Guest guest Posted November 18, 2002 Report Share Posted November 18, 2002 Debs, Yeah I have a hubby that worries. He's scared to death for me. He had quit smoking for the 3rd time since we married 12+ years ago. He was doing well for about 3-4 months. He bought a pack of cigarettes when he got of the plane in VA after flying there to be with me when I had the first attack (in over a year) in July. He's been smoking ever since. I try to keep him from seeing me when the pain is bad unless it warrants the ER. The other day my mom was over when I was having a particularly rough day. She and I were talking and she just got quite all of a sudden. I thought maybe she wasn't feeling well. I asked if she was okay and she said yes. Finally I said, Mom what is wrong. she looked at me with tears in her eyes and said I am just so worried about you. I have tears in my eyes as I write this. Another time, my 20 year old daughter had come to the hospital to visit me since I was in the hospital near the town where she goes to college. She was sitting on my bed, rubbing my hand, when I noticed she was crying. I asked her what in the world was the matter. She said she was scared to death for me. I told her this mama was gonna be fine and had no intention of going anywhere. I promised her I'd be around a good long time to keep making her crazy, just like Granny does me (though I don't know what I'd without my mom). I promised her that eventually I would get better again. Since that time, I try to downplay things with my daughter, especially. It's a lot easier than with my mom and hubby since she lives 2 1/2 hours away. She is only 20 for pete's sake. She is a junior in college and works, too. She does not need to be worrying about me! Seeing the pain and worry in the faces of my loved ones is much more painful than the physical pain. It is one of the hardest things of a chronic illness. W Spouses that worry Arghhh I hide my pain most of the time but he frets about me goign down hill again especially when I have these episodes pain thats not under control. arghhhhh anyone else have a fretty hubby Kind ahard tellign them its a cross between somone giving you agood punch and a stb in th back with a knife and a sharp twist arghhh debs PANCREATITIS Association, Intl. Online e-mail group To reply to this message hit & quot;reply & quot; or send an e-mail to: Pancreatitis (AT) Yahoo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 18, 2002 Report Share Posted November 18, 2002 Debs, Yeah I have a hubby that worries. He's scared to death for me. He had quit smoking for the 3rd time since we married 12+ years ago. He was doing well for about 3-4 months. He bought a pack of cigarettes when he got of the plane in VA after flying there to be with me when I had the first attack (in over a year) in July. He's been smoking ever since. I try to keep him from seeing me when the pain is bad unless it warrants the ER. The other day my mom was over when I was having a particularly rough day. She and I were talking and she just got quite all of a sudden. I thought maybe she wasn't feeling well. I asked if she was okay and she said yes. Finally I said, Mom what is wrong. she looked at me with tears in her eyes and said I am just so worried about you. I have tears in my eyes as I write this. Another time, my 20 year old daughter had come to the hospital to visit me since I was in the hospital near the town where she goes to college. She was sitting on my bed, rubbing my hand, when I noticed she was crying. I asked her what in the world was the matter. She said she was scared to death for me. I told her this mama was gonna be fine and had no intention of going anywhere. I promised her I'd be around a good long time to keep making her crazy, just like Granny does me (though I don't know what I'd without my mom). I promised her that eventually I would get better again. Since that time, I try to downplay things with my daughter, especially. It's a lot easier than with my mom and hubby since she lives 2 1/2 hours away. She is only 20 for pete's sake. She is a junior in college and works, too. She does not need to be worrying about me! Seeing the pain and worry in the faces of my loved ones is much more painful than the physical pain. It is one of the hardest things of a chronic illness. W Spouses that worry Arghhh I hide my pain most of the time but he frets about me goign down hill again especially when I have these episodes pain thats not under control. arghhhhh anyone else have a fretty hubby Kind ahard tellign them its a cross between somone giving you agood punch and a stb in th back with a knife and a sharp twist arghhh debs PANCREATITIS Association, Intl. Online e-mail group To reply to this message hit & quot;reply & quot; or send an e-mail to: Pancreatitis (AT) Yahoo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 18, 2002 Report Share Posted November 18, 2002 -- yes it is hard to see the worry in tehir faces and the tears. I also downplay it alot I dont often complain at all now as he is petrified I will end up in hosital for yet anotehr 2 months that was helll it was liek prison no way out I couldnt throw a tanty and leave beacuse I had do many machien hooke dup and every day i wanted to !!!!! I have learnt patience but it kills me Its really only my mum that can see me at my worst ans she frest thought she would lose me many time sover these last 3 1/2 years I never thought that but everyoen who looke din my eys did. I left the first time and after I receovered with my jtube and feeding and about a month later i broke down every day cos I realise they saw death in my eyes and I realised I almost died by teh way they were looking at me I was in shock took awhiel to come out of taht I dont knwo what I would do without my my mum I would eb dead for sure she raised merry hell for 3 months once when I wa sin hospital she had them all running mind you one time I ran into the corridor to the bathroom and screamed I was going to die I wa sin so much pain. The pic lien was clogged and I hadnt had pain relief via a pump for 24 hours . She yelled and cussed and every anesthetist came running . They gave me enough morphien to kill 6 people then got the pump back. Then she went up to the CEO's office and swore at him and said he better sort out all th ecrap because she wasnt goign to allow me to die in here due to negligence so without her I knwo I would have died she sat at my bedside for 3 months holding my hand and for that I will be forever grateful my mum an dme are so close debs - In pancreatitis@y..., " Weston " wrote: > Debs, > Yeah I have a hubby that worries. He's scared to death for me. He had quit smoking for the 3rd time since we married 12+ years ago. He was doing well for about 3-4 months. He bought a pack of cigarettes when he got of the plane in VA after flying there to be with me when I had the first attack (in over a year) in July. He's been smoking ever since. I try to keep him from seeing me when the pain is bad unless it warrants the ER. The other day my mom was over when I was having a particularly rough day. She and I were talking and she just got quite all of a sudden. I thought maybe she wasn't feeling well. I asked if she was okay and she said yes. Finally I said, Mom what is wrong. she looked at me with tears in her eyes and said I am just so worried about you. I have tears in my eyes as I write this. Another time, my 20 year old daughter had come to the hospital to visit me since I was in the hospital near the town where she goes to college. She was sitting on my bed, rubbing my hand, when I noticed she was crying. I asked her what in the world was the matter. She said she was scared to death for me. I told her this mama was gonna be fine and had no intention of going anywhere. I promised her I'd be around a good long time to keep making her crazy, just like Granny does me (though I don't know what I'd without my mom). I promised her that eventually I would get better again. Since that time, I try to downplay things with my daughter, especially. It's a lot easier than with my mom and hubby since she lives 2 1/2 hours away. She is only 20 for pete's sake. She is a junior in college and works, too. She does not need to be worrying about me! Seeing the pain and worry in the faces of my loved ones is much more painful than the physical pain. It is one of the hardest things of a chronic illness. > > W > Spouses that worry > > > Arghhh > > I hide my pain most of the time but he frets about me goign down > hill again especially when I have these episodes pain thats not > under control. arghhhhh > anyone else have a fretty hubby > Kind ahard tellign them its a cross between somone giving you agood > punch and a stb in th back with a knife and a sharp twist > > arghhh > > debs > > > PANCREATITIS Association, Intl. > Online e-mail group > > To reply to this message hit & quot;reply & quot; or send an e-mail to: Pancreatitis@Y... > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 18, 2002 Report Share Posted November 18, 2002 -- yes it is hard to see the worry in tehir faces and the tears. I also downplay it alot I dont often complain at all now as he is petrified I will end up in hosital for yet anotehr 2 months that was helll it was liek prison no way out I couldnt throw a tanty and leave beacuse I had do many machien hooke dup and every day i wanted to !!!!! I have learnt patience but it kills me Its really only my mum that can see me at my worst ans she frest thought she would lose me many time sover these last 3 1/2 years I never thought that but everyoen who looke din my eys did. I left the first time and after I receovered with my jtube and feeding and about a month later i broke down every day cos I realise they saw death in my eyes and I realised I almost died by teh way they were looking at me I was in shock took awhiel to come out of taht I dont knwo what I would do without my my mum I would eb dead for sure she raised merry hell for 3 months once when I wa sin hospital she had them all running mind you one time I ran into the corridor to the bathroom and screamed I was going to die I wa sin so much pain. The pic lien was clogged and I hadnt had pain relief via a pump for 24 hours . She yelled and cussed and every anesthetist came running . They gave me enough morphien to kill 6 people then got the pump back. Then she went up to the CEO's office and swore at him and said he better sort out all th ecrap because she wasnt goign to allow me to die in here due to negligence so without her I knwo I would have died she sat at my bedside for 3 months holding my hand and for that I will be forever grateful my mum an dme are so close debs - In pancreatitis@y..., " Weston " wrote: > Debs, > Yeah I have a hubby that worries. He's scared to death for me. He had quit smoking for the 3rd time since we married 12+ years ago. He was doing well for about 3-4 months. He bought a pack of cigarettes when he got of the plane in VA after flying there to be with me when I had the first attack (in over a year) in July. He's been smoking ever since. I try to keep him from seeing me when the pain is bad unless it warrants the ER. The other day my mom was over when I was having a particularly rough day. She and I were talking and she just got quite all of a sudden. I thought maybe she wasn't feeling well. I asked if she was okay and she said yes. Finally I said, Mom what is wrong. she looked at me with tears in her eyes and said I am just so worried about you. I have tears in my eyes as I write this. Another time, my 20 year old daughter had come to the hospital to visit me since I was in the hospital near the town where she goes to college. She was sitting on my bed, rubbing my hand, when I noticed she was crying. I asked her what in the world was the matter. She said she was scared to death for me. I told her this mama was gonna be fine and had no intention of going anywhere. I promised her I'd be around a good long time to keep making her crazy, just like Granny does me (though I don't know what I'd without my mom). I promised her that eventually I would get better again. Since that time, I try to downplay things with my daughter, especially. It's a lot easier than with my mom and hubby since she lives 2 1/2 hours away. She is only 20 for pete's sake. She is a junior in college and works, too. She does not need to be worrying about me! Seeing the pain and worry in the faces of my loved ones is much more painful than the physical pain. It is one of the hardest things of a chronic illness. > > W > Spouses that worry > > > Arghhh > > I hide my pain most of the time but he frets about me goign down > hill again especially when I have these episodes pain thats not > under control. arghhhhh > anyone else have a fretty hubby > Kind ahard tellign them its a cross between somone giving you agood > punch and a stb in th back with a knife and a sharp twist > > arghhh > > debs > > > PANCREATITIS Association, Intl. > Online e-mail group > > To reply to this message hit & quot;reply & quot; or send an e-mail to: Pancreatitis@Y... > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 18, 2002 Report Share Posted November 18, 2002 Yes, you are absolutely right. Watching my wife deal with this illness is most painful for me. None of us wants to be a burden on those who love us. Best Regards, Jerry/NC ********************************* Re: Spouses that worry > Debs, Seeing the pain and worry in the faces of my loved ones is much more painful than the physical pain. It is one of the hardest things of a chronic illness. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 18, 2002 Report Share Posted November 18, 2002 Yes, you are absolutely right. Watching my wife deal with this illness is most painful for me. None of us wants to be a burden on those who love us. Best Regards, Jerry/NC ********************************* Re: Spouses that worry > Debs, Seeing the pain and worry in the faces of my loved ones is much more painful than the physical pain. It is one of the hardest things of a chronic illness. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 18, 2002 Report Share Posted November 18, 2002 Hiya Jerry long time no talk I hope all is well with you and your wife debs > Yes, you are absolutely right. Watching my wife deal with this illness > is most painful for me. None of us wants to be a burden on those who love > us. > > Best Regards, > > Jerry/NC > ********************************* > > Re: Spouses that worry > > > > Debs, > Seeing the pain and worry in the faces of my loved ones is much more painful > than the physical pain. It is one of the hardest things of a chronic > illness. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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