Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 On advice from Tim, Im posting a concern of mine and see if some one can help me with a dilema Im having. Two of my children are morbidly obese, and my daughter is bordering on it. My youngest son, is almost 7 and weighs 85 pounds. My son Lucas is 14 and weighs 200+(he wont let me know exact) and does not want help. Ive asked him to join WW teen groups and he has refused stating and I quote, " NO! I like how I am. Im comfortable with me like I am. " . My daughter lee is 19 and weighs right around 185. So other than becoming a food police I dont know what to do. I dont want them to go thru what Ive had to. But I know nagging them and being negative wont help...it will just make him shut down. I am clearing the house of any junk and only stocking good snack stuff like fruits and veggies but other than that....what?! Huggles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 Are they active in sports? Maybe you can ask your son to help keep you on track by walking with you every morning or every evening? If you approach him as if you are the one who needs help, he might be willing. Plus, it will give you a chance to really talk and bond. Just make sure to thank him for helping you Are your sons short? Have you talked to your daughter about it? If your son rejects your offer, maybe your daughter will get on a walking program with you. That usually is what would motivate me. Don't talk too much about it, as that may just turn her off...but increasing her exercise will probably motivate her. You could probably gradually turn the walking into running... Diane Duenas wrote: On advice from Tim, Im posting a concern of mine and see if some one can help me with a dilema Im having.Two of my children are morbidly obese, and my daughter is bordering on it. My youngest son, is almost 7 and weighs 85 pounds. My son Lucas is 14 and weighs 200+(he wont let me know exact) and does not want help. Ive asked him to join WW teen groups and he has refused stating and I quote, " NO! I like how I am. Im comfortable with me like I am.". My daughter lee is 19 and weighs right around 185.So other than becoming a food police I dont know what to do. I dont want them to go thru what Ive had to. But I know nagging them and being negative wont help...it will just make him shut down. I am clearing the house of any junk and only stocking good snack stuff like fruits and veggies but other than that....what?!Huggles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 We tried the walking approach last night and are going to do it every evening. The only one who took us up on the offer was the youngest,. And he even did jumping jacks and other stuff he had done in PE while we walked. Then this morning, while I was walking on the treadmill, he did jumping jacks, 4 push ups, one sit up LOL he tried anyway. The other two, said they'd go with us tonight...we will see. Huggles > On advice from Tim, Im posting a concern of mine and see if some one > can help me with a dilema Im having. > > Two of my children are morbidly obese, and my daughter is bordering on > it. My youngest son, is almost 7 and weighs 85 pounds. My son > Lucas is 14 and weighs 200+(he wont let me know exact) and does not > want help. Ive asked him to join WW teen groups and he has refused > stating and I quote, " NO! I like how I am. Im comfortable with me like > I am. " . My daughter lee is 19 and weighs right around 185. > > So other than becoming a food police I dont know what to do. I dont > want them to go thru what Ive had to. But I know nagging them and being > negative wont help...it will just make him shut down. I am clearing the > house of any junk and only stocking good snack stuff like fruits and > veggies but other than that....what?! > > Huggles > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 Hey, that's a start. good for ! Robynn Diane Duenas wrote: We tried the walking approach last night and are going to do it every evening. The only one who took us up on the offer was the youngest,. And he even did jumping jacks and other stuff he had done in PE while we walked. Then this morning, while I was walking on the treadmill, he did jumping jacks, 4 push ups, one sit up LOL he tried anyway. The other two, said they'd go with us tonight...we will see.Huggles> On advice from Tim, Im posting a concern of mine and see if some one > can help me with a dilema Im having.> > Two of my children are morbidly obese, and my daughter is bordering on > it. My youngest son, is almost 7 and weighs 85 pounds. My son > Lucas is 14 and weighs 200+(he wont let me know exact) and does not > want help. Ive asked him to join WW teen groups and he has refused > stating and I quote, " NO! I like how I am. Im comfortable with me like > I am.". My daughter lee is 19 and weighs right around 185.> > So other than becoming a food police I dont know what to do. I dont > want them to go thru what Ive had to. But I know nagging them and being > negative wont help...it will just make him shut down. I am clearing the > house of any junk and only stocking good snack stuff like fruits and > veggies but other than that....what?!> > Huggles> > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 , I think the things you are doing are cool but what happens when they go out of the house? Who will control their food intake? Also, along with the exercise that you all have added, what are you doing about changing how you prepare their food? Just some questions to throw out here to you. Boy, I really wish you luck with this. I know how frustrating it can be. Pam Marsh --- Diane Duenas brendadiane64@...> wrote: > We tried the walking approach last night and are > going to do it every > evening. The only one who took us up on the offer > was the > youngest,. And he even did jumping jacks and > other stuff he had > done in PE while we walked. Then this morning, while > I was walking on > the treadmill, he did jumping jacks, 4 push ups, one > sit up LOL he > tried anyway. The other two, said they'd go with us > tonight...we will > see. > > Huggles > > > > On advice from Tim, Im posting a concern of mine > and see if some > one > > can help me with a dilema Im having. > > > > Two of my children are morbidly obese, and my > daughter is bordering > on > > it. My youngest son, is almost 7 and weighs > 85 pounds. My son > > Lucas is 14 and weighs 200+(he wont let me know > exact) and does not > > want help. Ive asked him to join WW teen groups > and he has refused > > stating and I quote, " NO! I like how I am. Im > comfortable with me > like > > I am. " . My daughter lee is 19 and weighs right > around 185. > > > > So other than becoming a food police I dont know > what to do. I dont > > want them to go thru what Ive had to. But I know > nagging them and > being > > negative wont help...it will just make him shut > down. I am clearing > the > > house of any junk and only stocking good snack > stuff like fruits > and > > veggies but other than that....what?! > > > > Huggles > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 , I'd say what you are doing is perfect. Keep the junk out of the house. Especially soda. With only healthy stuff in the house and you as a role model, they should do fine. The only other thing i would suggest is maybe a sport. Put him in Karate or something. I only mention Karate because both of mine are involved. It could be something else. It doesn't have to be about weight loss, but about self control, grace (ok, for a boy, coordination, LOL), and self esteem. Good luck to you! Laurie ____________________________________________________ Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 -Have you read Dr Phils book the Ultimate weight loss solution? There is one for teens too, Maybe you can look into those for your children. But if you are buying the food for the house, I would definatly get rid of the junk- and limit that to special occasions... Do your kids like sports?Or running, or swimming, or anything physical? Maybe they would like rock climbing, (indoor) or golf-- Find their passion! Castro -- In gastric-bypass-support-kaiser-patients , " Diane Duenas " wrote: > On advice from Tim, Im posting a concern of mine and see if some one > can help me with a dilema Im having. > > Two of my children are morbidly obese, and my daughter is bordering on > it. My youngest son, is almost 7 and weighs 85 pounds. My son > Lucas is 14 and weighs 200+(he wont let me know exact) and does not > want help. Ive asked him to join WW teen groups and he has refused > stating and I quote, " NO! I like how I am. Im comfortable with me like > I am. " . My daughter lee is 19 and weighs right around 185. > > So other than becoming a food police I dont know what to do. I dont > want them to go thru what Ive had to. But I know nagging them and being > negative wont help...it will just make him shut down. I am clearing the > house of any junk and only stocking good snack stuff like fruits and > veggies but other than that....what?! > > Huggles > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2005 Report Share Posted August 16, 2005 , Whatever you do, don't " nag " them - kids that age will rebel no matter how sensible your advice is, just BECAUSE it's advice and it's coming from you. lee is an adult. It may not feel like it to you as her mom, but you can't do anything for her except set an example. You certainly can't be her " food police " , and even for the younger kids that's not realistic since you can't see what they eat every minute of the day. You don't say how tall and Lucas are, so I can't tell how bad his weight is related to his height. However, if he hasn't hit his full height yet, which seems likely since boys keep getting taller through high school, he may be ok later if he can just maintain his current weight. The old saw about not being overweight but under-tall has some validity with kids. My older daughter is the same age as Lucas, and I just took her in for her pre-HS physical yesterday. Her pediatrician commented that she's on the heavy side for her height, although not even " overweight " (BMI about 24) - but considering her genetics, this isn't bad. She's a cross-country runner and bike rider, though, and she makes very good food choices, so I'm not too worried. My younger daughter, at 11, causes me more concern since she weighs slightly more than her big sister even though she's several inches shorter, and she DOESN'T do as much in the way of physical activity and DOESN'T have as much good sense in what she chooses to eat. She's likely to have more problems. However, even for her, her doctor says she may end up ok IF she can keep her weight where it is for the next 3-4 years and IF she develops a more active lifestyle. You're on the right track with clearing the house of junk and stocking fruits and veggies for them to snack on. Getting involved with them in activities will also help. . . that's actually a big motivation for me in losing weight. Right now, I can't be nearly as active with mine as I'd like, but my husband takes them hiking and on bike rides and so on. Good luck! Cathy > On advice from Tim, Im posting a concern of mine and see if some one > can help me with a dilema Im having. > > Two of my children are morbidly obese, and my daughter is bordering on > it. My youngest son, is almost 7 and weighs 85 pounds. My son > Lucas is 14 and weighs 200+(he wont let me know exact) and does not > want help. Ive asked him to join WW teen groups and he has refused > stating and I quote, " NO! I like how I am. Im comfortable with me like > I am. " . My daughter lee is 19 and weighs right around 185. > > So other than becoming a food police I dont know what to do. I dont > want them to go thru what Ive had to. But I know nagging them and being > negative wont help...it will just make him shut down. I am clearing the > house of any junk and only stocking good snack stuff like fruits and > veggies but other than that....what?! > > Huggles > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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