OT: Mom is No Longer in Pain

[Guest guest]

My condoleances Marilyn. I also don't post often but i have been with the group for more than two years now and i always admired your commitement to SCD and your family and i enjoy reading your posts because they are 'litterary'. You are a hero and inspiration for me and especially in this difficult moments you prove to be even more so.

I am also sending all the pink lights you and your family need.JanjaUC since july 2007SCD since august 2007

[Guest guest]

Hi Marilyn,

I’m so touched by your description of your last

moments with your mom and can only hope when I am faced with the same challenge

with my folks I can do so with the quiet dignity you’ve shown. I’m

praying for Marge’s safe passage and for you and yours to have the

strength and courage to continue your walk through this.

Blessings to you,

S.

IBD 1988, SCD 6/19/07, NO MEDS!

[Guest guest]

So sorry your Mom is gone, Marilyn, but your loving description of your last

moments with her touched my heart. We will keep you and your Dad in our

prayers.

Kelley

[Guest guest]

Marilyn,my thoughts and prayers are with you at this time of sorrow.

, mom to

[Guest guest]

I don't post much, either, but condolences to you and your Dad.Sending pink lights his way.Your mom was so lucky to have you and so are we. Thanks for all the hard work that goes into moderating this list.

Take care of yourself.--

[Guest guest]

Dear Marilyn,

I have just got to read this sad note today. I express my deep condolence to the bereaved family and pray to God that He gives the whole family the emotional strength to endure the sorrow and pain at this difficult moment. I come to learn reading your mail that parting away could also be so peaceful and divine.

with love and prayers

Sandhya

Man must endure

Their going hence even as their coming hither.

- Shakespeare

It hath often been said that it is not death but dying that is terrible.

- Henry Fielding

There is no death. Only a change of worlds.

-Geeta (the Bible of the Hindus)

When I am dead, my dearest

Sing no sad songs for me.

- R.

Subject: OT: Mom is No Longer in PainTo: BTVC-SCD Date: Thursday, October 29, 2009, 12:56 PM

Heyla, folks....Mom passed away around 3 am.She had been holding on... why, we don't know. But last night, when I went to see her, I told her about the duck I was going to get to fix for Sunday dinner, because Dad had said he really missed the roasted duck from La Cuisine, the restaurant where they'd each had their 80th birthday parties, and where they often ate on Sundays. (It was destroyed in Hurricane Katrina.) I told her I was winging it on the duck, but that I thought I would put orange slices and ginger slices, and some pearl onions in the duck, and roast it the way I usually do the very tender chickens and turkeys that I often make.I told her that I had ordered the same turkeys we had last year, which we all enjoyed, and told her about all the dishes I planned to have with the turkeys, many of which were her favorites, like the celeriac mock mashed potatoes, and the spinach and pearl onions with

brie sauce, and the butternut squash, and the egg nog ice cream. And then I kissed her good-bye and told her that it was all right if she wanted to go home. That I loved her too much to ask her to stay.Dad had been sleeping down by her, but apparently, she didn't want him there at the last. He, too, kissed her, before he went to bed last night, and told her it was all right to go home. We've had a monitor on her so that Dad could hear if she needed anything. He said he heard her call out once about 3 am, and by the time he reached her side, she was gone.And again, I can't stress how good the hospice folks have been -- Dad called me at once and then called the hospice people, and although I'm only three blocks away, by the time I threw on clothes and got over there, JoJo, Mom's nurse, was already there. Mom looked very peaceful -- I know she's walking in a beautiful garden, and that she is, at last, free from pain. Dad's

taking it pretty hard. Pink Lights and Prayers for him would be very much appreciated.

— Marilyn New Orleans, Louisiana, USA Undiagnosed IBS since 1976, SCD since 2001 Darn Good SCD Cook No Human Children Shadow & Sunny Longhair Dachshund