Great news! My son's a liar because of SCD! Very Long sorry!

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So I always had thought that Elijah ALWAYS told me the honest truth about

what crime he just committed because he took after me and was mostly a good kid

(he's a great kid, I'm teasing). And my daughter, who began lying at age 17

months and does enough back talking for the both of them, obviously took after

my husband's side; my mother-in-law most likely (LOL!). Elijah always

disclosed without hesitation exactly what he had done even with some details

when asked and almost enjoyed getting put in time-out or having a toy taken

away. I think with his ASD it was comforting to have dependable cause and

effects; I hit my sister -- I go in time out.

So about a month ago he had committed some crime and I asked him what he

had done and he said " I can't tell you. " This is when I began to realize that

recovery might mean that his truth telling might end. I think he always lacked

the creativity and the social understanding that he shouldn't what me to know

the truth. Sure enough last week the lied THREE times in one afternoon! And

they weren't just " yes " or " no " lies either. a started to scream. I

asked, " Why is a crying? " Elijah says, " I just vroomed (meaning drove the

car) on...the book " that was sitting right next to him. Obviously he drove the

car over his sister and he made up a little story/lie. The next one was quite

similar and the third one...when I went to put him in time out he said he needed

to go potty to get out of it. I fell for it and he did not need to go. What

problem solving and creativity!!!! I was so proud of him and excited but I kept

my composure in order to not to encourage him

to use these new skills against me.

A couple week before this he deceived me and charmed me all at once and

I'm afraid I was too enamored to correct the behavior. As part of his ASD he

always used to destroy the playroom. Not out of anger. He would just zone out

and knock everything on the floor and then take one of his big dump truck and

swipe it at high speeds on the floor into all the toys. I'd tell him he had to

stop and I was just ignored. As I describe above every form of discipline just

seemed to fit a " If A, then B " kind of format of his day. He was a danger to my

daughter and himself when he got like this. He would continue this in whatever

room unless I turned on the TV or sat and read with him to calm him down. A few

weeks ago he started to trash the play room. He hadn't done this for a while

and my heart sank a little. I walked to the play room door and he popped up,

walked to the center of the room, and said in the sweetest voice, " Mommy, could

I please clean it up now. " I was so

thrilled. I said, " Sure buddy. " and walked back into the kitching with a big

grin on my face and he continued to trash the room. I was so caught up in the

improvement that if took me a while to go back in. I finally did and he said,

" Oh-no, Mommy I need to clean it up. " I just couldn't believe it. I was so

happy and stunned that I don't think that I ever stopped him!

This is getting really long, but I'll make this quick. This isn't about

lying. Elijah would always get scared when people at the grocery store or

strangers looked at him or tried to engage him. Whenever he got upset on any

level he would have a very hard time verbalizing anything. But around

Christmas, for the first time, in a crowded grocery store, someone said " hi " and

waved, and he fussed and said " Mommy I'm scared of the peoples. " I was so

thrilled my response probably was so strange to everyone around. " YOU ARE!!!

WELL THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR TELLING ME. THAT'S REALLY GREAT USING YOUR WORDS!!! "

I went on for another 2 aisle and was beaming throughout the whole grocery

store. Now he is saying Hi to strangers and introducing himself!

SCD has been the major key to my son's recovery (which is still in

process). We hadn't changed anything but his diet to SCD and added enzymes so

I'm sure SCD is so important to my son (and to my daughter as I recently

posted). And this group is so important to SCD success thanks to everyone.

Sorry of the length, but I wanted to celebrate and also encourage the newcomers.

Now if he would just have a brown formed stool and put on some weight and be

able to eat more than a handful of foods. I can be patient, though, we've had a

lot of success already.

Thank you,

Elijah 3 (ASD? just a couple quirks, leaky-gut)

a 2 this month

SCD almost 4 months

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