Questions about Respite Care

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Before we hired full-time help for Ken, I did use someone for five days when

I returned to Minnesota for a High School Reunion. I hired her privately and

she was highly recommended, but first, I talked to several Nursing Homes, all

of which would have taken him. I did pay privately, but there are

organizations such as PRO and your local Caregiver's Organization that can

help with the payment if necessary.

Barbara

[Guest guest]

My 17 yr. old would like to go look at colleges for next year. Last

year his dad was able to go see one college with him but this year

that is impossible if the school is not in driving distance. Since

we live in Arizona, schools in the East are not driving distance for

a weekend trip. Jerry (MSA) can not be left alone and although we

have friends who could spend time during the day with him, an

overnight would not be possible. Has anyone used short term respite

care? If so, where did you look? How did you find out about what if

anything your insurance would cover? Does anyone have any other

creative ideas? My son would gladly go by himself but I don't feel

good about a 17 yr. old wandering around the East Coast alone. He

would also like me to go with him. I think he needs time alone with

me where our primary focus is on him and not on caring for his dad.

This is one great kid who lovingly provides care for his dad whenever

he can. His dad will really miss him when he goes off to college but

dad also wants him to be able to see the schools so he can make good

decisions for his future. So any suggestions would be greatly

appreciated.

Thanks, Jan

[Guest guest]

Jan, others on the list may have more information on respite care

options, but I can tell you that in Indiana some of the Area Agencies on

Aging operate and/or fund respite care programs - although I think they

tend to be more " day time care " than around the clock care.

And in my hometown, our hospital is building a facility for exactly what

you describe - short term respite stays. Or if you will, a short-term

assisted living facility.

Have you contacted an assisted living facility near you to see if they

offer

short-term admissions?

Jerry Cash

Questions about Respite Care

My 17 yr. old would like to go look at colleges for next year. Last

year his dad was able to go see one college with him but this year

that is impossible if the school is not in driving distance. Since

we live in Arizona, schools in the East are not driving distance for

a weekend trip. Jerry (MSA) can not be left alone and although we

have friends who could spend time during the day with him, an

overnight would not be possible. Has anyone used short term respite

care? If so, where did you look? How did you find out about what if

anything your insurance would cover? Does anyone have any other

creative ideas? My son would gladly go by himself but I don't feel

good about a 17 yr. old wandering around the East Coast alone. He

would also like me to go with him. I think he needs time alone with

me where our primary focus is on him and not on caring for his dad.

This is one great kid who lovingly provides care for his dad whenever

he can. His dad will really miss him when he goes off to college but

dad also wants him to be able to see the schools so he can make good

decisions for his future. So any suggestions would be greatly

appreciated.

Thanks, Jan

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Thanks Jerry, I will make some calls. I just started thinking about

this last night when my son said he would like to look at a couple

schools in the D.C. area. Thank you for the suggestion of the

Assisted Living facilities. I honestly didn't know where to start.

jan

> Jan, others on the list may have more information on respite care

> options, but I can tell you that in Indiana some of the Area

Agencies on

> Aging operate and/or fund respite care programs - although I think

they

> tend to be more " day time care " than around the clock care.

>

> And in my hometown, our hospital is building a facility for exactly

what

> you describe - short term respite stays. Or if you will, a short-

term

> assisted living facility.

>

> Have you contacted an assisted living facility near you to see if

they

> offer

> short-term admissions?

>

> Jerry Cash

>

> Questions about Respite Care

>

>

> My 17 yr. old would like to go look at colleges for next year.

Last

> year his dad was able to go see one college with him but this year

> that is impossible if the school is not in driving distance. Since

> we live in Arizona, schools in the East are not driving distance

for

> a weekend trip. Jerry (MSA) can not be left alone and although we

> have friends who could spend time during the day with him, an

> overnight would not be possible. Has anyone used short term

respite

> care? If so, where did you look? How did you find out about what

if

> anything your insurance would cover? Does anyone have any other

> creative ideas? My son would gladly go by himself but I don't feel

> good about a 17 yr. old wandering around the East Coast alone. He

> would also like me to go with him. I think he needs time alone

with

> me where our primary focus is on him and not on caring for his

dad.

> This is one great kid who lovingly provides care for his dad

whenever

> he can. His dad will really miss him when he goes off to college

but

> dad also wants him to be able to see the schools so he can make

good

> decisions for his future. So any suggestions would be greatly

> appreciated.

> Thanks, Jan

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Jan,

I don't have any information or ideas about care for Jerry where you could

go with your son but I do have one offer.

Your son is more than welcome to stay here with us in Charlotte if he

wants to look at schools in this area. I am positive that would be

willing to go with him to these schools and I would help go over the info

with him... having a 10 year history with higher education... prior to

retirement.

I'm sure that there are others here on this list, in various parts of the

country including the East cost that would be willing to make the same offer

as I have.

Hugs,

Deborah

My 17 yr. old would like to go look at colleges for next year. Last

year his dad was able to go see one college with him but this year

that is impossible if the school is not in driving distance. Since

we live in Arizona, schools in the East are not driving distance for

a weekend trip. Jerry (MSA) can not be left alone and although we

have friends who could spend time during the day with him, an

overnight would not be possible. Has anyone used short term respite

care? If so, where did you look? How did you find out about what if

anything your insurance would cover? Does anyone have any other

creative ideas? My son would gladly go by himself but I don't feel

good about a 17 yr. old wandering around the East Coast alone. He

would also like me to go with him. I think he needs time alone with

me where our primary focus is on him and not on caring for his dad.

This is one great kid who lovingly provides care for his dad whenever

he can. His dad will really miss him when he goes off to college but

dad also wants him to be able to see the schools so he can make good

decisions for his future. So any suggestions would be greatly

appreciated.

Thanks, Jan

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Jan,

I have a friend from church whose mother owns a company that I believe is

called " Home Instead. " They go into homes and do things for people who don't

want to go into a home. They do everything from cooking to errand running as

well as patient care. I will find out the phone number from my friend. She

operates out of the Mesa area and goes all over the valley. They are on a lot

of the lists at the hospitals for those who need help. This may be an answer

for you. We would definitely use them for my dad if the need comes up. I

would think that this might be a good option for you if you are interested.

Jean Suico

[Guest guest]

Ditto for Santa Barbara! I work at UC, Santa Barbara and we live about five minutes from the campus! He is welcome here at anytime, and we do have room. What an exciting time for you guys...hard to see them go, but what wonderful things lie ahead for them.

Elaine Grimmesey

[Guest guest]

HI! wow. my son is a sophomore at University of Rochester. Where is ur

son looking?? WHAT IS HE INTERESTED IN??

UR AND CASE WESTERN WERE VERY ACCOMMODATING TO ALL OF OUR NEEDS.

SEE BELOW FOR MY IDEAS

janburg88 wrote:

>

> My 17 yr. old would like to go look at colleges for next year. Last

> year his dad was able to go see one college with him but this year

> that is impossible if the school is not in driving distance.

IF ANY OF THE UNIVERSITIES ARE IN CLEVELAND, THEN PLEASE STOP BY OUR

HOME. WE WOULD BE GLAD HELP OUT WHERE HELP IS NEEDED. I HAVE A

HANDICAPPED VAN WITH A LIFT.

ANOTHER POSSIBILITY IS CONTACT THE SUPPORT GROUP LEADER AND SEE IF THEY

WOULD BE WILLING TO HELP U AND UR HUSBAND.

THE SCHOOLS WE LOOKED AT WERE THE FOLLOWING;

NORTHWESTERN IN CHGO., UNIVERSITY OF CHGO., WASHINGTON UNIVERSITY IN ST.

LOUIS, CASE WESTERN UNIVERSITY IN CLEVELAND, UNIVERSITY OF ROCHESTER AND

ROCHESTER INSTITUTE OF TECHNOLOGY.

HOW DID WE DO IT??

WE FLEW TO ST. LOUIS TRIP 1

TRIP 2

WE DROVE TO UR AND RIT AND STAYED AT THE HAMPTON INN. WE INFORM THE

UNIVERSITIES IN DETAIL WHAT I NEEDED. THE HANDICAPPED/DISABLED SERVICE

HELPED 1000%!!!

- REQURED A HOTEL

-REQUIRED A WHEELCHAIR AND A STUDENT TO PUSH IT

-REQUIRED PARKING DIRECTLY BEHIND WHEREVER I HAD TO GO ON CAMPUS,BECAUSE

I CAN'T BE LEFT ALONE

TRIP 3

I STAYED AT THE HOTEL IN EVANSTON, WHILE MY HUSBAND AND SON VISITED

UNIV.. OF CHGO.

MY SISTER CAME WITH MY NIECES TO VISIT.

NORTHWESTERN --RAMPS WERE BROKEN AND NO STUDENT TO HELP US

MY FATHER AND HUSBAND WENT THERE.

CASE WESTERN AND UR WERE A GODSEND!! THE RAMPS, DOORS, ECT. WORKED.

WASH UNIV WAS GOOD ALSO, BUT NOT AS GOOD AS CWRU AND UR

********** QUESTION--

1)WHAT UNIVERSITIES ARE U INTERESTED IN??

MY HUSBAND IS A PROF AT A UNIVERSITY SO WE MAY BE ABLE TO HELP

COORDINATE A VISIT WITH SOME UNIVERSITIES.

2)DO U HAVE FAMILY IN ANY OF THE SCHOOLS UR SON IS INTERESTED IN?? THEY

CAN WATCH UR HUSBAND AT THE HOTEL. UR HUSBAND CAN VISIT AFTER U DO THE

SCHOOL TOUR, SO HE CAN FEEL LIKE A PART OF THE SENDING OFF ONES CHILD TO

COLLEGE.

Since

> we live in Arizona, schools in the East are not driving distance for

> a weekend trip. Jerry (MSA) can not be left alone and although we

> have friends who could spend time during the day with him, an

> overnight would not be possible.

CAN THE FRIENDS COME TO THE HOTEL THAT U GUYS ARE STAYING AT?? I AM SURE

THEY CAN:)

Has anyone used short term respite

> care? If so, where did you look? How did you find out about what if

> anything your insurance would cover? Does anyone have any other

> creative ideas? My son would gladly go by himself but I don't feel

> good about a 17 yr. old wandering around the East Coast alone.

HAHAHAHA I GOT THE SAME OFFER FROM MY SON. HE WOULD HAVE LOVED TO GO OFF

BY HIMSELF.

UNIVERSITIES HAVE STAYOVERS. TEAMED UP WITH ANTHER COLLEGE STUDENT. MAKE

SURE U EXPLAIN TO THE UNIVERSITY WHAT U NEED. I FOUND EMAIL TO BE THE

BEST MODE OF COMMUNICATION, THEY ARE VERY UNDERSTANDING.

He

> would also like me to go with him. I think he needs time alone with

> me where our primary focus is on him and not on caring for his dad.

YES TRUE. OUR SON SPENDS TIME WITH ME, OR HIS DAD, OR THE 3 OF US DO

SOMETHING. I BELIEVE OUR SON NEEDS TIME AWAY FROM BOTH OF US. THE ILL

PARENT AND THE HEALTHY PARENT. HE NEEDS TO BE WITH OTHER KIDS.

OHHHH!! HIRE AN AIDE TO COME WITH. OR MORE AFFORDABLE IS TELL THE

UNIVERSITY U NEED SOMEONE TO PUSH UR HUSBAND AROUND ON CAMPUS. MANY

UNIVERSITIES PROVIDE FREE TRANSPORTATION FROM CERTAIN HOTELS TO THE

CAMPUS ALSO.

> This is one great kid who lovingly provides care for his dad whenever

> he can.

HE SOUNDS LIKE OUR KID TOO:) OUR SON'S FATHER CRIED. I CRIED AFTER WE

CAME BACK HOME.

His dad will really miss him when he goes off to college but

> dad also wants him to be able to see the schools so he can make good

> decisions for his future. So any suggestions would be greatly

> appreciated.

I HOPE HIS DAD GETS TO GO WITH EVEN IF HE DOESN'T SEE THE CAMPUS. JUST

DRIVING THERE OR FLYING TO THE UNIVERSITIES MADE ME FEEL A PART OF

LETTING MY SON GO.

U ARE WELCOME TO TALK TO ME OR MY HUSBAND. WE WENT THRU THIS 'HOW CAN

NANCY PARTAKE LIKE OTHER MOMS? AT THE SAME TIME HAVE MY SON FEEL AND BE

THE FOCUS OF THE DAY AS OPPOSE TO ME.

SINCERELY,

N. MULLEN

> Thanks, Jan

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I USE MAXIM IN CLEVELAND , OHIO. THEY ARE VERY RELIABLE.

NANCY

Suicoaz@... wrote:

>

> Jan,

>

> I have a friend from church whose mother owns a company that I believe is

> called " Home Instead. " They go into homes and do things for people who don't

> want to go into a home. They do everything from cooking to errand running as

> well as patient care. I will find out the phone number from my friend. She

> operates out of the Mesa area and goes all over the valley. They are on a lot

> of the lists at the hospitals for those who need help. This may be an answer

> for you. We would definitely use them for my dad if the need comes up. I

> would think that this might be a good option for you if you are interested.

> Jean Suico

>

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[Guest guest]

Jan,

I just have to add my 2 cents worth in here.. The Colleges that are

surounding Charlotte North Carolina are the following,

DUKE, UNC-CHARLOTTE - CHAPEL HILL, CLEMSOM, USC SPARTANBURG S.C., to just

name a few.

I dont know if your son plays sports but most of these are big time

colleges's for sports.

I would be more than happy to make appointments and go with him to interview

or with you as well if that is possible, Please let me know if I or We can

be of any assistance.

Need less to say, Room and Board is not a option, it's absolutly FREE... GOT

IT ????? !!!!!

Best regards,

>

>Reply-To: shydrager

>To: shydrager

>Subject: Re: Questions about Respite Care

>Date: Wed, 04 Sep 2002 11:29:57 -0400

>

>Jan,

>

> I don't have any information or ideas about care for Jerry where you

>could

>go with your son but I do have one offer.

>

> Your son is more than welcome to stay here with us in Charlotte if he

>wants to look at schools in this area. I am positive that would be

>willing to go with him to these schools and I would help go over the info

>with him... having a 10 year history with higher education... prior to

>retirement.

>

> I'm sure that there are others here on this list, in various parts of

>the

>country including the East cost that would be willing to make the same

>offer

>as I have.

>

> Hugs,

> Deborah

>

>

>My 17 yr. old would like to go look at colleges for next year. Last

>year his dad was able to go see one college with him but this year

>that is impossible if the school is not in driving distance. Since

>we live in Arizona, schools in the East are not driving distance for

>a weekend trip. Jerry (MSA) can not be left alone and although we

>have friends who could spend time during the day with him, an

>overnight would not be possible. Has anyone used short term respite

>care? If so, where did you look? How did you find out about what if

>anything your insurance would cover? Does anyone have any other

>creative ideas? My son would gladly go by himself but I don't feel

>good about a 17 yr. old wandering around the East Coast alone. He

>would also like me to go with him. I think he needs time alone with

>me where our primary focus is on him and not on caring for his dad.

>This is one great kid who lovingly provides care for his dad whenever

>he can. His dad will really miss him when he goes off to college but

>dad also wants him to be able to see the schools so he can make good

>decisions for his future. So any suggestions would be greatly

>appreciated.

>Thanks, Jan

>

>

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