Guest guest Posted November 22, 2002 Report Share Posted November 22, 2002 n- once again you said a mouthful. I think I agree....kiddingly written, I like the term chronic sadness. I believe that the best gift we can give our children is COPING SKILLS. I grew up with many tragedies and you know what I have wonderful coping skills. Yes, I get depressed but I buck up and go on and am cheerful and pleasant to be around! I am still the life of the party at times. My husband, God Bless him, doesn't possess ANY coping skills, thus he drinks and is really really depressed and feels sad. A friend mentioned a speech by a 9/11 fireman's widow. She said her husband had a list of things he wanted to do. After he died she looked at it - there was only 2 items on it because he made it a point to DO fun things. She said in the past year she has made such a point of having fun WITH and enjoying her children. After discussing the speech my girlfriend and I realized we don't have FUN. We take the kids to have FUN, we watch them have FUN but we don't have FUN. Another issue is EXPECTATIONS- the higher they are the more frustrated we are (i.e. people helping us, waiting in waiting rooms, friends support, spouses helping, etc.) If we expect nothing we will be happy and surprised and grateful rather than mad! I think thats what we all need to have FUN and laugh a little. Laughing makes my kids bring up the most stuff! Rosemary in New York with 3 children with CF - they are 12, 10, 6...I coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT " ; and now we have a dog named - are you ready for this - TOBI after their medication! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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