Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 In a message dated 07/05/2000 7:53:58 AM Central Daylight Time, floridagrrrlll@... writes: << Does he really need to know?.... >> Tamara, NOPE...he does not NEED to know. My hubby is slim. He looks awesome and could be a male model. He has no idea how much I weigh. I just don't see how he could benefit by knowing my starting weight. I am contemplating telling him once I reach goal weight. But, I may not tell him even then. (My weight is still a great source of embarrassment to me.) So, it's up to you. Do you feel comfortable telling him? le six week post op Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 In a message dated 07/05/2000 7:53:58 AM Central Daylight Time, floridagrrrlll@... writes: << Does he really need to know?.... >> Tamara, NOPE...he does not NEED to know. My hubby is slim. He looks awesome and could be a male model. He has no idea how much I weigh. I just don't see how he could benefit by knowing my starting weight. I am contemplating telling him once I reach goal weight. But, I may not tell him even then. (My weight is still a great source of embarrassment to me.) So, it's up to you. Do you feel comfortable telling him? le six week post op Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 In a message dated 07/05/2000 9:29:58 AM Central Daylight Time, tbarbee@... writes: << Was your husband supportive of your surgery? My husband seems to think surgery just isn't but I see it as my only hope. >> Terri, He was very supportive, but he still maintains I could have done it without the surgery. I told him he's right, but I couldn't keep it off. He's seen me lose hundreds of pounds only to regain them. So, he's glad I did it. He saw me suffering from a poor body image and I would hardly leave the house. Now, I am back to my old fun self. le Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 In a message dated 07/05/2000 9:29:58 AM Central Daylight Time, tbarbee@... writes: << Was your husband supportive of your surgery? My husband seems to think surgery just isn't but I see it as my only hope. >> Terri, He was very supportive, but he still maintains I could have done it without the surgery. I told him he's right, but I couldn't keep it off. He's seen me lose hundreds of pounds only to regain them. So, he's glad I did it. He saw me suffering from a poor body image and I would hardly leave the house. Now, I am back to my old fun self. le Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 Well, My husband went to the doc with me 4 weeks before surgery and the nurse said so you are 225 right I looked at my husband and he said no way. Gee I had already lost 17 pounds. He was is shock, but when I hit 199 he thought it was cool. Gee go figure. Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 Well, My husband went to the doc with me 4 weeks before surgery and the nurse said so you are 225 right I looked at my husband and he said no way. Gee I had already lost 17 pounds. He was is shock, but when I hit 199 he thought it was cool. Gee go figure. Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 Well, My husband went to the doc with me 4 weeks before surgery and the nurse said so you are 225 right I looked at my husband and he said no way. Gee I had already lost 17 pounds. He was is shock, but when I hit 199 he thought it was cool. Gee go figure. Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 le, Where have you been? I've been looking for your post for about 3 days now. Oh! you actually celebrated Independence Day. Sorry in Durham and moving to Chapel Hill soon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 le, Where have you been? I've been looking for your post for about 3 days now. Oh! you actually celebrated Independence Day. Sorry in Durham and moving to Chapel Hill soon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 le, Where have you been? I've been looking for your post for about 3 days now. Oh! you actually celebrated Independence Day. Sorry in Durham and moving to Chapel Hill soon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 Flo, I agree with you and everyone else. There is a line and weight is the deciding factor. BTW congratulations on the weight loss. in Durham and moving to Chapel Hill soon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 le, I read your post to Tamara and I'm glad to see that someone else keeps their weight from their husband. It kills my husband when I won't tell him how much I weigh but I truly see no benefit from it. My husband is also thin and comes from family of thins ones. I know even in his old age he will not experience the " middle spread " . Was your husband supportive of your surgery? My husband seems to think surgery just isn't but I see it as my only hope. Terri At 09:41 AM 7/5/00 EDT, you wrote: >In a message dated 07/05/2000 7:53:58 AM Central Daylight Time, >floridagrrrlll@... writes: > ><< Does he really need to know?.... >> > >Tamara, > >NOPE...he does not NEED to know. My hubby is slim. He looks awesome and could >be a male model. He has no idea how much I weigh. I just don't see how he >could benefit by knowing my starting weight. I am contemplating telling him >once I reach goal weight. But, I may not tell him even then. (My weight is >still a great source of embarrassment to me.) So, it's up to you. Do you feel >comfortable telling him? > >le >six week post op > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Free Conference Calling with Firetalk! >Host your next egroup meeting live on Firetalk. >Click here! >http://click.egroups.com/1/5478/3/_/453517/_/962804508/ >------------------------------------------------------------------------ > >This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com >Please visit our web site at http://clos.net >Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 le, I read your post to Tamara and I'm glad to see that someone else keeps their weight from their husband. It kills my husband when I won't tell him how much I weigh but I truly see no benefit from it. My husband is also thin and comes from family of thins ones. I know even in his old age he will not experience the " middle spread " . Was your husband supportive of your surgery? My husband seems to think surgery just isn't but I see it as my only hope. Terri At 09:41 AM 7/5/00 EDT, you wrote: >In a message dated 07/05/2000 7:53:58 AM Central Daylight Time, >floridagrrrlll@... writes: > ><< Does he really need to know?.... >> > >Tamara, > >NOPE...he does not NEED to know. My hubby is slim. He looks awesome and could >be a male model. He has no idea how much I weigh. I just don't see how he >could benefit by knowing my starting weight. I am contemplating telling him >once I reach goal weight. But, I may not tell him even then. (My weight is >still a great source of embarrassment to me.) So, it's up to you. Do you feel >comfortable telling him? > >le >six week post op > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Free Conference Calling with Firetalk! >Host your next egroup meeting live on Firetalk. >Click here! >http://click.egroups.com/1/5478/3/_/453517/_/962804508/ >------------------------------------------------------------------------ > >This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com >Please visit our web site at http://clos.net >Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 , Girl, I have been in the gym trying to get my aerobic instructor's body. Plus I was playing step mammy this month...so glad that is over with until Christmas. Anyway, I am not very far away. I am off to get my nail and toes spruced up. le Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 , Girl, I have been in the gym trying to get my aerobic instructor's body. Plus I was playing step mammy this month...so glad that is over with until Christmas. Anyway, I am not very far away. I am off to get my nail and toes spruced up. le Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 , Girl, I have been in the gym trying to get my aerobic instructor's body. Plus I was playing step mammy this month...so glad that is over with until Christmas. Anyway, I am not very far away. I am off to get my nail and toes spruced up. le Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 I too would never ever ever tell my husband or anyone but you guys my true weight! Let them guess...it's good exercise for their minds. And...it's nobody's business either! My husband and I have been together between dating and marriage for 40 years. We have shared a lot. But there's a line....and my weight is definately on my side of the line! Flo in land Florence Ballengee Hollywood, land florence@... Download NeoPlanet at http://www.neoplanet.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 I too would never ever ever tell my husband or anyone but you guys my true weight! Let them guess...it's good exercise for their minds. And...it's nobody's business either! My husband and I have been together between dating and marriage for 40 years. We have shared a lot. But there's a line....and my weight is definately on my side of the line! Flo in land Florence Ballengee Hollywood, land florence@... Download NeoPlanet at http://www.neoplanet.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 I think by telling my weight helped him understand what the reality of my obesity/life was/is all about. He could not belive I weighed that much...... He is thrilled and seems to be happy I have had the surgery. But from the start he wanted me to do more on my own. See we have not been together that long so he really didnt comprehend the big picture of weight gain throughout the years. I m not obsessed with the numbers any more. I know, understand, and see the results to what is happening to my new body/life. This is a life long process and Lord knows we've all been there and back. But, for some reason, I m dealing better with other " things in my life " , because I have time for them. I m not constantly worring where my next meal is coming from. I could give a flip about food now. It turns me off so bad, but I eat because I m hungry...hmmmm thats a first. I m not enjoying the food fix I use to . My excitement for today was, I truly enjoyed a diet snapple that quenched my thirst (I was able to guzzle 6 big sips at a time). So much for progress! As to my favorite food, well I have to say what worked yesterday doesnt work for today , I dont understand this but I m still learning. To all who are coming up to the plate next week my heartfelt prayers and thoughts are with you. And perhaps July 26th I will meet some of you! Looking for you on the other side...... Lori 5-31-00 286 6-1-00 256 In MiniGastricBypass (AT) e, metrishal@a... wrote: > Well, My husband went to the doc with me 4 weeks before surgery and the nurse > said so you are 225 right I looked at my husband and he said no way. Gee I > had already lost 17 pounds. He was is shock, but when I hit 199 he thought > it was cool. Gee go figure. > Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 In a message dated 7/5/2000 6:47:38 PM Eastern Daylight Time, SpecialAngel36@... writes: << inside to myself as I thought... " Oh boy, is he WAY off " . Isn't it awful when 250 seems like a small number? >> , You are to funny! My husband about 6 months ago said the same thing except he was waaaaaay off. He said what are about 185 I just giggled and said close..LOL Gee, I didn't know I could hide it that good. Alli are you ready? I wish you were going the next week when I will be there and maybe FLo too. you are in my prayers! Sweet journey my little friend! Trisha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 It's that under 200 thing that is magical. I think... a metrishal@... wrote: > > Well, My husband went to the doc with me 4 weeks before surgery and the nurse > said so you are 225 right I looked at my husband and he said no way. Gee I > had already lost 17 pounds. He was is shock, but when I hit 199 he thought > it was cool. Gee go figure. > Trish > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Free Conference Calling with Firetalk! > Click Here! > http://click.egroups.com/1/5480/3/_/453517/_/962809269/ > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 It's that under 200 thing that is magical. I think... a metrishal@... wrote: > > Well, My husband went to the doc with me 4 weeks before surgery and the nurse > said so you are 225 right I looked at my husband and he said no way. Gee I > had already lost 17 pounds. He was is shock, but when I hit 199 he thought > it was cool. Gee go figure. > Trish > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Free Conference Calling with Firetalk! > Click Here! > http://click.egroups.com/1/5480/3/_/453517/_/962809269/ > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 It's that under 200 thing that is magical. I think... a metrishal@... wrote: > > Well, My husband went to the doc with me 4 weeks before surgery and the nurse > said so you are 225 right I looked at my husband and he said no way. Gee I > had already lost 17 pounds. He was is shock, but when I hit 199 he thought > it was cool. Gee go figure. > Trish > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Free Conference Calling with Firetalk! > Click Here! > http://click.egroups.com/1/5480/3/_/453517/_/962809269/ > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 Dear Flo, I feel exactly what you mean about husbands not knowing our true weight. Let 'em guess. A couple of months ago, my husband was making a derogatory comment about my weight. He said 'What are you about 250 " All I could do is look at him really funny and smile inside to myself as I thought... " Oh boy, is he WAY off " . Isn't it awful when 250 seems like a small number? > > I too would never ever ever tell my husband or anyone but you guys my true weight! Let > them guess...it's good exercise for their minds. And...it's nobody's business either! > > My husband and I have been together between dating and marriage for 40 years. We have > shared a lot. But there's a line....and my weight is definately on my side of the line! > > Flo in land > > > > > > > > > Florence Ballengee > Hollywood, land > florence@u... > > Download NeoPlanet at http://www.neoplanet.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2000 Report Share Posted July 5, 2000 Dear Flo, I feel exactly what you mean about husbands not knowing our true weight. Let 'em guess. A couple of months ago, my husband was making a derogatory comment about my weight. He said 'What are you about 250 " All I could do is look at him really funny and smile inside to myself as I thought... " Oh boy, is he WAY off " . Isn't it awful when 250 seems like a small number? > > I too would never ever ever tell my husband or anyone but you guys my true weight! Let > them guess...it's good exercise for their minds. And...it's nobody's business either! > > My husband and I have been together between dating and marriage for 40 years. We have > shared a lot. But there's a line....and my weight is definately on my side of the line! > > Flo in land > > > > > > > > > Florence Ballengee > Hollywood, land > florence@u... > > Download NeoPlanet at http://www.neoplanet.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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