Cookie Cutter

[Guest guest]

Dear Cathy,

Reading your heartbreaking story about the cruel kids in s

class. brought me right back into those terrible years in elementary

school. It's amazing that in 35 years nothing really has changed. My

life was a living hell back then. I was pretty, I was sensitive, I was

sweet, I was equally as smart. But................ of course I was

chubby and they were not going to let me forget it. They did everything

in their power to destroy me. When I say " they " it wasn't the entire

class, it was just two girls who the entire class was afraid of.; Alice

and Janet, and they were enough to make my life miserable. When I turned

14 I had enough. I went on Weight Watchers, I dyed my hair blond, and

then I started to baby sit like crazy to make enough money to get a nose

job, just to change my looks 100% I did not really even need it but my

parents gave in. I walked into school after the summer and was

unrecognizable. Even though my life drastically changed,and I became

very popular from that point on, I never forgave Janet or Alice for

making my childhood so terribly painful! Years later after we were all

married and had children, I had a reunion at my beautiful home on the

water at the time and Alice and Janet both came. I actually took the

time to tell them the terrible pain they had caused me through all the

elementary years. They both had this dumb look on their faces like they

were clueless to what they had done. Amazing isn't it? they both tried

to destroy my life and would beat me up on the playground or after school

everyday and took no claim or responsibility. It was not even memorable

to them, yet they ruined my self esteem with out even knowing or caring.

If it matters to your beautiful you can tell her from me, she

will be the victor in all of this. She will get the nicest husband,

she will live a beautiful life and she will have great children who will

grow up sensitive and caring to the world around them, because she will

teach them that! Tell her to be brave and to always be sure who she is

and keep that beautiful smile. If those mean and stupid girls had half

of s confidence, , they wouldn't have the need to make other

peoples lives so miserable. Better days are coming... I promise

Luv, Susie, soon to be MGB

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Dear Susie and Cathy,

You just finished telling my life story by telling your own... but you

are right, Susie....we as adults can teach our children to break the

cycle....

Thank God above my children were not " chubs " like I was (and still am),

but they learned from a very early age that I would not tolerate cruelty to

anyone for any reason...

Both of my girls are in their 20's now, and they live the lessons I

taught them about caring and compassion for others no matter how they look

or what they do or don't have!

And, to my amazement, I too confronted one of my tormenters who was

also totally " clueless " concerning the grief and anguish she caused me for

years! Guess what!!! That is how I choose to think of her each time she

crosses my path---CLUELESS IN EVERYTHING THAT MATTERS IN LIFE!!!

We as parents should do everything possible to teach our children to be

kind, but sadly I don't see this happening with the up and coming

generation... Case in point: while standing in line at the grocery store

the other day I was subjected to a 5 year old who said repeatedly to me,

" You're FAT, you're FAT, you're FAT!! " Her mother heard every word and

never once told her not to call me names!!! I simply replied to the child,

" Yes, I am! " But believe me, my expressions told the mother of that child

plenty about what a lousy parent I considered her to be!!!

Tell she is a beautiful, intelligent, wonderful person! And

anyone who says she isn't is: CLUELESS!!!!

Carol K.

Pre MGB

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>Reply-To: MiniGastricBypass (AT) e

>To: MiniGastricBypass (AT) e

>Subject: Cookie Cutter

>Date: Fri, 2 Jun 2000 19:28:35 -0700

>

>Dear Cathy,

> Reading your heartbreaking story about the cruel kids in s

>class. brought me right back into those terrible years in elementary

>school. It's amazing that in 35 years nothing really has changed. My

>life was a living hell back then. I was pretty, I was sensitive, I was

>sweet, I was equally as smart. But................ of course I was

>chubby and they were not going to let me forget it. They did everything

>in their power to destroy me. When I say " they " it wasn't the entire

>class, it was just two girls who the entire class was afraid of.; Alice

>and Janet, and they were enough to make my life miserable. When I turned

>14 I had enough. I went on Weight Watchers, I dyed my hair blond, and

>then I started to baby sit like crazy to make enough money to get a nose

>job, just to change my looks 100% I did not really even need it but my

>parents gave in. I walked into school after the summer and was

>unrecognizable. Even though my life drastically changed,and I became

>very popular from that point on, I never forgave Janet or Alice for

>making my childhood so terribly painful! Years later after we were all

>married and had children, I had a reunion at my beautiful home on the

>water at the time and Alice and Janet both came. I actually took the

>time to tell them the terrible pain they had caused me through all the

>elementary years. They both had this dumb look on their faces like they

>were clueless to what they had done. Amazing isn't it? they both tried

>to destroy my life and would beat me up on the playground or after school

>everyday and took no claim or responsibility. It was not even memorable

>to them, yet they ruined my self esteem with out even knowing or caring.

>If it matters to your beautiful you can tell her from me, she

>will be the victor in all of this. She will get the nicest husband,

>she will live a beautiful life and she will have great children who will

>grow up sensitive and caring to the world around them, because she will

>teach them that! Tell her to be brave and to always be sure who she is

>and keep that beautiful smile. If those mean and stupid girls had half

>of s confidence, , they wouldn't have the need to make other

>peoples lives so miserable. Better days are coming... I promise

>Luv, Susie, soon to be MGB

>________________________________________________________________

>YOU'RE PAYING TOO MUCH FOR THE INTERNET!

>Juno now offers FREE Internet Access!

>Try it today - there's no risk! For your FREE software, visit:

>http://dl.www.juno.com/get/tagj.

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