Re: [Orthognathic Surgery Support) Hi Shiloh.

[Guest guest]

assertiveness training.

I'm planning to have a talk with my boss in the

morning. She's a wonderful and very understanding, so

maybe I can make it clear to her how I'm feeling and

maybe I can work less hours.

=you got to take control, if you NEED to work LESS hours then just

say that you need to do it and lets find a way to make it happen.

end of story, if you give them the option of saying no they will, or

they will make you feel guilty.

Put your efforts energy into finding a job you want.

I know it's got to get better. I will probably start

crying as soon as I start talking about how I feel.

Crying comes with just about every emotion I have. I

guess the tears come mostly because I absolutely hate

to let people down or feel like I have become a burden

to someone. You're right--- this place is not going

to cease to exist if I'm not there. Work will go on

without me, and they will handle it. Thank you so

much for pointing that out.

=yeah seems to me you are having what I call my minicrisis.

Kinda like midlife but they can happen for a week or so once a year

when someone shakes up your snowglobe of life. Crying seems to me

that you have few emmotional reserves left which is good, maybe you

should tell someone off? or atleast fantasize about it.

YOu sound like a people pleaser, so I am but are you pleasing the

right people? I think givers give where ever they are asked but it

takes a long time to see the difference between someone who needs

and someone who's lazy and apathetic.

And at this time YOU need people supporting you and they are

demanding more, whatever happened to YOUR NEEDS? Have you

adequately told people the kind of pain, discomfort you are in, or

do you spare them the details and talk about them? I do the same.

However having kids and a hubby gives me a built in excuse now.

Feel free to email me off post if you want some more support.

Trust me I have been there, am there, its a good thing to be so

toughtful and kind, but you have to see where to put your energies

as you have found out you can reach empty on the emmotional gas tank.

Shiloh