Guest guest Posted June 14, 2000 Report Share Posted June 14, 2000 It was hard for me to post why my sister died, but it seems to have to made more questions than answers. The reality is that my sister , 37 years of age, mother of 4 children, died from the operation. She died from the operation. Not from some misterious illness that she had before, not from anything but the surgery. If she had not had the surgery she would be alife. She died because of the surgery, it is plain and simple. She got a leak, that was caused by the surgery, she would not have gotten this leak if she did not have the surgery. The leak caused sepsis in her system and in cases like this it is 50/50 if the patient survives. She did not. She died from the operation. She died 4 days after she had the operation, not on the table, but 4 days after. It takes time for the infection to take over your body. She was in great pain, so no matter how little or big your pain is, let your doctor know. It was nothing gracious nor beautiful about her death, when she started to have serious pain, we took her to the hospital. There we waited for Dr Rutledge for an hour, I ended up calling him because the nurses did not call him, so there my sweet sister was in incredible pain, crying begging for pain killers and the nurses had not called the doctor. When I called him he asked where we were...... it was not his fault, the nurses I guess had something else to do. I gave my consenseous to have Dr Rutledge operate on her to find what was wrong, when he was driving to the hospital. She was prepped for the operation, the operation was 2 hours because Dr Rutledge could not find the leake. I waited for her and he had to cut her from the chest to her navel, the big cut. She was in such pain,and at that time the infection was setting in her lungs so she was coughing, she screamed in pain everytime she coughed, I cried and cried, she creamed, but tried to take care of me as was her nature, when the pain would subside. She started not being able to breathe, and they did not realize how serious her lungs were getting. She told me to go at 5 in the morning to work, I did not want to go, but she was determinded for me to do so. I did, the fool, me, I kissed her bye and told her I loved her, and next time I saw her 4 hours later she was paralized and never gained counsiouness after that. I had to call home to tell them she was very sick, I crying, creaming, begging god to take me, for she had all these children and they were her life. Dr Rutledge was very optimistic about her recovery, but then she took the turn for the worse, and at 11 they called me and told me to come for she was dying. They kep her alife so I could hold her when she passed, I had asked for that, that she would not die alone. I spoke about her children, her husband, as the life in her body left her. She had a small vein in her chin and when that wein stopped beating, I knew she was dead, I held her not wanting to let go, my sister was dead, and I could not let her go. I put her head back and it fell back becasue she was dead, and I took her back in my arms to feel her the last time, I held her hand, her cold hand, begging in my mind god to let me go and her to live. But she was dead, and a scream came from my soul, I did not antisipate it, it came from the bottom of who I am, from my deepest fear, from the part of me that noone sees not even me,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, the scream was so powerful that I fainted for few sec............. my sister was dead, she is no longer, and nothing I could do. I was alone, in a strange country, no family, only me, and my sweet sister who I loved more than me, who I had such high hopes that this operation would better her life. I remember how excited she was, the anticipation of getting thinner, and a better wife and mother. How she went excited to the surgery, how much she trusted Dr Rutledge, everythign we did she felt and did. Ms Parsons had given us many clothes, and few nights before had her operaton she got many outfits, and she was so excited how good she was going to look in them when she went home. The few moments before she left for USA, she took her 7 year daughter to the library, and got herself some books to read, she could never read them. But her daughter will always remember what mom did just before she went. This same daughter was making a pillow for her mom, when she would come home, now the pillow is finished but no mom. They could not see their mom in the casket, due to internationl laws,,,,,, so they have to go by our words. Why am I writing this, to let you know in direct English that my sister died from this operation. It does not matter if she died few days afther the operation, she died from this operation. It is stated in the manual that you can die from this operation and she did...... many people who do not want to accept that she died from the operation try to suger code it by saying she had other health problems, that she did die after the operation etc. I know the truth, seen the autophsy, seen the body, was there, so I say for the last time MY SISTER KRISTIN DIED FROM THE OPERATION. Dr Rutledge will tell you that by compairing my sisters death to the deaths that occur in gallbladder surgery then his procedure comes out well. So my sister who is the statistic 0.015% or something like that in his paper, lived, breathed, was kind, loved, wanted a better life for herself and her family................... Please do not ask me again, please ask Dr Rutledge, I thought he would explain this to you but I gather he did not............ guess he is busy, so please no more e-mails asking me, please,,,,,,,,, this rips me apart, my heart or soul will never be the same, I can not tell you if it is good to have the operation, and if I would have done it that does not mean that my words are more effective than the words of the other people who have had the opration. I have seen postings saying that I would have it again, some people have posted it, like that validated that this operation is good and even if my sister died I would have it again............. please go by you and your conciousness. This operation has worked for me very well, it has given me control I wanted so much over me and my food intake. I have a long way to go in loosing the weight....... but please show me mercy and do not ask me again to explain my sisters death...................... I am leaving this country for good the 31st of August, and my dog Zeus will join me 6 weeks later. I want to thank a person who told me about kennels, I will probably put him there. I realized it was too much to ask people to do this, so I apologize,,,,,,,,, but again and for the last time, do not ask me again how my sister died or why she died,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, show me mercy,,,,,,,, Fanney Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2000 Report Share Posted June 15, 2000 Fanney, The pain contained in your letter took my breath away. Please, please accept my condolences for your loss. When a family member is taken from us, tragically, early and senselessly it is difficult to ever recover from the loss. I lost my father due to a medical mistake 7 years ago. The pain and loss engulfed me. Life will never be the same. Thank you for taking the time to share with us. I feel guility about inflicting pain upon you by us asking questions. My thoughts a prayers are with you. May God give you peace. Janice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2000 Report Share Posted June 15, 2000 Fanney, The pain contained in your letter took my breath away. Please, please accept my condolences for your loss. When a family member is taken from us, tragically, early and senselessly it is difficult to ever recover from the loss. I lost my father due to a medical mistake 7 years ago. The pain and loss engulfed me. Life will never be the same. Thank you for taking the time to share with us. I feel guility about inflicting pain upon you by us asking questions. My thoughts a prayers are with you. May God give you peace. Janice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2000 Report Share Posted June 15, 2000 Fanney, The pain contained in your letter took my breath away. Please, please accept my condolences for your loss. When a family member is taken from us, tragically, early and senselessly it is difficult to ever recover from the loss. I lost my father due to a medical mistake 7 years ago. The pain and loss engulfed me. Life will never be the same. Thank you for taking the time to share with us. I feel guility about inflicting pain upon you by us asking questions. My thoughts a prayers are with you. May God give you peace. Janice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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