Guest guest Posted October 22, 2002 Report Share Posted October 22, 2002 Hi Christy and everyone, Wow........more parents who feels these feelings! It is so good to have cyberfriends isn't it? And funny, I seem to be the Mom that wants to do the fun stuff......the school field trips, the Halloween parties for all 's friends, great birthday parties, play dates, be on committees at school for fundraisers, help out my mom or dad with something, sew my sister's daughter a new duvet cover and curtains..........should I go on?????!!!!!....okay, make dinner for a friend who has cancer, a friend who had a new baby (a healthy baby), take a meal to someone who lost a loved one, watch someone's kids after school because they are shopping, etc. etc. I guess I am just feeling really down lately.........I have been crying too. It has been a long time since I have cried so much. I remember I used to go and take out of his crib and hold him for a long time at night and rock him and just sob. He is a sound sleeper and never even woke up. I joined the old Cystic-l after my husband bought me a computer and that really helped. But then it was hard because it seemed like there were so many friends dying.......it was so hard to read these messages. I know it happens.....it even happens to other kids, bike accidents, cancer, etc. I guess they don't have to live with the thought that this 'might' happen to their kids. Maybe that is the stressful part for me? And Christy, I can relate about the toilet problems. That is another who ball park......delegating giving medication to someone else. Now takes care of his pills at lunch at school. We've had problems with them changing the lunch menu and then he takes the pills I put in the cup anyway, which are too many....or they have french fries and he eats them all and did not get enough pills. It is horrendous, the worry I feel, hoping that 'everything' comes out allright. And I think that the jealousy thing is a real issue. Christian was a really terrible 2yo.....and I think that he really thought that I was giving more attention to because of my need to attend to the medications and vest etc. so often. When he had surgery for nasal polyps and a Picc line last summer, it was really hard managing that. I used to have more time to read to while doing his vest or watch a movie with him, but now it seems I am always busy with dinner or something. I do get some Me time playing wallyball at the Ymca, which is fun a couple of times a week. And Christian has preschool now 2 mornings, so there is some time to grocery shop or walk the Walmart aisles in peace! Let's all hang in there together! I am so glad to be here to share important information and our feelings like this. Thank you to you all. Cheri B., Mom to 8yo invitro baby wcf & Christian 3yo adopted nocf both Gifts from Heaven! ------------------------------------------- Introducing NetZero Long Distance Unlimited Long Distance only $29.95/ month! Sign Up Today! www.netzerolongdistance.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2002 Report Share Posted October 22, 2002 Hi Christy and everyone, Wow........more parents who feels these feelings! It is so good to have cyberfriends isn't it? And funny, I seem to be the Mom that wants to do the fun stuff......the school field trips, the Halloween parties for all 's friends, great birthday parties, play dates, be on committees at school for fundraisers, help out my mom or dad with something, sew my sister's daughter a new duvet cover and curtains..........should I go on?????!!!!!....okay, make dinner for a friend who has cancer, a friend who had a new baby (a healthy baby), take a meal to someone who lost a loved one, watch someone's kids after school because they are shopping, etc. etc. I guess I am just feeling really down lately.........I have been crying too. It has been a long time since I have cried so much. I remember I used to go and take out of his crib and hold him for a long time at night and rock him and just sob. He is a sound sleeper and never even woke up. I joined the old Cystic-l after my husband bought me a computer and that really helped. But then it was hard because it seemed like there were so many friends dying.......it was so hard to read these messages. I know it happens.....it even happens to other kids, bike accidents, cancer, etc. I guess they don't have to live with the thought that this 'might' happen to their kids. Maybe that is the stressful part for me? And Christy, I can relate about the toilet problems. That is another who ball park......delegating giving medication to someone else. Now takes care of his pills at lunch at school. We've had problems with them changing the lunch menu and then he takes the pills I put in the cup anyway, which are too many....or they have french fries and he eats them all and did not get enough pills. It is horrendous, the worry I feel, hoping that 'everything' comes out allright. And I think that the jealousy thing is a real issue. Christian was a really terrible 2yo.....and I think that he really thought that I was giving more attention to because of my need to attend to the medications and vest etc. so often. When he had surgery for nasal polyps and a Picc line last summer, it was really hard managing that. I used to have more time to read to while doing his vest or watch a movie with him, but now it seems I am always busy with dinner or something. I do get some Me time playing wallyball at the Ymca, which is fun a couple of times a week. And Christian has preschool now 2 mornings, so there is some time to grocery shop or walk the Walmart aisles in peace! Let's all hang in there together! I am so glad to be here to share important information and our feelings like this. Thank you to you all. Cheri B., Mom to 8yo invitro baby wcf & Christian 3yo adopted nocf both Gifts from Heaven! ------------------------------------------- Introducing NetZero Long Distance Unlimited Long Distance only $29.95/ month! Sign Up Today! www.netzerolongdistance.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2002 Report Share Posted October 22, 2002 Hi Christy and everyone, Wow........more parents who feels these feelings! It is so good to have cyberfriends isn't it? And funny, I seem to be the Mom that wants to do the fun stuff......the school field trips, the Halloween parties for all 's friends, great birthday parties, play dates, be on committees at school for fundraisers, help out my mom or dad with something, sew my sister's daughter a new duvet cover and curtains..........should I go on?????!!!!!....okay, make dinner for a friend who has cancer, a friend who had a new baby (a healthy baby), take a meal to someone who lost a loved one, watch someone's kids after school because they are shopping, etc. etc. I guess I am just feeling really down lately.........I have been crying too. It has been a long time since I have cried so much. I remember I used to go and take out of his crib and hold him for a long time at night and rock him and just sob. He is a sound sleeper and never even woke up. I joined the old Cystic-l after my husband bought me a computer and that really helped. But then it was hard because it seemed like there were so many friends dying.......it was so hard to read these messages. I know it happens.....it even happens to other kids, bike accidents, cancer, etc. I guess they don't have to live with the thought that this 'might' happen to their kids. Maybe that is the stressful part for me? And Christy, I can relate about the toilet problems. That is another who ball park......delegating giving medication to someone else. Now takes care of his pills at lunch at school. We've had problems with them changing the lunch menu and then he takes the pills I put in the cup anyway, which are too many....or they have french fries and he eats them all and did not get enough pills. It is horrendous, the worry I feel, hoping that 'everything' comes out allright. And I think that the jealousy thing is a real issue. Christian was a really terrible 2yo.....and I think that he really thought that I was giving more attention to because of my need to attend to the medications and vest etc. so often. When he had surgery for nasal polyps and a Picc line last summer, it was really hard managing that. I used to have more time to read to while doing his vest or watch a movie with him, but now it seems I am always busy with dinner or something. I do get some Me time playing wallyball at the Ymca, which is fun a couple of times a week. And Christian has preschool now 2 mornings, so there is some time to grocery shop or walk the Walmart aisles in peace! Let's all hang in there together! I am so glad to be here to share important information and our feelings like this. Thank you to you all. Cheri B., Mom to 8yo invitro baby wcf & Christian 3yo adopted nocf both Gifts from Heaven! ------------------------------------------- Introducing NetZero Long Distance Unlimited Long Distance only $29.95/ month! Sign Up Today! www.netzerolongdistance.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 23, 2002 Report Share Posted October 23, 2002 Cheri, I'm sorry you've been feeling so bad lately and have been crying. How lucky those people are to have you in their life and to take care of things. Remember to always take care of yourself too though! I know it seems as if there isn't enough time in the day for that but you have to do it. I'm learning the hard way. I'm like you always doing for everyone and then one day I couldn't do it anymore. Emotionally I was drained. People started taking advantage of me. They say people come in your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. I've had a lot of those " reason " people in my life since coming to Hawaii. To teach me to take care of me first, then my family and everyone else after that. I hope you are feeling better soon and the crying subsides. Maybe next time Christian is in preschool you can go get a pedicure or if money and time allows, I FULLY RECOMMEND a facial! One time I almost cried during it because I was so relaxed and peaceful. It was wonderful! Take care and lots of love, Christy > Hi Christy and everyone, > Wow........more parents who feels these feelings! It is so good to have > cyberfriends isn't it? And funny, I seem to be the Mom that wants to do the > fun stuff......the school field trips, the Halloween parties for all > 's friends, great birthday parties, play dates, be on committees at > school for fundraisers, help out my mom or dad with something, sew my > sister's daughter a new duvet cover and curtains..........should I go > on?????!!!!!....okay, make dinner for a friend who has cancer, a friend who > had a new baby (a healthy baby), take a meal to someone who lost a loved > one, watch someone's kids after school because they are shopping, etc. etc. > > I guess I am just feeling really down lately.........I have been crying too. > It has been a long time since I have cried so much. I remember I used to go > and take out of his crib and hold him for a long time at night and > rock him and just sob. He is a sound sleeper and never even woke up. I > joined the old Cystic-l after my husband bought me a computer and that > really helped. But then it was hard because it seemed like there were so > many friends dying.......it was so hard to read these messages. I know it > happens.....it even happens to other kids, bike accidents, cancer, etc. I > guess they don't have to live with the thought that this 'might' happen to > their kids. Maybe that is the stressful part for me? > > And Christy, I can relate about the toilet problems. That is another who > ball park......delegating giving medication to someone else. Now > takes care of his pills at lunch at school. We've had problems with them > changing the lunch menu and then he takes the pills I put in the cup anyway, > which are too many....or they have french fries and he eats them all and did > not get enough pills. It is horrendous, the worry I feel, hoping that > 'everything' comes out allright. > > And I think that the jealousy thing is a real issue. Christian was a really > terrible 2yo.....and I think that he really thought that I was giving more > attention to because of my need to attend to the medications and > vest etc. so often. When he had surgery for nasal polyps and a Picc line > last summer, it was really hard managing that. I used to have more time to > read to while doing his vest or watch a movie with him, but now it > seems I am always busy with dinner or something. > > I do get some Me time playing wallyball at the Ymca, which is fun a couple > of times a week. And Christian has preschool now 2 mornings, so there is > some time to grocery shop or walk the Walmart aisles in peace! Let's all > hang in there together! I am so glad to be here to share important > information and our feelings like this. Thank you to you all. > Cheri B., Mom to 8yo invitro baby wcf & Christian 3yo adopted nocf > both Gifts from Heaven! > > > ------------------------------------------- > Introducing NetZero Long Distance > Unlimited Long Distance only $29.95/ month! > Sign Up Today! www.netzerolongdistance.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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