Guest guest Posted April 15, 2004 Report Share Posted April 15, 2004 hi everyone..im 8 days post op and i havent slept all nite coz my dry mouth and throat kept bothering me. even water doesnt help. i dont knw what to do. and i dont know why but i feel so ugly today. im scared about the results of the surgery and i cant tell my family how i feel coz they'll think im crazy. i know its too soon but still im very scared and i cant even cry coz its hurts when i do...im not the sort of person who gets depressed very often. infact i deal with situations very well but this time i dunno how to deal with this. i just had to write down how i feel gauri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2004 Report Share Posted April 15, 2004 Don't worry. You WILL HEAL. From what I hear, this is a totally normal reaction you're having. The first weeks are very difficult. But, the results will be worth it. Stay strong! > hi everyone..im 8 days post op and i havent slept all nite coz my > dry mouth and throat kept bothering me. even water doesnt help. i > dont knw what to do. and i dont know why but i feel so ugly today. > im scared about the results of the surgery and i cant tell my family > how i feel coz they'll think im crazy. i know its too soon but still > im very scared and i cant even cry coz its hurts when i do...im not > the sort of person who gets depressed very often. infact i deal with > situations very well but this time i dunno how to deal with this. > i just had to write down how i feel > gauri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2004 Report Share Posted April 15, 2004 thank you so much for your support! where are you having your surgery? even i had to take the HIV test but thats just a hospital formality. they need it know if you are or not. nothing to do with your surgery. gauri > > hi everyone..im 8 days post op and i havent slept all nite coz my > > dry mouth and throat kept bothering me. even water doesnt help. i > > dont knw what to do. and i dont know why but i feel so ugly today. > > im scared about the results of the surgery and i cant tell my family > > how i feel coz they'll think im crazy. i know its too soon but still > > im very scared and i cant even cry coz its hurts when i do...im not > > the sort of person who gets depressed very often. infact i deal with > > situations very well but this time i dunno how to deal with this. > > i just had to write down how i feel > > gauri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2004 Report Share Posted April 15, 2004 also, in a physiological sense, recovering from general anesthesia can cause depression. i was crying over everything during my first two weeks post-op. all i had to do was start talking to someone and i would start crying - i didn't even know why half the time. that could be part of it... the obvious thing would be that you've gone through some major stuff recently. it will get better. i promise. > > hi everyone..im 8 days post op and i havent slept all nite coz my > > dry mouth and throat kept bothering me. even water doesnt help. i > > dont knw what to do. and i dont know why but i feel so ugly today. > > im scared about the results of the surgery and i cant tell my family > > how i feel coz they'll think im crazy. i know its too soon but still > > im very scared and i cant even cry coz its hurts when i do...im not > > the sort of person who gets depressed very often. infact i deal with > > situations very well but this time i dunno how to deal with this. > > i just had to write down how i feel > > gauri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2004 Report Share Posted April 15, 2004 It will get better soon. The end of the first week is when everything really started to get to me too--the congestion, weird nerve jolts, sleeplessness from discomfort and too many decongestants, and wanting to eat real food (not to mention concerns about what I would ultimately look like when the swelling went down). Sometime during the second week, though, you start to look a little more human. At 2 weeks plus, I'm still pretty swollen (especially that pesky upper lip), but it's a vast improvement over week 1. I'd talk to your family about how you feel--it helped a lot to have everyone say that they could see how much better my post-op chin was going to look compared to my pre-op underbite (I was worried that I'd been left with too little chin after having too much before). My husband's and parents' support really helped pull me out of my slump. Renting comedies and watching them also helped (as did having my kids come back home from grandma's house). Just try to keep your mind busy so you don't have time to worry. As for the dry nose and throat, I'm guessing you already have a humidifier, but I sure noticed a difference on the nights I forgot to turn it on. Unfortunately, it just kind of has to pass (I've lost the dry throat thing now but the dry nose persists due to Dallas allergy season). Try using lots of that Ocean saline mist on your nose. My biggest fear before the surgery was that something would go wrong and I'd never wake up--after the surgery, I tried to think about that whenever I got worried about something else (at least I woke up!). I know nobody can really say anything to make you feel better, but it really will get better very soon. My 3 year old has even stopped walking around saying " your face looks funny " and then laughing hysterically. It's tough to know that you aren't going to look your best for the first six weeks or so, but your friends and family know you had the surgery and they aren't going to think you look ugly (they know it's only temporary, too). Of course, I'm still thinking about having a button made that says " I'm still swollen, and I'm not going to look like this in a few weeks. " Hang in there--I'll bet you'll be feeling better before you even read this. It doesn't take long for those blues to pass. > hi everyone..im 8 days post op and i havent slept all nite coz my > dry mouth and throat kept bothering me. even water doesnt help. i > dont knw what to do. and i dont know why but i feel so ugly today. > im scared about the results of the surgery and i cant tell my family > how i feel coz they'll think im crazy. i know its too soon but still > im very scared and i cant even cry coz its hurts when i do...im not > the sort of person who gets depressed very often. infact i deal with > situations very well but this time i dunno how to deal with this. > i just had to write down how i feel > gauri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2004 Report Share Posted April 15, 2004 My son felt the same way. He didn't think the dr corrected his jaw correctly, but the dr told him to be patient. Honestly, I wasn't so sure either. Now, 5 1/2 weeks later, he looks GREAT and keeps getting better. He exceeds my hopes for a normal jaw. He went for his 6 week check up today and is cleared to eat and resume a " normal " life. He is so pleased, as are we all. Hang in there. Every day gets better from today. I know you will look and feel great before long. > > > hi everyone..im 8 days post op and i havent slept all nite coz my > > > dry mouth and throat kept bothering me. even water doesnt help. i > > > dont knw what to do. and i dont know why but i feel so ugly > today. > > > im scared about the results of the surgery and i cant tell my > family > > > how i feel coz they'll think im crazy. i know its too soon but > still > > > im very scared and i cant even cry coz its hurts when i do...im > not > > > the sort of person who gets depressed very often. infact i deal > with > > > situations very well but this time i dunno how to deal with this. > > > i just had to write down how i feel > > > gauri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2004 Report Share Posted April 15, 2004 You're not crazy. Depression is a common aftereffect of the steroids and the anesthesia. Almost everybody has it to a greater or lesser degree. Much of what you're feeling is biochemical -- I hope that's consoling to you. It will be better. You're not ugly, either, but you'll look better once you have more healing. Remember, the docs did some major rearrangement of your bones and tissues, and you have to give your body some time to get itself back together. For the dry mouth, I dunno. Biotene makes some gels and mouth rinses that are supposed to help. One person who posted several years ago used to carry a little spray bottle (the kind some folks use for misting plants) everywhere, filled with water, and she believed it helped to give herself frequent squirts. Ask your doc. I know there are some medications (Salagen is one) that can be used to relieve dry mouth, but I don't know whether it has potent side effects. The instance in which I know it was used was a big-time thing, with effects of radiation and so forth... It's fine to talk about your feelings, here or with your family (especially if you can tell them that this is something they can help you through, explain that it's the aftermath of the steroids and anesthesia and that it will pass). But it's even better if you can get yourself focused on the future, positive things that will be good and better. Is there an un-taxing project that could keep you busy? Redoing your address book, maybe, or rearranging some drawers? Even giving yourself a nice manicure? Cammie > hi everyone..im 8 days post op and i havent slept all nite coz my > dry mouth and throat kept bothering me. even water doesnt help. i > dont knw what to do. and i dont know why but i feel so ugly today. > im scared about the results of the surgery and i cant tell my family > how i feel coz they'll think im crazy. i know its too soon but still > im very scared and i cant even cry coz its hurts when i do...im not > the sort of person who gets depressed very often. infact i deal with > situations very well but this time i dunno how to deal with this. > i just had to write down how i feel > gauri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2004 Report Share Posted April 16, 2004 Gauri, I can tell you now that it's a completely normal reaction. It may be weeks before you start to look and feel " normal " again, but think of it this way... in a few short months you're going to have confidence you never dreamed of, people will react to you differently... not to mention all of the medical benefits that come with the procedure. It'll all be worth it, I promise. So just hang in there! It will get better, believe it or not! > hi everyone..im 8 days post op and i havent slept all nite coz my > dry mouth and throat kept bothering me. even water doesnt help. i > dont knw what to do. and i dont know why but i feel so ugly today. > im scared about the results of the surgery and i cant tell my family > how i feel coz they'll think im crazy. i know its too soon but still > im very scared and i cant even cry coz its hurts when i do...im not > the sort of person who gets depressed very often. infact i deal with > situations very well but this time i dunno how to deal with this. > i just had to write down how i feel > gauri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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