Re: Great news! My son's a liar because of SCD! Very Long sorry!

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That is so awesome!!! My son has speech delays, and hearing him say

something (months after all the other kids his age were) was the same

feeling.. Sure, you can have anything you want, just keep using your

words and tell me! It was the best feeling in the world!

I'm so happy to hear that this is working for him. And it brings me

hope too.

Janice and Cias, 4 in April, who has gut issues from antibiotics and

other various things. He wasn't diagnosed w/ASD, but the dr. said he

had some 'autistic tendencies' and to watch as he gets older. I've

been seeing some....

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> So I always had thought that Elijah ALWAYS told me the honest

truth about what crime he just committed because he took after me and

was mostly a good kid (he's a great kid, I'm teasing). And my

daughter, who began lying at age 17 months and does enough back

talking for the both of them, obviously took after my husband's side;

my mother-in-law most likely (LOL!). Elijah always disclosed without

hesitation exactly what he had done even with some details when asked

and almost enjoyed getting put in time-out or having a toy taken away.

I think with his ASD it was comforting to have dependable cause and

effects; I hit my sister -- I go in time out.

> So about a month ago he had committed some crime and I asked

him what he had done and he said " I can't tell you. " This is when I

began to realize that recovery might mean that his truth telling might

end. I think he always lacked the creativity and the social

understanding that he shouldn't what me to know the truth. Sure

enough last week the lied THREE times in one afternoon! And they

weren't just " yes " or " no " lies either. a started to scream.

I asked, " Why is a crying? " Elijah says, " I just vroomed

(meaning drove the car) on...the book " that was sitting right next to

him. Obviously he drove the car over his sister and he made up a

little story/lie. The next one was quite similar and the third

one...when I went to put him in time out he said he needed to go potty

to get out of it. I fell for it and he did not need to go. What

problem solving and creativity!!!! I was so proud of him and excited

but I kept my composure in order to not to encourage him

> to use these new skills against me.

> A couple week before this he deceived me and charmed me all

at once and I'm afraid I was too enamored to correct the behavior. As

part of his ASD he always used to destroy the playroom. Not out of

anger. He would just zone out and knock everything on the floor and

then take one of his big dump truck and swipe it at high speeds on the

floor into all the toys. I'd tell him he had to stop and I was just

ignored. As I describe above every form of discipline just seemed to

fit a " If A, then B " kind of format of his day. He was a danger to my

daughter and himself when he got like this. He would continue this in

whatever room unless I turned on the TV or sat and read with him to

calm him down. A few weeks ago he started to trash the play room. He

hadn't done this for a while and my heart sank a little. I walked to

the play room door and he popped up, walked to the center of the room,

and said in the sweetest voice, " Mommy, could I please clean it up

now. " I was so

> thrilled. I said, " Sure buddy. " and walked back into the kitching

with a big grin on my face and he continued to trash the room. I was

so caught up in the improvement that if took me a while to go back in.

I finally did and he said, " Oh-no, Mommy I need to clean it up. " I

just couldn't believe it. I was so happy and stunned that I don't

think that I ever stopped him!

> This is getting really long, but I'll make this quick. This

isn't about lying. Elijah would always get scared when people at the

grocery store or strangers looked at him or tried to engage him.

Whenever he got upset on any level he would have a very hard time

verbalizing anything. But around Christmas, for the first time, in a

crowded grocery store, someone said " hi " and waved, and he fussed and

said " Mommy I'm scared of the peoples. " I was so thrilled my response

probably was so strange to everyone around. " YOU ARE!!! WELL THANK YOU

SO MUCH FOR TELLING ME. THAT'S REALLY GREAT USING YOUR WORDS!!! " I

went on for another 2 aisle and was beaming throughout the whole

grocery store. Now he is saying Hi to strangers and introducing himself!

> SCD has been the major key to my son's recovery (which is

still in process). We hadn't changed anything but his diet to SCD and

added enzymes so I'm sure SCD is so important to my son (and to my

daughter as I recently posted). And this group is so important to SCD

success thanks to everyone. Sorry of the length, but I wanted to

celebrate and also encourage the newcomers. Now if he would just have

a brown formed stool and put on some weight and be able to eat more

than a handful of foods. I can be patient, though, we've had a lot of

success already.

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> Thank you,

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> Elijah 3 (ASD? just a couple quirks, leaky-gut)

> a 2 this month

> SCD almost 4 months

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