casein intolerance changing to real allergy...?

[Guest guest]

I have never allowed my children to serve themselves, even in our own

home. I make them ask for what they want before they get it.

This allows me to prevent dinner from being ransacked by having the

ingredients eaten when I'm not looking and it also keeps them from

eating something that " looks " okay.

So, it may sound too controling to some, but I was not allowed to

serve myself either. I think it is appropriate for children to ask

before eating something, even in their own homes.

When they were younger, I just made it impossible for them to be able

to get to any food. As they got older, I wanted them to learn to

control themselves. Of course, this is more difficult in practice

than in theory...LOL.

So, as the " punishment " for getting into something without asking, I

make them go put the items back where they were and come back to me

and ask for them. That way, I am not being mean and saying " no " all

the time and they get the practice of doing it the " right " way. Plus,

they get the negative reinforcement of doing it all twice. It's

easier to just ask first. (Plus, if it's not time to eat, I make

them leave it put away until it is time to eat-see below.)

I would make it a LOT harder to get to any food in your house. At

least for a while. You've got to get the ASK FOR FOOD ingrained into

her routine. It may mean putting on a fridge lock or putting the food

in a locked closet to keep her out of it.

I also think that " grazing " beyond the age of 3 or 4 is not a good

idea because kids don't get into the habit of sitting down and eating

a regular meal. When they go to school, they don't know how to eat

their whole meal in the allotted time and I just don't think that's

good.

So, even though we are at home all day, we have set meal times and

snack times with no grazing in between. It may seem harsh or strange

to some of you, but it works for us.

I even have a picture schedule with clocks. We used this a lot when

the boys were younger. For one thing, they learned to tell time very

quickly with it...LOL. But when they would ask for food, I would show

them the clock schedule and say " Lunch is at 12 o'clock " and show them

the actual time and tell them how long it was until 12. There were

fits, but it didn't take long for them to get the idea. Now, they'll

remind me- little " clocks " ... " Mommy it's 12 o'clock and it's LUNCH

TIME!! " .

Jody

mom to -7 and -9

SCD 1/03

[Guest guest]

I have never allowed my children to serve themselves, even in our own

home. I make them ask for what they want before they get it.

This allows me to prevent dinner from being ransacked by having the

ingredients eaten when I'm not looking and it also keeps them from

eating something that " looks " okay.

So, it may sound too controling to some, but I was not allowed to

serve myself either. I think it is appropriate for children to ask

before eating something, even in their own homes.

When they were younger, I just made it impossible for them to be able

to get to any food. As they got older, I wanted them to learn to

control themselves. Of course, this is more difficult in practice

than in theory...LOL.

So, as the " punishment " for getting into something without asking, I

make them go put the items back where they were and come back to me

and ask for them. That way, I am not being mean and saying " no " all

the time and they get the practice of doing it the " right " way. Plus,

they get the negative reinforcement of doing it all twice. It's

easier to just ask first. (Plus, if it's not time to eat, I make

them leave it put away until it is time to eat-see below.)

I would make it a LOT harder to get to any food in your house. At

least for a while. You've got to get the ASK FOR FOOD ingrained into

her routine. It may mean putting on a fridge lock or putting the food

in a locked closet to keep her out of it.

I also think that " grazing " beyond the age of 3 or 4 is not a good

idea because kids don't get into the habit of sitting down and eating

a regular meal. When they go to school, they don't know how to eat

their whole meal in the allotted time and I just don't think that's

good.

So, even though we are at home all day, we have set meal times and

snack times with no grazing in between. It may seem harsh or strange

to some of you, but it works for us.

I even have a picture schedule with clocks. We used this a lot when

the boys were younger. For one thing, they learned to tell time very

quickly with it...LOL. But when they would ask for food, I would show

them the clock schedule and say " Lunch is at 12 o'clock " and show them

the actual time and tell them how long it was until 12. There were

fits, but it didn't take long for them to get the idea. Now, they'll

remind me- little " clocks " ... " Mommy it's 12 o'clock and it's LUNCH

TIME!! " .

Jody

mom to -7 and -9

SCD 1/03

[Guest guest]

I have never allowed my children to serve themselves, even in our own

home. I make them ask for what they want before they get it.

This allows me to prevent dinner from being ransacked by having the

ingredients eaten when I'm not looking and it also keeps them from

eating something that " looks " okay.

So, it may sound too controling to some, but I was not allowed to

serve myself either. I think it is appropriate for children to ask

before eating something, even in their own homes.

When they were younger, I just made it impossible for them to be able

to get to any food. As they got older, I wanted them to learn to

control themselves. Of course, this is more difficult in practice

than in theory...LOL.

So, as the " punishment " for getting into something without asking, I

make them go put the items back where they were and come back to me

and ask for them. That way, I am not being mean and saying " no " all

the time and they get the practice of doing it the " right " way. Plus,

they get the negative reinforcement of doing it all twice. It's

easier to just ask first. (Plus, if it's not time to eat, I make

them leave it put away until it is time to eat-see below.)

I would make it a LOT harder to get to any food in your house. At

least for a while. You've got to get the ASK FOR FOOD ingrained into

her routine. It may mean putting on a fridge lock or putting the food

in a locked closet to keep her out of it.

I also think that " grazing " beyond the age of 3 or 4 is not a good

idea because kids don't get into the habit of sitting down and eating

a regular meal. When they go to school, they don't know how to eat

their whole meal in the allotted time and I just don't think that's

good.

So, even though we are at home all day, we have set meal times and

snack times with no grazing in between. It may seem harsh or strange

to some of you, but it works for us.

I even have a picture schedule with clocks. We used this a lot when

the boys were younger. For one thing, they learned to tell time very

quickly with it...LOL. But when they would ask for food, I would show

them the clock schedule and say " Lunch is at 12 o'clock " and show them

the actual time and tell them how long it was until 12. There were

fits, but it didn't take long for them to get the idea. Now, they'll

remind me- little " clocks " ... " Mommy it's 12 o'clock and it's LUNCH

TIME!! " .

Jody

mom to -7 and -9

SCD 1/03