about it IF we really want too - so, if we have to have surgery we were weak and couldn't do it any other way. Well, the part about not being able to do it any other way is true but we are NOT weak - we probably all know more about diets and dieting than any thin person does and most doctors. It is not a personal failing. I think it would be OK for her to tell family but I would not tell the kids at school -- let them admire her for the loss not the procedure!!!! Joanne in Ohio DebLaMan@... wrote: > Hi Darlene, > An interesting perspective. Maybe someone can help me with this. My > daughter, doesn't want anyone to know about the surgery (at 16 I guess > maybe this is normal). I, on the other hand, feel that honesty is the best > policy, esp with my large family (2 moms and dads, 8 bros and sisters plus > all the attached inlaws--on my side alone!) As I will be (hopefully) having > the surgery, too, I feel weird not telling my family --we are very close. > They will really worry when they see the wt melting off! > > Regards, > Debbie in IL > Cigna approved on 3rd appeal for daughter (BMI 45) > Counting on Cigna for Debbie (BMI 40)--online form submitted 6/22 > In a message dated 6/22/00 4:56:54 PM Pacific Daylight Time, > @... writes: > > << CJ, > I am a nurse and work in long-term care. I told a few people at work that I > was > working on having the MGB. I don't think they really believed I would do it. > I > am a shy person also, but have worked there for 19 years, so I feel very > comfortable with most of the employees. I spoke about having the mamogram, > physical and pap test. They knew I had not had these done in a long time and > HATE to have to go to the doctor. Everything came together so fast for me > (only > about a month from seeing my PCP to having surgery) that most people didn't > know > anything. When they found out I was gone for 2 weeks they dreamed up > horrible > ideas of what had happened. Some would catch a little snippet and make up > things. There was a rumor that they found something on my pap or mamogram > that > was so bad that I had to go to N. C. to have it taken care of. What really > happened was I found out late Thurs before Memorial weekend that I needed to > be > at clinic on Tues. I only worked one more day and needed to get a lot done > so I > only told a few that I had a date. These people did not feel that it was > their > business to tell my business. When I got back I went to work the next day to > visit and tell my coworkers what I had done. Everyone was supportive and I > let > them know it was okay to ask questions. I didn't want them to think I was > dying > of some horrible disease when they saw me losing weight at a rapid rate. I > tell > people that I am happy with my decision, I am not embarrassed or ashamed > that I > had this surgery. I am happy to educate anyone who needs this or knows of > someone that could use this. How you handle this will depend on your > personality > and how free you want to be with personal information. This is just my way > of > dealing with it. Best of luck. > Darlene > > > cw021863@... wrote: > > > Hello Everyone! > > > > I have been approved and am too excited about my upcoming surgery. One of > my > > problems is that I am " very shy " and am concerned about how to respond to > > people after I lose my weight. So far, the only persons who know about it > > are my husband, teen son, best friend, and the secretary who bugged me for > > weeks to go with her to weight watchers. I am dealing with my best friend > > because she thinks I am going to die if I have the surgery (I told her I > > would die if I didn't). > > >> > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > STEALS AND DEALS! Cheapest prices on airfare, new cars, insurance, maids, > contractors, collectibles, more. Get exactly what you want at the lowest > price. New FREE service! > http://click.egroups.com/1/5746/3/_/453517/_/961719587/ > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2000 Report Share Posted June 22, 2000 Debbie. I can understand how your daughter feels. I too do not want to tell many people. Somehow, even though I know differently, I still feel like people think that being fat is a failing and that we can do something about it IF we really want too - so, if we have to have surgery we were weak and couldn't do it any other way. Well, the part about not being able to do it any other way is true but we are NOT weak - we probably all know more about diets and dieting than any thin person does and most doctors. It is not a personal failing. I think it would be OK for her to tell family but I would not tell the kids at school -- let them admire her for the loss not the procedure!!!! Joanne in Ohio DebLaMan@... wrote: > Hi Darlene, > An interesting perspective. Maybe someone can help me with this. My > daughter, doesn't want anyone to know about the surgery (at 16 I guess > maybe this is normal). I, on the other hand, feel that honesty is the best > policy, esp with my large family (2 moms and dads, 8 bros and sisters plus > all the attached inlaws--on my side alone!) As I will be (hopefully) having > the surgery, too, I feel weird not telling my family --we are very close. > They will really worry when they see the wt melting off! > > Regards, > Debbie in IL > Cigna approved on 3rd appeal for daughter (BMI 45) > Counting on Cigna for Debbie (BMI 40)--online form submitted 6/22 > In a message dated 6/22/00 4:56:54 PM Pacific Daylight Time, > @... writes: > > << CJ, > I am a nurse and work in long-term care. I told a few people at work that I > was > working on having the MGB. I don't think they really believed I would do it. > I > am a shy person also, but have worked there for 19 years, so I feel very > comfortable with most of the employees. I spoke about having the mamogram, > physical and pap test. They knew I had not had these done in a long time and > HATE to have to go to the doctor. Everything came together so fast for me > (only > about a month from seeing my PCP to having surgery) that most people didn't > know > anything. When they found out I was gone for 2 weeks they dreamed up > horrible > ideas of what had happened. Some would catch a little snippet and make up > things. There was a rumor that they found something on my pap or mamogram > that > was so bad that I had to go to N. C. to have it taken care of. What really > happened was I found out late Thurs before Memorial weekend that I needed to > be > at clinic on Tues. I only worked one more day and needed to get a lot done > so I > only told a few that I had a date. These people did not feel that it was > their > business to tell my business. When I got back I went to work the next day to > visit and tell my coworkers what I had done. Everyone was supportive and I > let > them know it was okay to ask questions. I didn't want them to think I was > dying > of some horrible disease when they saw me losing weight at a rapid rate. I > tell > people that I am happy with my decision, I am not embarrassed or ashamed > that I > had this surgery. I am happy to educate anyone who needs this or knows of > someone that could use this. How you handle this will depend on your > personality > and how free you want to be with personal information. This is just my way > of > dealing with it. Best of luck. > Darlene > > > cw021863@... wrote: > > > Hello Everyone! > > > > I have been approved and am too excited about my upcoming surgery. One of > my > > problems is that I am " very shy " and am concerned about how to respond to > > people after I lose my weight. So far, the only persons who know about it > > are my husband, teen son, best friend, and the secretary who bugged me for > > weeks to go with her to weight watchers. I am dealing with my best friend > > because she thinks I am going to die if I have the surgery (I told her I > > would die if I didn't). > > >> > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > STEALS AND DEALS! Cheapest prices on airfare, new cars, insurance, maids, > contractors, collectibles, more. Get exactly what you want at the lowest > price. New FREE service! > http://click.egroups.com/1/5746/3/_/453517/_/961719587/ > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2000 Report Share Posted June 22, 2000 Hi Guys: I told anyone and everyone who would listen. My daughter Drema plans to have the surgery and is not telling anyone. Doesn't want to put up with being judged. She's just going to say that she's eating healthy and getting lots of exercise. It's really a very personal decision and one that each person has to make for themselves. At 16, I suspect will eventually let the cat out of the bag to a few chosen people. This weekend we went to our campground. We have been going there for 6 years now and we have neighbors who I suspect would be very very judgemental. That's just how is. Instead he hugged me and told me he was proud of me and that it took a lot of courage to go through with it! Really surprised me. You never know what someone's reaction will be! Flo in land Florence Ballengee Hollywood, land florence@... Download NeoPlanet at http://www.neoplanet.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2000 Report Share Posted June 22, 2000 Hi Guys: I told anyone and everyone who would listen. My daughter Drema plans to have the surgery and is not telling anyone. Doesn't want to put up with being judged. She's just going to say that she's eating healthy and getting lots of exercise. It's really a very personal decision and one that each person has to make for themselves. At 16, I suspect will eventually let the cat out of the bag to a few chosen people. This weekend we went to our campground. We have been going there for 6 years now and we have neighbors who I suspect would be very very judgemental. That's just how is. Instead he hugged me and told me he was proud of me and that it took a lot of courage to go through with it! Really surprised me. You never know what someone's reaction will be! Flo in land Florence Ballengee Hollywood, land florence@... Download NeoPlanet at http://www.neoplanet.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2000 Report Share Posted June 22, 2000 Hi Guys: I told anyone and everyone who would listen. My daughter Drema plans to have the surgery and is not telling anyone. Doesn't want to put up with being judged. She's just going to say that she's eating healthy and getting lots of exercise. It's really a very personal decision and one that each person has to make for themselves. At 16, I suspect will eventually let the cat out of the bag to a few chosen people. This weekend we went to our campground. We have been going there for 6 years now and we have neighbors who I suspect would be very very judgemental. That's just how is. Instead he hugged me and told me he was proud of me and that it took a lot of courage to go through with it! Really surprised me. You never know what someone's reaction will be! Flo in land Florence Ballengee Hollywood, land florence@... Download NeoPlanet at http://www.neoplanet.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2000 Report Share Posted June 23, 2000 Hi Marie, I hope I'm not intruding but I am new to this group and I am amazed by all the wonderful support that is offered. I just noticed your message to Debbie and I noticed that you are 3 weeks post op. I am 99.9% sure that I want to have this surgery if my insurance approves it, but I am really interested in the transistion after surgery. I lead a very busy life like everyone else, and I just want to be sure that I can keep up with what I'm doing now and hopefully add more activities with my 7 year old little girl. Can you tell me a little more about your last 3 weeks? I may not even be posting this message correctly, as I am new to this, but I can't stand it any longer. I know there is so much knowledge to gain from the " other side " . Thanks for any input you may have. Terri At 12:33 AM 6/23/00 -0000, you wrote: > >> >> > Hello Everyone! >> > >> > I have been approved and am too excited about my upcoming >surgery. One of >> my >> > problems is that I am " very shy " and am concerned about how to >respond to >> > people after I lose my weight. So far, the only persons who >know about it >> > are my husband, teen son, best friend, and the secretary who >bugged me for >> > weeks to go with her to weight watchers. I am dealing with my >best friend >> > because she thinks I am going to die if I have the surgery (I >told her I >> > would die if I didn't). >> > >> > > > > >This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com >Please visit our web site at http://clos.net >Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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