Spawn of Eleanor!

[Guest guest]

Yes, there are times when I am deeply saddened by the loss of Little

One. We never found out if we would have had a boy or girl. That pain is

there, and that's okay. Part of what makes us human.

You wanna buy tickets to see a test of wills? Honey, come down to San

any time! When my husband and I were dating (we've been married

just over seven years now), one of my recurring fears was that any child

we had would have 's intelligence and my stubborn, pigheaded,

rebellious, smartassed personality. Well, let's just say I

underestimated the problem! I have only two advantages. The first is

that I have 42 years more practice being stubborn. The second is that I

know what's at stake, in ways that my parents didn't. There are so many

times when it would be SO much easier to give in, to let him do what he

wants, to not hear him say " I like Papa more than I like you " (because

Papa is a marshmallow)! I just remind him that my job is not to be his

friend, not to have him like me. My job is to be his PARENT, to help him

grow up to be the best Isaac he can be. Of course, he doesn't understand

that, but at least I'm acknowledging his statement, while letting him

know why I'm not going to give in.

There ARE times when I think he's going to be an attorney (shoot me now!

(just kidding ;-) )). He's SO good at looking for the loopholes, trying

to negotiate, while looking at me with those big brown eyes with those

L-O-N-G eyelashes (why is it always the guys that get those?) that my

heart melts. But my resolve doesn't. It's tough sometimes!

Robynn VanPatten wrote:

> So sorry, Eleanor. How disappointing. Oh Eleanor...if anyone would

> have been up for the task to deal with that kind of teenager, it would

> be you!!

> ; ) And frankly, I'd want to buy tickets to watch the battle of wills!!!

>

> Good to know that you had a child at 42, that give me hope.

--

Eleanor Oster

eleanor@... (personal address)

www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm

San , CA

Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

~5'9 " tall

05/09/2003 319 Orientation

07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

Current 150-155 Goal until plastics?

[Guest guest]

I bet...hey, the next you make it up to Oakland, bring some pictures of the cutie, would you? God forbid he should be an attorney...but, hey...at least he can afford a room for you at the nursing home with a better view than the dumpster in the parking lot....

Hee hee

Robynn (us lawyers have to stick together)Eleanor Oster wrote:

Yes, there are times when I am deeply saddened by the loss of Little One. We never found out if we would have had a boy or girl. That pain is there, and that's okay. Part of what makes us human.You wanna buy tickets to see a test of wills? Honey, come down to San any time! When my husband and I were dating (we've been married just over seven years now), one of my recurring fears was that any child we had would have 's intelligence and my stubborn, pigheaded, rebellious, smartassed personality. Well, let's just say I underestimated the problem! I have only two advantages. The first is that I have 42 years more practice being stubborn. The second is that I know what's at stake, in ways that my parents didn't. There are so many times when it would be SO much easier to give in, to let him do what he wants, to not hear him

say "I like Papa more than I like you" (because Papa is a marshmallow)! I just remind him that my job is not to be his friend, not to have him like me. My job is to be his PARENT, to help him grow up to be the best Isaac he can be. Of course, he doesn't understand that, but at least I'm acknowledging his statement, while letting him know why I'm not going to give in.There ARE times when I think he's going to be an attorney (shoot me now! (just kidding ;-) )). He's SO good at looking for the loopholes, trying to negotiate, while looking at me with those big brown eyes with those L-O-N-G eyelashes (why is it always the guys that get those?) that my heart melts. But my resolve doesn't. It's tough sometimes!Robynn VanPatten wrote:> So sorry, Eleanor. How disappointing. Oh Eleanor...if anyone would > have been up for the task to deal with that kind of teenager, it would > be you!!> ; )

And frankly, I'd want to buy tickets to watch the battle of wills!!!> > Good to know that you had a child at 42, that give me hope.-- Eleanor Ostereleanor@... (personal address)www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htmSan , CAOpen RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003 P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)~5'9" tall05/09/2003 319 Orientation07/15/2003 ~290 SurgeryCurrent 150-155 Goal until plastics?