Goodbye...

[Guest guest]

Hello everyone..

I wanted to take this opportunity to say goodbye.. For the last 6 months I

have learned so much.. I have laughed, smiled, and cried with you.. I have

worried about you and prayed for you.. But, it's time for me to leave.. I

don't feel i have much more to gain from the list as I have heard just about

every question that can be asked about this surgery.. I don't need

information to help me make the right decision because i know i have made it

already and now i just have to wait my turn.. I am also getting very tired

of all the flaming and bickering going on here lately.. It seems as if no

one is allowed to have their own opinion and I don't think it's right.. When

i joined the list, I found a very lovable tight family.. I only see that in

a select few now... I know a lot of people have been leaving the list and

it's our own fault.. We are supposed to love each other and help each

other.. Instead we knock others down and kick them when they could use a

hug.. Or we hurt their feelings by starting a war over a question that was

asked... Is this really the way you want to be remembered? I understand we

all have our own lives and this is not the " real " world for some of you but

you are all a part of my heart! I get attached to people I talk to

especially when I talk to them with subjects so close to my heart or so

painful as I have with everyone on this list.. We are all searching for the

same thing.. LIFE! Stop fighting over the little stuff.. If it's not going

to matter tomorrow or next week, FORGET ABOUT IT!!! And, PLEASE PLEASE

PLEASE!!! If you are not keeping up with the messages and know you have a

bunch to read, especially if it is a few days worth, DO NOT REPLY TO FLAME

WARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot stress this enough.. I have seen too many times

where someone would reply to a message that was several days old and the

fighting began all over again!! It's stupid!! All you are doing is pouring

gasoline on a pile of wood that has just gone out.. The fire WILL start

again.... I would also like you to know that I will be continuing the Litter

Mates list so if you have a date you would like to add, please email me and

I will do so.. I would like to close by saying, I wish you all the very best

in your journey! We ALL deserve to live a " normal " heathy life!! I love you

all!

In my thoughts and prayers,

Terri

P.S.

Feel free to email me, good or bad.. But please keep it off the list..

Once i send this message i will be unsubscribing and will not see any

messages posted to me..

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[Guest guest]

Hi Terri,

Please don't let that post scare you off! I was not involved in the fracas

and don't feel it's necessary to dredge it all up again, except to say that I

think it is understandable that after such a major surgery there will be some

hormonal and emotional reactions that might make someone say or do things (in

the comfort of their group of friends) that might hurt feelings. Then other

people might react strongly. In the end, it all works itself out because we

are all God's children and just as we know we can be sinful, we also are

blessed with the ability to recognize it and the good news is that we can be

forgiven! None of us are as bad as our worst moment and hopefully we will

keep trying to be as good as our best. Problems like this might recur, but

it is the grace that we all use in handling them that will set us apart.

Life is not without conflict, right? Peace, love and frienship to all!

Regards,

Debbie in IL

Cigna approved on 3rd appeal for daughter (BMI 45)

Counting on Cigna for Debbie (BMI 40)--online form submitted 6/22

In a message dated 6/27/00 8:10:19 AM Pacific Daylight Time,

tbarbee@... writes:

<< Help anyone,

I just read the post from Terri of 6-26-00 at 8:13. I am so confused.

I've been reading the posts daily for the last couple of weeks and all I've

observed is a caring group. I'm not sure what has happened, but I'd like

everyone to know how much I appreciate the daily support, answers, and

encouragement. You are a great group and I hope you'll keep the posts

coming.

Terri B. in ville, NC

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