Re: Dreading people's reactions...

[Guest guest]

I want to wear out a pair anywhere but between the thighs! I have

worn out jeans/pants before but always have worn giant holes between

the legs where my fat thighs rubbed away the fabric. Now I want to

wear out the knees or seat or.........

Alice

The Loon

RNY 12/28/00

.....I might actually wear out some jeans some day which would be a

first.

> sue

[Guest guest]

No Shit Sherlock (tongue in cheek!) . . . . .Even though I am 4 YEARS

post op, I have yet to wear the same size season to season yet. I

was sooooo much smaller this year, than I was at last year's Holidaze

that I had to give all my holiday sweaters away, except the

smalls . . .there is not too much further down to go from there? I

think I have finally bottomed out on my weight and will now vary by

the up and down in a 5 - 10 pound range (up 5 down 5 but the same

midline). . . Since it is the first time I have had a stable weight

since I started seriously dieting at 18 . . . it is hard to imagine

wearing something out or having it totally out of style Vs is being

too small as the reason to stop wearing it and giving something

away . . . Hey, I still have a perfectly great pair of GUESS jeans

that are high waisted with narrow legs and zippers at the

ankles . . . c'mon designers how about some retro 88, forget the 20

year rule! Its cool now, HONEST! (Although I would cut the waist

band off!)

) Vicki

> whats even more weird is going from season to season and year to

year and

> the clothes still fit. I've never owned the same clothing for 3

winters - I

> might actually wear out some jeans some day which would be a first.

> sue

[Guest guest]

Speaking of sizes, I decided to wear a pair of gray slacks to work today..

they were really snug when my aunt bought them and gave them to me early

fall.. now they are sooo loose.. and I thought I wasnt still in the losing

mode.. I guess , now that I am 2 years post op from my original surgery and

almost a year from my last revision surgery, my weight loss has slowed a

great deal.. In fact, I was a bit concerned that my eating was getting

slightly out of control the past few weeks..

I attributed my lousy eating habits of late to working long, grueling,

tiring retail hours , stress, and excitement.. have a new granddaughter..

However, all of the above are just excuses.. and I realize that those were

the exact kind of things that led me to being morbidly obese in the first

place..

Like says, we have a disease, the surgery is not a cure, but a

tool to allow us to get our disease in remission, and staying in remission

is up to us.. by getting in our water, vitamins, and protein supplements..

When we dont do the legwork to maintain, we are the ones to pay the price..

whether it be weight gain, or ill health.. I havent experienced the weight

gain as of yet, but know all about the ill health effects ... not due to my

lack of willingness, but due to the problems I encountered that resulted in

my last surgery.

I hope you all have a blessed New Year.

Take care

from GA

open RNY 12/12/00

Revision 04/18/01

Revision 02/07/02

St wt.... 392

Cw.......187

Wt loss..-205

[Guest guest]

My personal experience is that my size changed and weight shifted for a few

months after my weight was stable. Also as you get closer to your natural

body weight, less weight loss (less than 5 pounds) causes bigger physical

changes. I actually kept my breasts until the last 15 - 20 pounds and then

they were gone! I lost super slow, never stopping to weight myself . .

..90/95 pounds the first year. Then sometime between my first and fourth

anniversaries I lost another 35 to 45 pounds . . . And as I said even after

your weight is stable the body can still adjust!

) Vicki

In a message dated 12/26/2002 5:05:15 AM Pacific Standard Time, Gigi8083

writes:

> Speaking of sizes, I decided to wear a pair of gray slacks to work today..

> they were really snug when my aunt bought them and gave them to me early

> fall.. now they are sooo loose.. and I thought I wasnt still in the losing

> mode.. I guess , now that I am 2 years post op from my original surgery and

> almost a year from my last revision surgery, my weight loss has slowed a

> great deal.. In fact, I was a bit concerned that my eating was getting

> slightly out of control the past few weeks..

>

[Guest guest]

OMG!! This post totaly made me cry with regret! I saw pictures of me

in high school. I was 170 pounds at 5'10 " . I looked fantstic,

Never had a shortage of dates, was deeply involved in student

council, yet my parents hounded me about my weight. I can remember my

mother, at the dining table, grabbing me by my hair and forcing me

onto the scale, all the time screaming that she loved me and wanted

to buy me nice clothes, but I was too fat.

I am telling you, the stuff we go through is not fit to print. Thank

God we have each other in this forum...nobody else would understand.

Hugs,

Vicki A.

Jacque, me too! I was cleaning out my parents' house last spring

after

> my mother died, and found some pictures of myself as a kid. Totally

> contrary to what my parents told me, I was *not* fat, and I was

*not*

> huge, and I did *not* have an enormous belly! In fact, the first

time I

> saw one of those pictures, I thought, " Wow, how did a picture of my

> daughter get in here? " She is a lovely, tall 8-year-old who holds

> herself with the grace of a ballerina. But I grew up believing I

was

> huge, big-boned, ugly, and ungainly.

>

> > in my head, " it is only a

> matter of time...so don't get used to this " ....kind of mentality?!?

>

> Yep, again, this is something I experience. The last time I came

within

> spitting distance of 200 lbs., I was there for approximately five

> minutes before I started regaining. The thing that has surprised me

(so

> far) about WLS is that I've been hovering around the 155 - 160 mark

now

> for nearly three months. Three whole months at one weight! Can you

> imagine? (Yes, that was a note of sarcasm you detected there.) The

> thought that this might be, after all, my permanent weight...well,

I

> frankly just don't believe it.

>

> > I, even

> as a kid, learned to look at gifts from my parents with

dread...because

> there were always strings attached to them.

>

> I call these " elastic band gifts " -- the elastic band is attached,

and

> may spring back at any time, whipping the gift out of your hands

and

> back to its " rightful owner " . Been there, done that, got the scars

> (even though they're not visible on the outside).

>

> You're right that a lot of this stuff needs to be countered just by

> internal self-talk; and we need to realize that we're not in that

> helpless little kid place any longer. We're (gasp!) the GROWN-UPS

now!!

> We get to make our own decisions, and one of the decisions I've

made is

> that I am going to take care of my body from now on. Another is

that my

> parents, for whatever reason, thought it was best for me to

convince me

> of my hugeness -- I think they thought that if they were always on

my

> case about it, I would avoid my father's (and my grandmother's)

> lifelong struggle with weight. Surprise, surprise...it didn't work!

So

> my decision around this is that I no longer believe what they said

> about me -- I believe what I see with my own eyes, and perceive

with my

> own body. And although right now that's a little bit skewed, I'm

> hopeful that it will eventually iron itself out. I hope the same is

> true for you.

>

> I.

>

> --

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> RNY September 19, 2001

> Dr. Freeman, Ottawa General Hospital

> BMI then: 43.5

> BMI now: 22

> -152 lbs

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