Guest guest Posted November 11, 2002 Report Share Posted November 11, 2002 In a message dated 11/11/02 10:25:26 PM Eastern Standard Time, hominid2@... writes: > he's on vacation until December and I need to talk to > Easy does it Kimber, have a tall cool glass of water and just try to be calm. If you were across the Bay I would suggest an afternoon at the Wharf, but maybe the Berkley Pier walk would be a good substitute. I wish you the Best Wishes and a calm day. Poncho - GA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2002 Report Share Posted November 12, 2002 Problems with Work <<< Well guys, sorry I've been off for the weekend, but we were moving furniture around and when we were done, my mother monopolized my computer. Well, I almost completely broke down at work today. Didn't realize how emotionally fragile I am.>>> Kimber, Don't let your co workers get you down. People CAN be mean sometimes. We live in a self centered society these days. You did not purposely decide to give your co worker the wrong policy. She needs to quit projecting blame on you for just being human. You have allot of good qualities and you contribute them on this board as well. I know that we all have periods in our lives where we seem emotionally vulnerable and cry easily. There is nothing wrong with a good cry. You may very well have earned it !!!! There arn't allot of people who can handle illness like you do. You cope with your problems very well. So take a deep breath, remain professional when you have to deal with those idiots and remember that you are the better person. If they get this stressed out over an incident of this magnatude, thank GOD they don't work in an ICU or an ER !!!!!!! And for heavens sake, get your monies worth out of the psychologist !!!!!! If you can't make your appointment, I would love to bend their ears !!!!! Of course they will probably charge me double for the double trouble ! Take it easy, I will be thinking of you, Lily from Ohio Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2002 Report Share Posted November 12, 2002 Problems with Work <<< Well guys, sorry I've been off for the weekend, but we were moving furniture around and when we were done, my mother monopolized my computer. Well, I almost completely broke down at work today. Didn't realize how emotionally fragile I am.>>> Kimber, Don't let your co workers get you down. People CAN be mean sometimes. We live in a self centered society these days. You did not purposely decide to give your co worker the wrong policy. She needs to quit projecting blame on you for just being human. You have allot of good qualities and you contribute them on this board as well. I know that we all have periods in our lives where we seem emotionally vulnerable and cry easily. There is nothing wrong with a good cry. You may very well have earned it !!!! There arn't allot of people who can handle illness like you do. You cope with your problems very well. So take a deep breath, remain professional when you have to deal with those idiots and remember that you are the better person. If they get this stressed out over an incident of this magnatude, thank GOD they don't work in an ICU or an ER !!!!!!! And for heavens sake, get your monies worth out of the psychologist !!!!!! If you can't make your appointment, I would love to bend their ears !!!!! Of course they will probably charge me double for the double trouble ! Take it easy, I will be thinking of you, Lily from Ohio Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2002 Report Share Posted November 12, 2002 Problems with Work <<< Well guys, sorry I've been off for the weekend, but we were moving furniture around and when we were done, my mother monopolized my computer. Well, I almost completely broke down at work today. Didn't realize how emotionally fragile I am.>>> Kimber, Don't let your co workers get you down. People CAN be mean sometimes. We live in a self centered society these days. You did not purposely decide to give your co worker the wrong policy. She needs to quit projecting blame on you for just being human. You have allot of good qualities and you contribute them on this board as well. I know that we all have periods in our lives where we seem emotionally vulnerable and cry easily. There is nothing wrong with a good cry. You may very well have earned it !!!! There arn't allot of people who can handle illness like you do. You cope with your problems very well. So take a deep breath, remain professional when you have to deal with those idiots and remember that you are the better person. If they get this stressed out over an incident of this magnatude, thank GOD they don't work in an ICU or an ER !!!!!!! And for heavens sake, get your monies worth out of the psychologist !!!!!! If you can't make your appointment, I would love to bend their ears !!!!! Of course they will probably charge me double for the double trouble ! Take it easy, I will be thinking of you, Lily from Ohio Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2002 Report Share Posted November 12, 2002 Kimber, I'm so sorry I'm just now seeing your e-mail. I've been behind on my e-mails and even had to delete a bunch. Your co-workers attitude was totally uncalled for. It was absolutely mean no matter what she wants to call it. I would have broken down over it even during times when I wasn't struggling with health issues. She is the one with the problem, not you. However, talking with a psychologist won't hurt you. I have a feeling the psychologist may tell you just what I did - that the woman was absolutely mean and it would have upset most anyone! You need to get good and mad that someone cold treat another human being the way she treated you! My gosh, everyone makes mistakes. You apologized for giving her the wrong policy. Should you have kissed her toes, too? Once again, I have said a prayer of thanks to God for my wonderful bosses and co-workers! I wish everyone could be as blessed as I am. My health issues have put them in a terrible bind but never once has anyone uttered a complaint. They just do the best they can do without me and go on. They tell me constantly that I am not to worry about the office. Please take care and realize that your co-worker has real problems. I think you should pray for her because she's the one that really needs to see a counselor! W Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2002 Report Share Posted November 12, 2002 Kimber, I'm so sorry I'm just now seeing your e-mail. I've been behind on my e-mails and even had to delete a bunch. Your co-workers attitude was totally uncalled for. It was absolutely mean no matter what she wants to call it. I would have broken down over it even during times when I wasn't struggling with health issues. She is the one with the problem, not you. However, talking with a psychologist won't hurt you. I have a feeling the psychologist may tell you just what I did - that the woman was absolutely mean and it would have upset most anyone! You need to get good and mad that someone cold treat another human being the way she treated you! My gosh, everyone makes mistakes. You apologized for giving her the wrong policy. Should you have kissed her toes, too? Once again, I have said a prayer of thanks to God for my wonderful bosses and co-workers! I wish everyone could be as blessed as I am. My health issues have put them in a terrible bind but never once has anyone uttered a complaint. They just do the best they can do without me and go on. They tell me constantly that I am not to worry about the office. Please take care and realize that your co-worker has real problems. I think you should pray for her because she's the one that really needs to see a counselor! W Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2002 Report Share Posted November 12, 2002 Poncho, thanks, I cooled down, though I do have an appointment with the psychologist for next week.Instead of a walk I had some kitties sit and purr on me for awhile when I got home. That always makes me feel good. The incident was mainly just a wake up call that I'm obviously not taking things as well as I had assumed if something like that is making me breakdown and cry like that. Hmm, maybe time for more antidepressants. Will see what the psychologist says. The psychologist is part of the chronic pain clinic, because, as all of you know, chronic pain affects your whole like, including your emotional and mental welll being. Well, mine is obviously off kilter somewhere and needs to be fixed. Kimber -- Kimber Vallejo, CA hominid2@... Southwest and California Representative Pancreatitis Association, International Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2002 Report Share Posted November 13, 2002 Kimber sounds like your co-worker is creating a hostile work place for you. Is she your superior? though i am not suffering from CP I to am an emotional wreck too. Between Cassie's CP, work and her school I'm a mess. I to am going through some hard times at work. I hope you are having a better time of it than I am i work for family. The stitch in my side happens to be my baby brother who is the favorite so he never does anthing wrong. I'm just over emotional, over sensitive and sick! my Daughter is faking and it's just a way for me to get of work. I'm on zoloft for my depression and it isn't helping any more. I feel for you and all the others who suffer so from CP. I think sometime these people would understand if they could just expereince a full fledge attack for just 5 minutes. But than I remember I would never wish this agony on anyone. I see the sadness in Cassie's eyes as she misses some of the great things in life she should expereince at 12 and I watch her withdraw a little more. I also wonder how she will be able to live out her life with any sense of normality and and self worth. she sees a psycologist on a regular basis and i keep being told it is part of the normal mental processes involved with acceptance of her illnes on her part. He really doesn't help me out at all but Cassie is more relaxed after she sees him and that's what counts. Good luck, I hope your appointment works wonders for you, God bless and may pain free days come your way. Patty in Bangor ME Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2002 Report Share Posted November 13, 2002 Kimber sounds like your co-worker is creating a hostile work place for you. Is she your superior? though i am not suffering from CP I to am an emotional wreck too. Between Cassie's CP, work and her school I'm a mess. I to am going through some hard times at work. I hope you are having a better time of it than I am i work for family. The stitch in my side happens to be my baby brother who is the favorite so he never does anthing wrong. I'm just over emotional, over sensitive and sick! my Daughter is faking and it's just a way for me to get of work. I'm on zoloft for my depression and it isn't helping any more. I feel for you and all the others who suffer so from CP. I think sometime these people would understand if they could just expereince a full fledge attack for just 5 minutes. But than I remember I would never wish this agony on anyone. I see the sadness in Cassie's eyes as she misses some of the great things in life she should expereince at 12 and I watch her withdraw a little more. I also wonder how she will be able to live out her life with any sense of normality and and self worth. she sees a psycologist on a regular basis and i keep being told it is part of the normal mental processes involved with acceptance of her illnes on her part. He really doesn't help me out at all but Cassie is more relaxed after she sees him and that's what counts. Good luck, I hope your appointment works wonders for you, God bless and may pain free days come your way. Patty in Bangor ME Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2002 Report Share Posted November 13, 2002 Lily, thank you. This board has been so much help to me. I had my cry and now I'm just going to try and let it go. However, I am really getting worried over my loss of memory. I forgot to tell my carpool driver that I was working at home today and so she waited for me this morning and then call and left a message when I didn't answer. She was really worried because she knows I never sleep through the phone ringing. Well, turns out that the phone in my room was unplugged (I had forgotten to plug it back in when I finished moving my bed around this weekend) and the main phone in the living room had a dead battery, so it didn't ring either. So, I didn't wake up when she called. Then she was angry when she found out I was working at home because I worried her. And of course I feel bad about that. My memory has never been this bad before and its interfering with work and my private life. I totally forgot to call my brother yesterday and it was his birthday. Another thhng to worry about. Urgh. Well, enough of my mess of a life currently. I hope you and are both doing well. thank you so much for your understanding. Kimber -- Kimber Vallejo, CA hominid2@... Southwest and California Representative Pancreatitis Association, International Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2002 Report Share Posted November 13, 2002 Patty, luckily the coworker is not my boss. I don't know if I over reacted or she did, but it set me off. I'll just try and stay away from her for awhile. Knowing her, she'll have reported the mistake and my reaction to my boss and say she is " concerned " about me. I've got a lot of people at work " concerned " about me, mostly due to side effects to my meds and what they are doing with my accuracy and memory. Not sure there is much I can do to fix it since I'm a basket case without the meds. Maybe I need to try some different medications. I'm sorry it is so hard at your work. I have had that reaction from some of my relatives, luckily they were just some of my aunts, not my immediately family. My brother and my mom are so very supportive and that helps me a great deal. My mother is my rock. When things get bad for me, I know I can count on her, even if it is only to listen to me complain, cry, whatever. Unfortunately, no significant other. I know you are the same for Cassie. Have you thought of getting a psychologist just for you? I know Cassie is her psychologist's focus, which is mainly why he may not help you any. Have you also though about having your antidepressant dosage raised? That might help some too. I know it's so hard on the caregivers, like you and my mother and they need some support themselves to deal with this illness. You are just as affected by it as Cassie. Also, when you can, try and take a little break time for yourself. I know it's not easy, but it will help your emotional wellbeing to do this too. I've also started a diary of how I feel and such over the things that happen in my life. Just pouring out my thoughts and feelings onto the paper help me work through the feelings. Give yourself and Cassie some big hugs, Kimber -- Kimber Vallejo, CA hominid2@... Southwest and California Representative Pancreatitis Association, International Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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