My Two Cents

[Guest guest]

,

I dont know if the comic relief comes with the age or not, but is 3 and

oh boy does he keep things hopping, just cant be sure whats coming out of his

mouth next.

Take care,

, mommy of 4, 3 wcf, a g-tube and his wonderful personality,

,18, and she now has her own car, Caleb, 8 and getting too old to

fast, and , 7, my little artist.

[Guest guest]

I know I have not posted her but maybe once or twice, but I do

read. And I felt a need -- no, an OBLIGATION, to post here today.

It is incredibly clear to me why there need to be hard and fast

rules regarding posts. I know this board was created as a place

for weight loss surgery patients to gather and share experiences and

information. So one would expect that posts found here would be at

least loosely related to that subject. Not to say there wouldn't

be some personal banter mixed in -- I think that is to be

expected. But if a conversation or post goes too far off in an

unrelated subject it would then be the moderator's duty to

gently " nudge " the member back in the right direction. Everyone's

criteria is different, and I am not judging, but perhaps there have

been some posts that should have been " nudged " that weren't...

This is a large and diverse group of people -- we share intimate and

emotional details of our lives as they relate to our surgeries and

changed bodies, and that alone can leave us vulnerable... It can be

a volatile pot! And disagreements can be expected. But THE

NUMBER ONE RULE should always be to deal with them in PRIVATE...

Because what may be a disagreement between two members privately can

become a much larger disagreement publicly. Things that are said

in the heat of the moment live on in print for way too long! And

the pain of an issue between two people now grows exponentially as

more people are involved. And the reason for dealing with these

issues privately is also for the benefit of any new member that

happens upon this board. How many people will be cheated out of

important information and support as a result of a public brawl?

How many people will feel awkward reading this stuff and turn away

because of it?

I was paid by Prodigy for 3 years to moderate a Disney Fans bulletin

board and chat area. And I kept vigil over those posts and removed

notes and even whole threads of notes almost daily, and then

tactfully reminded my members via email to keep private issues

private. Everyone is entitled to an opinion, and spats are going to

happen, but if we try hard to deal with it privately this will never

happen again. For the health of this board, and for the sake of

all of the people who have much to gain by being here -- I hope

things can be dealt with differently in the future... I look to the

moderators to keep a close eye on posts and hold members fairly and

consistently to the rules.

Sincerely,

Gayle Pellegrini

Moderator/Kaiser Mtz. WLS Support Group

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