Re: Teenage Sibling

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J.,

I don't know that I have an answer for you to make anything better. But, we

go through the same thing with my stepson. He even got jealous when the boys

got their vest. " Why don't I get anything? " I just talked to him and

explained what it was for. He sometimes still doesn't see that there should be

a difference. But, as he has gotten older he has gotten more understanding. I

think his mind can start to grip exactly waht is happening with the cf now.

Since he is older he is seeing what an emotional roller coaster we are all on

now. I think he absorbs more. He sees that it all isn't just about him and

that there are major medical needs. He has even gotten quite protective of the

boys at school. (almost got kicked off the bus) Nobody can mess with them,

except him of course. Isn't that funny?

Maybe it is the age. Possibly it will get better the older he gets. Just

hang in there. Maybe just sit with him and talk about it. Have you tried to

ask him if he would be interested in helping you with cpt, etc....

My kids thought it was kind of cool that they were bigger and could help " be in

charge " a little. Which alsoo helped to strengthen the kids relationships with

each other also. (I think anyway)

I hope this helps a little.

Vondie

Teenage Sibling

Hi,

My daughter 10 has CF. My son 15 doesn't. I always thought I made

time for my older child and explained why his sister needed so much

attention but obviously he didn't. He has a lot of anger and it is

directed at myself and my husband. I have taken him to see a

psychologist etc. but that hasn't done any good. It actually makes

him angrier. I know that at times he had to be shipped to a

grandmothers house when my daughter was in for IV's and my husband

was at sea. I also remember prior to my daughter being diagnosed,

she was in the hospital for bronchiolitis and at the same time my son

had chicken poxs, again husband at sea so I stayed with the one that

was the most ill. He stayed with my mother. I guess in his head we

have put him second best and no matter what I say to him it is not

getting through. Just wondered if anyone has this problem or any

advice! Thank you if you do. J.

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