a comment on the arguments verse healthy debate issue

[Guest guest]

I think the honest fact about " arguments " on this list is that they make

all but the involved parties uncomfortable and that they distract from

the purposes of the list - which are to provide support and to encourage

each others with whom we have a common bond.

I am on the list more to lurk around in the hope that I will learn any

news that comes along about promising research, treatment, and hopefully

cures. But I also pick up a lot of tidbits of information that I

sometimes share with my brother and his wife about ways they can better

manage his condition. I honestly don't care what views anyone holds on

any topic or about me so long as I am free to ignore any posting with

which I take exception.

And, frankly, I couldn't tell you the specifics of the latest argument,

just that it resulted in some very lengthy, very unpleasant exchanges.

Thats not to say that I have never objected to the tone of a response

I've received since I've been on the list or that I haven't responded to

those objections on the list -- I assure you I have. But I have

ultimately determined that the best course is to ignore that which

displeases me and read only that which I want to know more about.

While I dislike the arguments, I don't object to the ocassional " healthy

debate " that explores both sides of any topic in a polite,

non-judgmental manner. Unfortunately, these healthy debates can - and

often do on this list - deteriorate into arguments that ought to be

taken off-line for the benefit of all parties involved.

Perhaps it would be best if we ask the forum moderator to be responsible

for sending

a " I suggest you take it off-line " message to any members that allow

their healthy debate to go beyond the pale in the future.

Best regards to all,

Jerry Cash

[Guest guest]

Reasonable suggestion and I know that you know I do that already, however by

the time I see the problem so has everyone else. So then after someone has

been bad then what are the options? Only one that I can think of ... but

I've never seen brandishing the stick as being part of my role and it's not

part of my personality either so if you really want me to start enforcing it

will cost you. Seriously, I don't read every word of every message, I

don't get an advance copy of the digest and I don't have the time or

inclination to interpret every nuance of tone and judge whether it might

offend someone. We all must take responsibility for ourselves and if some

of us are bad sometimes we need to forgive and forget but most of all -

DELETE.

Hugs,

Pam

> Perhaps it would be best if we ask the forum moderator to be responsible

> for sending

> a " I suggest you take it off-line " message to any members that allow

> their healthy debate to go beyond the pale in the future.

>

> Best regards to all,

>

> Jerry Cash

[Guest guest]

yep, you're right as usual Pam.

Lets just all agree to keep it friendly and light or go off-line to get

issues off

our chest.

Jerry

Re: a comment on the " arguments " verse healthy debate

issue

Reasonable suggestion and I know that you know I do that already,

however by

the time I see the problem so has everyone else. So then after someone

has

been bad then what are the options? Only one that I can think of ...

but

I've never seen brandishing the stick as being part of my role and it's

not

part of my personality either so if you really want me to start

enforcing it

will cost you. Seriously, I don't read every word of every

message, I

don't get an advance copy of the digest and I don't have the time or

inclination to interpret every nuance of tone and judge whether it might

offend someone. We all must take responsibility for ourselves and if

some

of us are bad sometimes we need to forgive and forget but most of all -

DELETE.

Hugs,

Pam

> Perhaps it would be best if we ask the forum moderator to be

responsible

> for sending

> a " I suggest you take it off-line " message to any members that allow

> their healthy debate to go beyond the pale in the future.

>

> Best regards to all,

>

> Jerry Cash

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