OT: Mom is no longer in pain

[Guest guest]

Marilyn,

So sorry for your loss. My sincerest wish is that its not too long before you remember your mum as you want to remember her, before she became ill with dementia. Sending pink light to you and your dad from n.z.

Sincerely Gillian

OT: Mom is No Longer in Pain

Heyla, folks....Mom passed away around 3 am.She had been holding on... why, we don't know. But last night, when I went to see her, I told her about the duck I was going to get to fix for Sunday dinner, because Dad had said he really missed the roasted duck from La Cuisine, the restaurant where they'd each had their 80th birthday parties, and where they often ate on Sundays. (It was destroyed in Hurricane Katrina.) I told her I was winging it on the duck, but that I thought I would put orange slices and ginger slices, and some pearl onions in the duck, and roast it the way I usually do the very tender chickens and turkeys that I often make.I told her that I had ordered the same turkeys we had last year, which we all enjoyed, and told her about all the dishes I planned to have with the turkeys, many of which were her favorites, like the celeriac mock mashed potatoes, and the spinach and pearl onions with brie sauce, and the butternut squash, and the egg nog ice cream. And then I kissed her good-bye and told her that it was all right if she wanted to go home. That I loved her too much to ask her to stay.Dad had been sleeping down by her, but apparently, she didn't want him there at the last. He, too, kissed her, before he went to bed last night, and told her it was all right to go home. We've had a monitor on her so that Dad could hear if she needed anything. He said he heard her call out once about 3 am, and by the time he reached her side, she was gone.And again, I can't stress how good the hospice folks have been -- Dad called me at once and then called the hospice people, and although I'm only three blocks away, by the time I threw on clothes and got over there, JoJo, Mom's nurse, was already there. Mom looked very peaceful -- I know she's walking in a beautiful garden, and that she is, at last, free from pain. Dad's taking it pretty hard. Pink Lights and Prayers for him would be very much appreciated.

— Marilyn New Orleans, Louisiana, USA Undiagnosed IBS since 1976, SCD since 2001 Darn Good SCD Cook No Human Children Shadow & Sunny Longhair Dachshund

[Guest guest]

I'm so sorry for your loss Marilyn. I hope you have some peace and comfort knowing she is no longer suffering. My Mom suffered a long time before passing and although we miss her very much it was a relief she was no longer in pain. She held on for a good while also. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[Guest guest]

Hi Marilyn,

Just read your message. So sorry for your loss. I know what it's like to lose

a mother...it gets easier. I will keep you, your Dad and loved ones in my

thoughts and my heart. Pink lights are being sent your way.

Take good care of yourself,

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> Mom looked very peaceful -- I know she's walking

> in a beautiful garden, and that she is, at last,

> free from pain. Dad's taking it pretty hard. Pink

> Lights and Prayers for him would be very much appreciated.

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> — Marilyn

> New Orleans, Louisiana, USA

> Undiagnosed IBS since 1976, SCD since 2001

> Darn Good SCD Cook

> No Human Children

> Shadow & Sunny Longhair Dachshund

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