Re: To W . From Louie

[Guest guest]

Louie,

They found that my mom has a 50% blockage in one of the arteries in the heart

and a 30% blockage in another one. Neither blockage is in a main artery, but

the one that is 50% is just beyond th top of the main artery. At this point,

they are just going to put her on heart medication. They said medication

usually takes care of the blockage when they catch them at this point. He told

my mom that it would probably take about 2-3 weeks for the medication to make

her start feeling better.

As for the phenergan, it normally doesn't even make me tired. I have slept

almost all day today. I guess the massive shot of demerol/phenergan my pcp gave

me knocked me out. I woke up around 3 p.m. and was hurting so I took a lortab.

I just woke up a few minutes ago and am hurting again. My hubby asked if I had

been hurting all day. I first said yeah, then said, well except all the hours I

was asleep. It's not as bad as this morning but I am definitely in pain. For

now, I'm not nauseated, though.

Normally, I can remain upbeat even when I'm not feeling well. I know I could be

so much worse. My mom worries so much about me. I'd just like to be able to be

there for her like she has been for me.

Thanks for all the prayers.

W.

[Guest guest]

Louie,

They found that my mom has a 50% blockage in one of the arteries in the heart

and a 30% blockage in another one. Neither blockage is in a main artery, but

the one that is 50% is just beyond th top of the main artery. At this point,

they are just going to put her on heart medication. They said medication

usually takes care of the blockage when they catch them at this point. He told

my mom that it would probably take about 2-3 weeks for the medication to make

her start feeling better.

As for the phenergan, it normally doesn't even make me tired. I have slept

almost all day today. I guess the massive shot of demerol/phenergan my pcp gave

me knocked me out. I woke up around 3 p.m. and was hurting so I took a lortab.

I just woke up a few minutes ago and am hurting again. My hubby asked if I had

been hurting all day. I first said yeah, then said, well except all the hours I

was asleep. It's not as bad as this morning but I am definitely in pain. For

now, I'm not nauseated, though.

Normally, I can remain upbeat even when I'm not feeling well. I know I could be

so much worse. My mom worries so much about me. I'd just like to be able to be

there for her like she has been for me.

Thanks for all the prayers.

W.

[Guest guest]

Louie,

They found that my mom has a 50% blockage in one of the arteries in the heart

and a 30% blockage in another one. Neither blockage is in a main artery, but

the one that is 50% is just beyond th top of the main artery. At this point,

they are just going to put her on heart medication. They said medication

usually takes care of the blockage when they catch them at this point. He told

my mom that it would probably take about 2-3 weeks for the medication to make

her start feeling better.

As for the phenergan, it normally doesn't even make me tired. I have slept

almost all day today. I guess the massive shot of demerol/phenergan my pcp gave

me knocked me out. I woke up around 3 p.m. and was hurting so I took a lortab.

I just woke up a few minutes ago and am hurting again. My hubby asked if I had

been hurting all day. I first said yeah, then said, well except all the hours I

was asleep. It's not as bad as this morning but I am definitely in pain. For

now, I'm not nauseated, though.

Normally, I can remain upbeat even when I'm not feeling well. I know I could be

so much worse. My mom worries so much about me. I'd just like to be able to be

there for her like she has been for me.

Thanks for all the prayers.

W.

[Guest guest]

,

It must be a great releif that they will able to take care of her with

medication and she won't need surgery. I sure you will be keeping a close eye

on her. Does she live close to you? As for you, I'm sorry to hear that you are

still in pain. I was hoping the Shots would do the trick for you. I keep the

prayers coming your way.

Take Care,

Louie in WV

Re: To W . From Louie

Louie,

They found that my mom has a 50% blockage in one of the arteries in the heart

and a 30% blockage in another one. Neither blockage is in a main artery, but

the one that is 50% is just beyond th top of the main artery. At this point,

they are just going to put her on heart medication. They said medication

usually takes care of the blockage when they catch them at this point. He told

my mom that it would probably take about 2-3 weeks for the medication to make

her start feeling better.

As for the phenergan, it normally doesn't even make me tired. I have slept

almost all day today. I guess the massive shot of demerol/phenergan my pcp gave

me knocked me out. I woke up around 3 p.m. and was hurting so I took a lortab.

I just woke up a few minutes ago and am hurting again. My hubby asked if I had

been hurting all day. I first said yeah, then said, well except all the hours I

was asleep. It's not as bad as this morning but I am definitely in pain. For

now, I'm not nauseated, though.

Normally, I can remain upbeat even when I'm not feeling well. I know I could

be so much worse. My mom worries so much about me. I'd just like to be able to

be there for her like she has been for me.

Thanks for all the prayers.

W.

[Guest guest]

,

It must be a great releif that they will able to take care of her with

medication and she won't need surgery. I sure you will be keeping a close eye

on her. Does she live close to you? As for you, I'm sorry to hear that you are

still in pain. I was hoping the Shots would do the trick for you. I keep the

prayers coming your way.

Take Care,

Louie in WV

Re: To W . From Louie

Louie,

They found that my mom has a 50% blockage in one of the arteries in the heart

and a 30% blockage in another one. Neither blockage is in a main artery, but

the one that is 50% is just beyond th top of the main artery. At this point,

they are just going to put her on heart medication. They said medication

usually takes care of the blockage when they catch them at this point. He told

my mom that it would probably take about 2-3 weeks for the medication to make

her start feeling better.

As for the phenergan, it normally doesn't even make me tired. I have slept

almost all day today. I guess the massive shot of demerol/phenergan my pcp gave

me knocked me out. I woke up around 3 p.m. and was hurting so I took a lortab.

I just woke up a few minutes ago and am hurting again. My hubby asked if I had

been hurting all day. I first said yeah, then said, well except all the hours I

was asleep. It's not as bad as this morning but I am definitely in pain. For

now, I'm not nauseated, though.

Normally, I can remain upbeat even when I'm not feeling well. I know I could

be so much worse. My mom worries so much about me. I'd just like to be able to

be there for her like she has been for me.

Thanks for all the prayers.

W.

[Guest guest]

,

It must be a great releif that they will able to take care of her with

medication and she won't need surgery. I sure you will be keeping a close eye

on her. Does she live close to you? As for you, I'm sorry to hear that you are

still in pain. I was hoping the Shots would do the trick for you. I keep the

prayers coming your way.

Take Care,

Louie in WV

Re: To W . From Louie

Louie,

They found that my mom has a 50% blockage in one of the arteries in the heart

and a 30% blockage in another one. Neither blockage is in a main artery, but

the one that is 50% is just beyond th top of the main artery. At this point,

they are just going to put her on heart medication. They said medication

usually takes care of the blockage when they catch them at this point. He told

my mom that it would probably take about 2-3 weeks for the medication to make

her start feeling better.

As for the phenergan, it normally doesn't even make me tired. I have slept

almost all day today. I guess the massive shot of demerol/phenergan my pcp gave

me knocked me out. I woke up around 3 p.m. and was hurting so I took a lortab.

I just woke up a few minutes ago and am hurting again. My hubby asked if I had

been hurting all day. I first said yeah, then said, well except all the hours I

was asleep. It's not as bad as this morning but I am definitely in pain. For

now, I'm not nauseated, though.

Normally, I can remain upbeat even when I'm not feeling well. I know I could

be so much worse. My mom worries so much about me. I'd just like to be able to

be there for her like she has been for me.

Thanks for all the prayers.

W.

[Guest guest]

Louie,

My mom lives only about 5 miles from me. I spoke with her last night. She was

in good spirits and said they would be sending her home today. My pain is

better today than yesterday but is still there. I'm going to stay home today

and hope I can mke it in to work Thursday and Friday.

I have to go in Friday no matter what. My very dear friend at work has to go to

court on Friday and needs me there to possibly testify on her behalf. I have to

share the story of how our wonderful court systems work. My friend divorced

about two years ago. Her ex immediately married the woman he was having an

affair with. His visits with their son were at best sporadic. The little boy

would go into hysterics at even the mention of his father. He would beg his my

friend not to make him go. He was not quite 3 when this began. Even though he

only sees me a couple of times a year, he would go with me in a minute and be

totally happy. That says to me that something was not right when he was with

his dad, stepmom, and step siblings. The dad complained about everything he

did. Compared him to the step sibling who was a year older. Told my friend he

was slow. Told his own father the boy was retarded. Pitched a fit because the

boy cold not totally dress himself at not even 3 years old. I could go on and

on. Well, a year after the divorce, the dad totally quit seeing the son and

child support also stopped. This was last Sep. Getting child support was going

to be next to impossible because the dad kept changing jobs. The district

attorney's office had no interest in helping because my friend has a good job

and with budgeting she and her son could manage without child support. Anyway,

the dad's sister told him in Dec. that he should just give up his rights to the

son. He indicated he was agreeable to do that. My friend discussed it with

him. In Feb., he signed paperwork giving up his rights. To me, this should

have been a simple matter. He voluntarily signed away all rights. No- the

courts didn't see it that way. To make a long story short, the judge ended up

appointing a guardian ad litem (sp?) for the boy, which, of course, my friend

must pay for. This woman met for one hour with my friend, her son, and

attorney. The only questions she asked the boy were " what does your dad look

like? how tall is he? is he taller than you? " To the last question, the lawyer

laughed and said, " hell, everyon is taller than him - he's 4! " The boy answered

I don't know to the first two questions and yes to the third. The gaurdian A.L.

said, " well, he obviously has some recollection of his father. " It was like -

duh - no one said he didn't remember his dad! My friend and her attorney were

in agreement that they would allow the boy to meet with his dad if supervised by

the guardian A.L. Well, the guardian met with the dad and he must have done his

usual charming schmooze on her. The guardian wrote a letter to the court saying

she did not agree that it was in the best interest of the child to terminate the

father's rights. She said the mother was willing to forego all back and future

child support and the guardian didn't disagree with that. She said terminating

the father's rights might jepardize the child's future income as he would lose

any inheritance or SS he would be entitled to if the father died. She proposed

that the boy spend two weekends a month with the dad and his family for the next

two months. The guardian would meet with them and observe on the 4th visit.

Now, this dad let both the boy's 4th birthday last Oct. and Christmas go by with

not so much as a phone call. In Feb he signed away all rights to the kid. It's

now been a year since he has seen or even talked to the boy. My friend has

never once refused him visitation, even when her little boy was screaming and

begging not to be made to go with his father. Upon seeing this letter from the

guardian A.L., my friend told her attorney to dismiss the case. She has decided

that she will refuse to allow the father visitation until such time as a judge

orders her to comply. The father will never take her to court because he

doesn't care enough to bother and he also has no money. Well, the judge has

refused to dismiss the case and said everyone will be in court on Friday. We

feel pretty sure that the judge will not agree to terminate the dad's rights

(even though he signed them away willingly) and will most likely order my friend

to allow unsupervised overnight visitation with the dad. We are just praying

that the dad doesn't show up in court on Friday and that will send a message to

the judge as to just how concerned he is.

I've told my friend that even in my worst nightmare, I could have never imagine

that this could turn out this way!

W

[Guest guest]

,

I hope it turned out well for your friend and that the " Father of the Year " <

Just kidding!!!! I hope he didn't even show up in court so the system can see

what kind of Gem this guy really is.. A person like him, does even deserve

visitation rights. The best thing that could happen to your friend & her son

would be if he just drop off the face of the earth. I really can't stand people

who don't want to be brother with their own children, like kids are any brother

at all. Kids are hear to be loved and the apple of their parents eyes.

Well, let me know how it turns out. I'm glad that your mother is feeling better

and take care of yourself too.

Take Care,

Louie in WV

Re: To W . From Louie

Louie,

My mom lives only about 5 miles from me. I spoke with her last night. She

was in good spirits and said they would be sending her home today. My pain is

better today than yesterday but is still there. I'm going to stay home today

and hope I can mke it in to work Thursday and Friday.

I have to go in Friday no matter what. My very dear friend at work has to go

to court on Friday and needs me there to possibly testify on her behalf. I have

to share the story of how our wonderful court systems work. My friend divorced

about two years ago. Her ex immediately married the woman he was having an

affair with. His visits with their son were at best sporadic. The little boy

would go into hysterics at even the mention of his father. He would beg his my

friend not to make him go. He was not quite 3 when this began. Even though he

only sees me a couple of times a year, he would go with me in a minute and be

totally happy. That says to me that something was not right when he was with

his dad, stepmom, and step siblings. The dad complained about everything he

did. Compared him to the step sibling who was a year older. Told my friend he

was slow. Told his own father the boy was retarded. Pitched a fit because the

boy cold not totally dress himself at not even 3 years old. I could go on and

on. Well, a year after the divorce, the dad totally quit seeing the son and

child support also stopped. This was last Sep. Getting child support was going

to be next to impossible because the dad kept changing jobs. The district

attorney's office had no interest in helping because my friend has a good job

and with budgeting she and her son could manage without child support. Anyway,

the dad's sister told him in Dec. that he should just give up his rights to the

son. He indicated he was agreeable to do that. My friend discussed it with

him. In Feb., he signed paperwork giving up his rights. To me, this should

have been a simple matter. He voluntarily signed away all rights. No- the

courts didn't see it that way. To make a long story short, the judge ended up

appointing a guardian ad litem (sp?) for the boy, which, of course, my friend

must pay for. This woman met for one hour with my friend, her son, and

attorney. The only questions she asked the boy were " what does your dad look

like? how tall is he? is he taller than you? " To the last question, the lawyer

laughed and said, " hell, everyon is taller than him - he's 4! " The boy answered

I don't know to the first two questions and yes to the third. The gaurdian A.L.

said, " well, he obviously has some recollection of his father. " It was like -

duh - no one said he didn't remember his dad! My friend and her attorney were

in agreement that they would allow the boy to meet with his dad if supervised by

the guardian A.L. Well, the guardian met with the dad and he must have done his

usual charming schmooze on her. The guardian wrote a letter to the court saying

she did not agree that it was in the best interest of the child to terminate the

father's rights. She said the mother was willing to forego all back and future

child support and the guardian didn't disagree with that. She said terminating

the father's rights might jepardize the child's future income as he would lose

any inheritance or SS he would be entitled to if the father died. She proposed

that the boy spend two weekends a month with the dad and his family for the next

two months. The guardian would meet with them and observe on the 4th visit.

Now, this dad let both the boy's 4th birthday last Oct. and Christmas go by with

not so much as a phone call. In Feb he signed away all rights to the kid. It's

now been a year since he has seen or even talked to the boy. My friend has

never once refused him visitation, even when her little boy was screaming and

begging not to be made to go with his father. Upon seeing this letter from the

guardian A.L., my friend told her attorney to dismiss the case. She has decided

that she will refuse to allow the father visitation until such time as a judge

orders her to comply. The father will never take her to court because he

doesn't care enough to bother and he also has no money. Well, the judge has

refused to dismiss the case and said everyone will be in court on Friday. We

feel pretty sure that the judge will not agree to terminate the dad's rights

(even though he signed them away willingly) and will most likely order my friend

to allow unsupervised overnight visitation with the dad. We are just praying

that the dad doesn't show up in court on Friday and that will send a message to

the judge as to just how concerned he is.

I've told my friend that even in my worst nightmare, I could have never

imagine that this could turn out this way!

W

[Guest guest]

,

I hope it turned out well for your friend and that the " Father of the Year " <

Just kidding!!!! I hope he didn't even show up in court so the system can see

what kind of Gem this guy really is.. A person like him, does even deserve

visitation rights. The best thing that could happen to your friend & her son

would be if he just drop off the face of the earth. I really can't stand people

who don't want to be brother with their own children, like kids are any brother

at all. Kids are hear to be loved and the apple of their parents eyes.

Well, let me know how it turns out. I'm glad that your mother is feeling better

and take care of yourself too.

Take Care,

Louie in WV

Re: To W . From Louie

Louie,

My mom lives only about 5 miles from me. I spoke with her last night. She

was in good spirits and said they would be sending her home today. My pain is

better today than yesterday but is still there. I'm going to stay home today

and hope I can mke it in to work Thursday and Friday.

I have to go in Friday no matter what. My very dear friend at work has to go

to court on Friday and needs me there to possibly testify on her behalf. I have

to share the story of how our wonderful court systems work. My friend divorced

about two years ago. Her ex immediately married the woman he was having an

affair with. His visits with their son were at best sporadic. The little boy

would go into hysterics at even the mention of his father. He would beg his my

friend not to make him go. He was not quite 3 when this began. Even though he

only sees me a couple of times a year, he would go with me in a minute and be

totally happy. That says to me that something was not right when he was with

his dad, stepmom, and step siblings. The dad complained about everything he

did. Compared him to the step sibling who was a year older. Told my friend he

was slow. Told his own father the boy was retarded. Pitched a fit because the

boy cold not totally dress himself at not even 3 years old. I could go on and

on. Well, a year after the divorce, the dad totally quit seeing the son and

child support also stopped. This was last Sep. Getting child support was going

to be next to impossible because the dad kept changing jobs. The district

attorney's office had no interest in helping because my friend has a good job

and with budgeting she and her son could manage without child support. Anyway,

the dad's sister told him in Dec. that he should just give up his rights to the

son. He indicated he was agreeable to do that. My friend discussed it with

him. In Feb., he signed paperwork giving up his rights. To me, this should

have been a simple matter. He voluntarily signed away all rights. No- the

courts didn't see it that way. To make a long story short, the judge ended up

appointing a guardian ad litem (sp?) for the boy, which, of course, my friend

must pay for. This woman met for one hour with my friend, her son, and

attorney. The only questions she asked the boy were " what does your dad look

like? how tall is he? is he taller than you? " To the last question, the lawyer

laughed and said, " hell, everyon is taller than him - he's 4! " The boy answered

I don't know to the first two questions and yes to the third. The gaurdian A.L.

said, " well, he obviously has some recollection of his father. " It was like -

duh - no one said he didn't remember his dad! My friend and her attorney were

in agreement that they would allow the boy to meet with his dad if supervised by

the guardian A.L. Well, the guardian met with the dad and he must have done his

usual charming schmooze on her. The guardian wrote a letter to the court saying

she did not agree that it was in the best interest of the child to terminate the

father's rights. She said the mother was willing to forego all back and future

child support and the guardian didn't disagree with that. She said terminating

the father's rights might jepardize the child's future income as he would lose

any inheritance or SS he would be entitled to if the father died. She proposed

that the boy spend two weekends a month with the dad and his family for the next

two months. The guardian would meet with them and observe on the 4th visit.

Now, this dad let both the boy's 4th birthday last Oct. and Christmas go by with

not so much as a phone call. In Feb he signed away all rights to the kid. It's

now been a year since he has seen or even talked to the boy. My friend has

never once refused him visitation, even when her little boy was screaming and

begging not to be made to go with his father. Upon seeing this letter from the

guardian A.L., my friend told her attorney to dismiss the case. She has decided

that she will refuse to allow the father visitation until such time as a judge

orders her to comply. The father will never take her to court because he

doesn't care enough to bother and he also has no money. Well, the judge has

refused to dismiss the case and said everyone will be in court on Friday. We

feel pretty sure that the judge will not agree to terminate the dad's rights

(even though he signed them away willingly) and will most likely order my friend

to allow unsupervised overnight visitation with the dad. We are just praying

that the dad doesn't show up in court on Friday and that will send a message to

the judge as to just how concerned he is.

I've told my friend that even in my worst nightmare, I could have never

imagine that this could turn out this way!

W

[Guest guest]

,

I hope it turned out well for your friend and that the " Father of the Year " <

Just kidding!!!! I hope he didn't even show up in court so the system can see

what kind of Gem this guy really is.. A person like him, does even deserve

visitation rights. The best thing that could happen to your friend & her son

would be if he just drop off the face of the earth. I really can't stand people

who don't want to be brother with their own children, like kids are any brother

at all. Kids are hear to be loved and the apple of their parents eyes.

Well, let me know how it turns out. I'm glad that your mother is feeling better

and take care of yourself too.

Take Care,

Louie in WV

Re: To W . From Louie

Louie,

My mom lives only about 5 miles from me. I spoke with her last night. She

was in good spirits and said they would be sending her home today. My pain is

better today than yesterday but is still there. I'm going to stay home today

and hope I can mke it in to work Thursday and Friday.

I have to go in Friday no matter what. My very dear friend at work has to go

to court on Friday and needs me there to possibly testify on her behalf. I have

to share the story of how our wonderful court systems work. My friend divorced

about two years ago. Her ex immediately married the woman he was having an

affair with. His visits with their son were at best sporadic. The little boy

would go into hysterics at even the mention of his father. He would beg his my

friend not to make him go. He was not quite 3 when this began. Even though he

only sees me a couple of times a year, he would go with me in a minute and be

totally happy. That says to me that something was not right when he was with

his dad, stepmom, and step siblings. The dad complained about everything he

did. Compared him to the step sibling who was a year older. Told my friend he

was slow. Told his own father the boy was retarded. Pitched a fit because the

boy cold not totally dress himself at not even 3 years old. I could go on and

on. Well, a year after the divorce, the dad totally quit seeing the son and

child support also stopped. This was last Sep. Getting child support was going

to be next to impossible because the dad kept changing jobs. The district

attorney's office had no interest in helping because my friend has a good job

and with budgeting she and her son could manage without child support. Anyway,

the dad's sister told him in Dec. that he should just give up his rights to the

son. He indicated he was agreeable to do that. My friend discussed it with

him. In Feb., he signed paperwork giving up his rights. To me, this should

have been a simple matter. He voluntarily signed away all rights. No- the

courts didn't see it that way. To make a long story short, the judge ended up

appointing a guardian ad litem (sp?) for the boy, which, of course, my friend

must pay for. This woman met for one hour with my friend, her son, and

attorney. The only questions she asked the boy were " what does your dad look

like? how tall is he? is he taller than you? " To the last question, the lawyer

laughed and said, " hell, everyon is taller than him - he's 4! " The boy answered

I don't know to the first two questions and yes to the third. The gaurdian A.L.

said, " well, he obviously has some recollection of his father. " It was like -

duh - no one said he didn't remember his dad! My friend and her attorney were

in agreement that they would allow the boy to meet with his dad if supervised by

the guardian A.L. Well, the guardian met with the dad and he must have done his

usual charming schmooze on her. The guardian wrote a letter to the court saying

she did not agree that it was in the best interest of the child to terminate the

father's rights. She said the mother was willing to forego all back and future

child support and the guardian didn't disagree with that. She said terminating

the father's rights might jepardize the child's future income as he would lose

any inheritance or SS he would be entitled to if the father died. She proposed

that the boy spend two weekends a month with the dad and his family for the next

two months. The guardian would meet with them and observe on the 4th visit.

Now, this dad let both the boy's 4th birthday last Oct. and Christmas go by with

not so much as a phone call. In Feb he signed away all rights to the kid. It's

now been a year since he has seen or even talked to the boy. My friend has

never once refused him visitation, even when her little boy was screaming and

begging not to be made to go with his father. Upon seeing this letter from the

guardian A.L., my friend told her attorney to dismiss the case. She has decided

that she will refuse to allow the father visitation until such time as a judge

orders her to comply. The father will never take her to court because he

doesn't care enough to bother and he also has no money. Well, the judge has

refused to dismiss the case and said everyone will be in court on Friday. We

feel pretty sure that the judge will not agree to terminate the dad's rights

(even though he signed them away willingly) and will most likely order my friend

to allow unsupervised overnight visitation with the dad. We are just praying

that the dad doesn't show up in court on Friday and that will send a message to

the judge as to just how concerned he is.

I've told my friend that even in my worst nightmare, I could have never

imagine that this could turn out this way!

W

[Guest guest]

Louie,

Well, I ended up being in the hospital with an acute attack so I didn't get to

go with my friend to court. Luckily, another friend went with her. Her ex did

show up in court but he admitted to the judge two times that he did want his

parental rights terminated. The gaurdian ad litem (who was supposed to be

representing the child) stood up and said that the ex really didn't want to

terminate his rights. The judge asked him again and he said yes he did want to

terminate his rights. The juvenile court judge refused to rule on the case, so

essentially it was all a big waste of money and time. The ex did call my friend

and told her that he would sign a statement and have it notarized saying that he

didn't want to have any visitation with his son and that if anything should

happen to her that the son would go to a guardian she specified. Her lawyer

told her that would certainly be better than nothing and it might be enough to

convince a judge to let her parents have custody of her son if she should die.

I just cannot understand why a judge will not terminate the dad's rights when he

has signed a statement saying he wants nothing to do with his son and then told

the judge the same thing twice in court. My friend could certainly use the

child support he owes but she earns enough to get by without it. The father

told my friend that he clearly told the guardian ad litem that he did not want a

relationship with his son. He said he wasn't going to even come to the hearing

but the guardian ad litem told him if he was not there she would have him

arrested! We cannot figure out why this guardian ad litem (who is being paid to

determine what is in the best interest of the minor child) is so determined that

the child should have a relationship with a father who wants nothing to do with

him.

Anyway, it does seem that the father is not going to try to have visitation with

the child, so things could have turned out worse.

W

[Guest guest]

Louie,

Well, I ended up being in the hospital with an acute attack so I didn't get to

go with my friend to court. Luckily, another friend went with her. Her ex did

show up in court but he admitted to the judge two times that he did want his

parental rights terminated. The gaurdian ad litem (who was supposed to be

representing the child) stood up and said that the ex really didn't want to

terminate his rights. The judge asked him again and he said yes he did want to

terminate his rights. The juvenile court judge refused to rule on the case, so

essentially it was all a big waste of money and time. The ex did call my friend

and told her that he would sign a statement and have it notarized saying that he

didn't want to have any visitation with his son and that if anything should

happen to her that the son would go to a guardian she specified. Her lawyer

told her that would certainly be better than nothing and it might be enough to

convince a judge to let her parents have custody of her son if she should die.

I just cannot understand why a judge will not terminate the dad's rights when he

has signed a statement saying he wants nothing to do with his son and then told

the judge the same thing twice in court. My friend could certainly use the

child support he owes but she earns enough to get by without it. The father

told my friend that he clearly told the guardian ad litem that he did not want a

relationship with his son. He said he wasn't going to even come to the hearing

but the guardian ad litem told him if he was not there she would have him

arrested! We cannot figure out why this guardian ad litem (who is being paid to

determine what is in the best interest of the minor child) is so determined that

the child should have a relationship with a father who wants nothing to do with

him.

Anyway, it does seem that the father is not going to try to have visitation with

the child, so things could have turned out worse.

W

[Guest guest]

Louie,

Well, I ended up being in the hospital with an acute attack so I didn't get to

go with my friend to court. Luckily, another friend went with her. Her ex did

show up in court but he admitted to the judge two times that he did want his

parental rights terminated. The gaurdian ad litem (who was supposed to be

representing the child) stood up and said that the ex really didn't want to

terminate his rights. The judge asked him again and he said yes he did want to

terminate his rights. The juvenile court judge refused to rule on the case, so

essentially it was all a big waste of money and time. The ex did call my friend

and told her that he would sign a statement and have it notarized saying that he

didn't want to have any visitation with his son and that if anything should

happen to her that the son would go to a guardian she specified. Her lawyer

told her that would certainly be better than nothing and it might be enough to

convince a judge to let her parents have custody of her son if she should die.

I just cannot understand why a judge will not terminate the dad's rights when he

has signed a statement saying he wants nothing to do with his son and then told

the judge the same thing twice in court. My friend could certainly use the

child support he owes but she earns enough to get by without it. The father

told my friend that he clearly told the guardian ad litem that he did not want a

relationship with his son. He said he wasn't going to even come to the hearing

but the guardian ad litem told him if he was not there she would have him

arrested! We cannot figure out why this guardian ad litem (who is being paid to

determine what is in the best interest of the minor child) is so determined that

the child should have a relationship with a father who wants nothing to do with

him.

Anyway, it does seem that the father is not going to try to have visitation with

the child, so things could have turned out worse.

W