Guest guest Posted December 22, 2002 Report Share Posted December 22, 2002 In a message dated 12/22/2002 1:28:18 PM Eastern Standard Time, w82go2001@... writes: > Look, we all know we looked like hell before we lost some weight I don't think fat people look like hell. Fay Bayuk 300/177 10/23/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2002 Report Share Posted December 22, 2002 I don't think there's any need for flaming, but I do think that's what this list is for... some of us are more sensitive than others, and I don't tell people how to feel. When someone says something that hurts my feelings, and it's related to weight, I'm likely to come here and vent about it. Where else is there a more appropriate outlet, than a support group of people who have all been thru the same garbage? Just my opinion... sarah s minneapolis Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2002 Report Share Posted December 22, 2002 My ex-husband used to say that he only opened his mouth to switch feet. I thought it was funny when things were good, but towards the end, it was less amusing. Open RNY 09/17/01 310/128/125 ________________________________ From: vickiang Sent: Sun 12/22/2002 11:42 AM To: Graduate-OSSG Subject: Too sensitive " Some days my mind is like a bad neighborhood. Every time I go in, I get mugged. " I don't blame others for blurting out things and sticking their foot in mouth. I do it to myself all of the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2002 Report Share Posted December 22, 2002 In a message dated 12/23/2002 1:28:39 AM Eastern Standard Time, vitalady@... writes: > Some do, some don't--depends on what it does to you. I did. > how do I find your before picture, I would like to see what hell looks like. Fay Bayuk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2002 Report Share Posted December 22, 2002 Ok, flame away. Donna Actually Donna deep in my heart I always come back to these same sentiments! I know that these people are truly trying to express to me that I do look terrific NOW.......I guess that it is just really hard to do without the " comparison " thing! I realized that people don't come up to my naturally thin sister and say " Gee, Jen, you look fantastic!' I guess if I was going to be totally honest with myself I would realize that the left-handed compliments and such really hurt so much because it is a constant drawback reminder to those painful days when, like you said, we knew we looked like hell and we still had to function and walk around in those bodys anyway!! I was always trying to over emphasize other attributes like a wonderful, funny personality or talents, accomplishments, or kids.......anything to take the thoughts away from the one constant reminder of my biggest failure........the WEIGHT!! The comments really do bring it all back for me......and it can also bring UP the fear of " of my God, what if I put it all back? " .....then I will be this horrendous looking individual again that they are all now comparing me too.........now that they have come out and told me just how FAT, and terrible looking I was. I guess that these are also the things that I use to motivate me when I don't want to work out....or want to eat these damn chocolate covered Oreos............ARGH!!!!!!! P. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2002 Report Share Posted December 22, 2002 I realized that people don't come up to my naturally thin sister and say " Gee, Jen, you look fantastic!' Oh, I most humbly and respectfully disagree! " Thin " people get hit on all of the time. They get flirting, compliments, attention as a normal course. Maybe they become desensitized to it, or perceive it as normal and it doesn't bug them most of the time. And for myself, if one of my normie friends gets, for instance, a way different new hairdo, I absolutely notice it and rave about it. Or a tan, or a fantastic new item... I agree, the attention is on high when people notice the change, but it's going to be higher than usual, and maybe even higher than comfortable for a lot of us who have never experienced life thin. In a lot of cases, I think we are just getting to see the way the world really is for the majority of people out there. Vicki A. By the way, somebody complained about flaming. I didn't see any flaming. Am I missing something? I didn't do it did I? Can't imagine how...you would tell me, wouldn't you? > Ok, > flame away. > > Donna > > Actually Donna deep in my heart I always come back to these same sentiments! > I know that these people are truly trying to express to me that I do look > terrific NOW.......I guess that it is just really hard to do without the > " comparison " thing! I realized that people don't come up to my naturally > thin sister and say " Gee, Jen, you look fantastic!' I guess if I was going > to be totally honest with myself I would realize that the left- handed > compliments and such really hurt so much because it is a constant drawback > reminder to those painful days when, like you said, we knew we looked like > hell and we still had to function and walk around in those bodys anyway!! I > was always trying to over emphasize other attributes like a wonderful, funny > personality or talents, accomplishments, or kids.......anything to take the > thoughts away from the one constant reminder of my biggest > failure........the WEIGHT!! The comments really do bring it all back for > me......and it can also bring UP the fear of " of my God, what if I put it > all back? " .....then I will be this horrendous looking individual again that > they are all now comparing me too.........now that they have come out and > told me just how FAT, and terrible looking I was. I guess that these are > also the things that I use to motivate me when I don't want to work > out....or want to eat these damn chocolate covered > Oreos............ARGH!!!!!!! P. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2002 Report Share Posted December 22, 2002 Some do, some don't--depends on what it does to you. I did. Thanks, Vitalady T www.vitalady.com If you are interested in PayPal, please click here: https://secure.paypal.com/affil/pal=vitalady%40bigfoot.com Re: Too sensitive > In a message dated 12/22/2002 1:28:18 PM Eastern Standard Time, > w82go2001@... writes: > > > Look, we all know we looked like hell before we lost some weight > > I don't think fat people look like hell. > > Fay Bayuk 300/177 10/23/01 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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