Guest guest Posted September 11, 2002 Report Share Posted September 11, 2002 I lost my 50 year old Mom three years ago to pancreatic Cancer. My dad died July 10, 2002, he was 56 and had MSA for 14 months that we know of. I brought him back to his home town of MI on May 25 from FL, he died 6 weeks later.... I had no idea he was that bad. He took off to FL from MI after my Mom died. He began falling down and losing his balance. Long story short, brought him to MI, where they found out he had MSA. Iam completely devastated, Iam also struggling with nightmares about his death, he died at home with Hospice and me, it was a horrible death. Any help would be great. Marcie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2002 Report Share Posted September 11, 2002 Hello Marcie, I am so sorry about you dad's death. It must have been such a shock to you to lose him so quickly, after losing your mom as well. They were both very young and you must feel devastated. Please know that all of us in this group who struggle with this terrible disease are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. God bless you, Sandy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2002 Report Share Posted September 11, 2002 Marcie, Your father knew that you loved him, and you did your best to take care of him. You must take comfort in that. I know you are in tremendous pain now, but over time the pain will lessen and you will remember the good things about your father. Remember that although your parents are gone from this earth they live on in your heart and will always be with you. You are in our prayers, Carol & Rob Lexington, MA MY FATHER DIED > I lost my 50 year old Mom three years ago to pancreatic Cancer. My dad died > July 10, 2002, he was 56 and had MSA for 14 months that we know of. I brought > him back to his home town of MI on May 25 from FL, he died 6 weeks later.... > I had no idea he was that bad. He took off to FL from MI after my Mom died. > He began falling down and losing his balance. Long story short, brought him > to MI, where they found out he had MSA. Iam completely devastated, Iam also > struggling with nightmares about his death, he died at home with Hospice and > me, it was a horrible death. Any help would be great. Marcie > > If you do not wish to belong to shydrager, you may > unsubscribe by sending a blank email to > > shydrager-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2002 Report Share Posted September 11, 2002 I am so sorry to read about your devastating loss and your great heartache. You obviously loved and cared for your dad and this love will help you through this difficult time. May your life be blessed with grace and gentle healing, Joanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2002 Report Share Posted September 12, 2002 Marcie, I am so sorry to hear about your dad (and your mom)--it is heartbreaking. I lost my mother Joyce (71) almost two years ago to MSA and I am still trying to get through the illness part of it. It is hard even to think of her without the disease. But that will come. Please feel free to email me privately if you want to talk. Being here without a parent is difficult--I am so sorry this is so hard. I will keep you and your father in my thoughts, Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2002 Report Share Posted September 13, 2002 Hi Marcie. My apologies for taking so long to reply to ur posting. I am so sorry ur Dad died and your Mom too. I saw the their ages, and that your Dad lived far away. Those 2 things reminded me of my parents. They died 2 months apart, 10 years ago at ages 66 and 62. They lived in another state also. I am glad that you took time to be with your Dad, and that u brought him back to be with you and to help care for him. Your thoughtfulness is so very caring and beautiful! Loosing parents is one of the hardest things to go through. Are u talking with someone about ur parents? I have a drawer of some mementos that remind me of my parents. My most special momento is a picture of my mom standing with all her might next to my Dad in the hospital. My Mom needed a liver transplant and my Dad had everything resulting in colon cancer. My Dad always made me laugh and smile. My Mom taught me confidence and to care about others. Both taught me to never give up. I will never forget that moment in the room. I had my camera with me. I know 'what a time to be taking a picture!' Why the camera? I looked thru the lense and saw 2 caring parents. My Dad tried his hardest to give me a tiny smile. My mom too. I don't see terminally ill parents in that picture, but a very determined and caring Mom who lived each day to her fullest. This lady was still putting on lipstick and wearing her red leather jacket that she loved so much. She cared about other people and didn't broadcast her acts of kindness. As for my dad... He told me to " Take care of my little 'Jim Jim " (grandson) and to 'make sure he goes to college. He ain't no dummy.' The 'ain't' word was used to get the point across that my Dad was serious. 'I love you's.' were said. I flew home. Up to this day, my Dad's values and my Mom's determination and caring attitude is present within us. Marcie......ur parents must have been so happy and proud to have a daughter like u. The care u showed for them reflects what good parents u had. nancy > MY FATHER DIED > > > I lost my 50 year old Mom three years ago to pancreatic Cancer. My dad > died > > July 10, 2002, he was 56 and had MSA for 14 months that we know of. I > brought > > him back to his home town of MI on May 25 from FL, he died 6 weeks > later.... > > I had no idea he was that bad. He took off to FL from MI after my Mom > died. > > He began falling down and losing his balance. Long story short, brought > him > > to MI, where they found out he had MSA. Iam completely devastated, Iam > also > > struggling with nightmares about his death, he died at home with Hospice > and > > me, it was a horrible death. Any help would be great. Marcie > > > > If you do not wish to belong to shydrager, you may > > unsubscribe by sending a blank email to > > > > shydrager-unsubscribe > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 14, 2002 Report Share Posted September 14, 2002 Hi Marcie, I know what your are feeling. My dad died May 4, 2002. I am still having a hard time with his death, because like you I was there with the hospice cna. I can't seem to get that picture out of my mind. My prayers are with you as you go through this process that we both know has to take place. I miss my dad so much. My mom and myself are both on antidepressants to help for a while to get through. Take care of yourself as much as you can right now. I am considering going to grief counseling sessions with hospice. I feel I need to deal with it now to regain my joy back. Dee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2011 Report Share Posted September 12, 2011 Dear Marcie, I am so sorry for your loss, know that your father knew and appreciated everything you did for him. Our prayers are with you, and he is no longer suffering. S. MY FATHER DIED > I lost my 50 year old Mom three years ago to pancreatic Cancer. My dad died > July 10, 2002, he was 56 and had MSA for 14 months that we know of. I brought > him back to his home town of MI on May 25 from FL, he died 6 weeks later.... > I had no idea he was that bad. He took off to FL from MI after my Mom died. > He began falling down and losing his balance. Long story short, brought him > to MI, where they found out he had MSA. Iam completely devastated, Iam also > struggling with nightmares about his death, he died at home with Hospice and > me, it was a horrible death. Any help would be great. Marcie > > If you do not wish to belong to shydrager, you may > unsubscribe by sending a blank email to > > shydrager-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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