Clothing Commiseration

[Guest guest]

Okay, I have to put my two cents in too! I know what you mean about clothes

that would normally go on a size 4 person that they try to make for larger

people, for example... I ran across one of thos halter top thingies with a

tie around the neck that are backless in my size... Oh yes, it looks great on

the rack, and I can only hope I could wear one of these some day, but REALLY,

Larger people just should NOT be wearing these things!

Kim B.

Dr. Anthone/DS open

4/18/01

-48 lbs

[Guest guest]

I am going to chime in on this thread about Lane

. They have gone so trendy - making clothes

that you see the high school kids wear - lots of

clingy material and bright neon colors. What a joke

for someone like me who wants to look as presentable

as possible and doesn't want to be stuffed into

something. And tons of sleeveless clothes. Where are

the clothes to wear to work????

If I had money I would open up a clothing store for

large men and women. Clothes that are realistic - not

trendy. That fit in the upper arms without tons of

extra cloth below. Long, pretty shirts to wear over

slacks. Elegant affordable clothes. I would consult

with men and women to find out what they need and

want.

Comfy clothes to exercise in and not look ridiculous.

OK - enough from me!

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

I'll be your first and best customer! Angel

--- " Betsy M. " betsyboop41@...> wrote:

> I am going to chime in on this thread about Lane

> . They have gone so trendy - making clothes

> that you see the high school kids wear - lots of

> clingy material and bright neon colors. What a joke

> for someone like me who wants to look as presentable

> as possible and doesn't want to be stuffed into

> something. And tons of sleeveless clothes. Where

> are

> the clothes to wear to work????

>

> If I had money I would open up a clothing store for

> large men and women. Clothes that are realistic -

> not

> trendy. That fit in the upper arms without tons of

> extra cloth below. Long, pretty shirts to wear over

> slacks. Elegant affordable clothes. I would

> consult

> with men and women to find out what they need and

> want.

>

> Comfy clothes to exercise in and not look

> ridiculous.

>

>

> OK - enough from me!

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Yeah, me too! I mean, I don't mind the " trendy " stuff every now and then,

but please....they have started to put close out there are just the larger

version of stuff that a size 4 would wear. I'm sorry, but just because it

comes in my size doesn't mean I should wear it. It's kind of like the

spandex thing....hello....just because it stretches to fit doesn't mean that

it truly fits (we all know what I'm talking about). And speaking of Lane

.....I didn't actually see the original post about it so forgive me if

I'm repeating something BUT....why is it that their models (especially in

their catalogs) are so thin??? I want to see what their crap is going to

look like on a body like mine....not some size 6! Okay okay....I'm done

venting (for now)

> Re: Clothing Commiseration

>

> I'll be your first and best customer! Angel

>

> --- " Betsy M. " betsyboop41@...> wrote:

> > I am going to chime in on this thread about Lane

> > . They have gone so trendy - making clothes

> > that you see the high school kids wear - lots of

> > clingy material and bright neon colors. What a joke

> > for someone like me who wants to look as presentable

> > as possible and doesn't want to be stuffed into

> > something. And tons of sleeveless clothes. Where

> > are

> > the clothes to wear to work????

> >

> > If I had money I would open up a clothing store for

> > large men and women. Clothes that are realistic -

> > not

> > trendy. That fit in the upper arms without tons of

> > extra cloth below. Long, pretty shirts to wear over

> > slacks. Elegant affordable clothes. I would

> > consult

> > with men and women to find out what they need and

> > want.

> >

> > Comfy clothes to exercise in and not look

> > ridiculous.

> >

> >

> > OK - enough from me!

> >

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

I'm so glad that you can understand what I'm saying. It's also like those

tank top thingies with the so called build in bra??? Please exactly what

does that little extra bit of material support?? I really wish I knew who

thought up such nonsense! hahahaha

> Re: Clothing Commiseration

>

> Okay, I have to put my two cents in too! I know what you mean about

> clothes

> that would normally go on a size 4 person that they try to make for larger

>

> people, for example... I ran across one of thos halter top thingies with a

>

> tie around the neck that are backless in my size... Oh yes, it looks great

> on

> the rack, and I can only hope I could wear one of these some day, but

> REALLY,

> Larger people just should NOT be wearing these things!

>

> Kim B.

> Dr. Anthone/DS open

> 4/18/01

> -48 lbs

>

> ----------------------------------------------------------------------

>

[Guest guest]

LMAO - yes I saw those too!!! LOL

--- " Palmer, " kpalmer@...> wrote:

> I'm so glad that you can understand what I'm saying.

> It's also like those

> tank top thingies with the so called build in bra???

> Please exactly what

> does that little extra bit of material support?? I

> really wish I knew who

> thought up such nonsense! hahahaha

>

>

>

> > Re: Clothing

> Commiseration

> >

> > Okay, I have to put my two cents in too! I know

> what you mean about

> > clothes

> > that would normally go on a size 4 person that

> they try to make for larger

> >

> > people, for example... I ran across one of thos

> halter top thingies with a

> >

> > tie around the neck that are backless in my

> size... Oh yes, it looks great

> > on

> > the rack, and I can only hope I could wear one of

> these some day, but

> > REALLY,

> > Larger people just should NOT be wearing these

> things!

> >

> > Kim B.

> > Dr. Anthone/DS open

> > 4/18/01

> > -48 lbs

> >

> >

>

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> >

[Guest guest]

I used to shop in a large women's clothing store. All the clothes

were used but in excellent shape. The woman who ran the store really

put effort into what she was doing. She took consignments, every rack

was organized, summer clothes, and pants, jeans, suits and dresses

were all marked and labeled properly. She could spot a classic suit a

mile away. She pressed all the clothes that came in and treated us

with respect and dignity. I wish I lived in a bigger city I think I

would start a store like that.

Teri

> I am going to chime in on this thread about Lane

> . They have gone so trendy - making clothes

> that you see the high school kids wear - lots of

> clingy material and bright neon colors. What a joke

> for someone like me who wants to look as presentable

> as possible and doesn't want to be stuffed into

> something. And tons of sleeveless clothes. Where are

> the clothes to wear to work????

>

> If I had money I would open up a clothing store for

> large men and women. Clothes that are realistic - not

> trendy. That fit in the upper arms without tons of

> extra cloth below. Long, pretty shirts to wear over

> slacks. Elegant affordable clothes. I would consult

> with men and women to find out what they need and

> want.

>

> Comfy clothes to exercise in and not look ridiculous.

>

>

> OK - enough from me!

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Betsy,

If you ever open up shop, let me know! Wow, half the stuff in Lane

that they consider trendy, I consider down right ugly! The

other half may look great on those size 8 models in the window, but

they don't look as nice when I'm trying to wear them on my size 26/28

body! It definitely gets kind of depressing when you want to look

nice, but the majority of outfits just seem to accentuate the

negative! One thing I will enjoy after BPD/DS, is not having to

worry so much about covering making sure my arms are covered or the

shirt doesn't come up and show my stomach when I stretch, etc. It's

by no means the reason I'm having this surgery, but I have to say

it's a definite side benefit!

Anita

Pre-pre-op in Denver

> I am going to chime in on this thread about Lane

> . They have gone so trendy - making clothes

> that you see the high school kids wear - lots of

> clingy material and bright neon colors. What a joke

> for someone like me who wants to look as presentable

> as possible and doesn't want to be stuffed into

> something. And tons of sleeveless clothes. Where are

> the clothes to wear to work????

>

> If I had money I would open up a clothing store for

> large men and women. Clothes that are realistic - not

> trendy. That fit in the upper arms without tons of

> extra cloth below. Long, pretty shirts to wear over

> slacks. Elegant affordable clothes. I would consult

> with men and women to find out what they need and

> want.

>

> Comfy clothes to exercise in and not look ridiculous.

>

>

> OK - enough from me!

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Oh yes, that brings up another issue (I could go on and on about this it

seems). Doesn't it seem that people that make clothes for larger women

assume that they like to wear ugly stuff??? Please, I'm 24 years old....I

have no desire to wear stuff that even my grandmother wouldn't wear! Do I

seem bitter?!?!? hahaha Hey, I'm a beautiful person....just because I'm

fat doesn't mean I'm ugly so I refuse to wear ugly clothes and nobody else

should be subjected to it either in my opinion!

> Re: Clothing Commiseration

>

> Betsy,

>

> If you ever open up shop, let me know! Wow, half the stuff in Lane

> that they consider trendy, I consider down right ugly! The

> other half may look great on those size 8 models in the window, but

> they don't look as nice when I'm trying to wear them on my size 26/28

> body! It definitely gets kind of depressing when you want to look

> nice, but the majority of outfits just seem to accentuate the

> negative! One thing I will enjoy after BPD/DS, is not having to

> worry so much about covering making sure my arms are covered or the

> shirt doesn't come up and show my stomach when I stretch, etc. It's

> by no means the reason I'm having this surgery, but I have to say

> it's a definite side benefit!

>

> Anita

> Pre-pre-op in Denver

>

>

>

> > I am going to chime in on this thread about Lane

> > . They have gone so trendy - making clothes

> > that you see the high school kids wear - lots of

> > clingy material and bright neon colors. What a joke

> > for someone like me who wants to look as presentable

> > as possible and doesn't want to be stuffed into

> > something. And tons of sleeveless clothes. Where are

> > the clothes to wear to work????

> >

> > If I had money I would open up a clothing store for

> > large men and women. Clothes that are realistic - not

> > trendy. That fit in the upper arms without tons of

> > extra cloth below. Long, pretty shirts to wear over

> > slacks. Elegant affordable clothes. I would consult

> > with men and women to find out what they need and

> > want.

> >

> > Comfy clothes to exercise in and not look ridiculous.

> >

> >

> > OK - enough from me!

> >

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

I'm so glad that you can understand what I'm saying. It's also like those

tank top thingies with the so called build in bra??? Please exactly what

does that little extra bit of material support?? I really wish I knew who

thought up such nonsense! hahahaha

Near as I can tell, and this is not politically correct, clothing for fat women is designed by gay men who hate women, and they have parties where they laugh about what they actually were able to sell to us.

Nan E.

[Guest guest]

Hi all beautiful large ladies!

I've been reading everyone's comments on large size clothing with delight. I

just don't get it. It's almost like they're designing ugly things for large

women on purpose: they're fat chicks anyway, what does it matter? I really

do think it's an issue of prejudice. I get almost all of my clothing from

Making it Big (they have a website, I can't remember it right now) and find

they're about the only company that makes quality, wearable, durable

clothing. I don't want to be a commercial for them, but even if it's a tad

bit pricey, it does last. I get nothing but compliments on my clothes, and I

am big: bmi 66.

Forgive me my " activist " tendencies, but it's like the shoe-size issue. Go

to buy men's shoes with a guy, and they regularly have 4 widths available.

Try to find W or WW shoes in a regular store for women: forget it! When we

need to have our clothing altered because they think the bigger you are

around the taller you are (what's up with THAT?!), WE pay for it: guys get

their tailoring either free or at least in-store for relatively cheap.

What is it with the arm-holes??? I am a LARGE lady, and have big upper arms,

but still they (even Making it Big) make arm holes that if you raise your

arms people can see your bra and the entire upper half of your naked side!

With a lot of these catalogues it's like a game of " let's pretend " with

super-thin models either wearing " grandma " clothes or clothing no

self-respecting large person would want to be seen in because it would show

them to great disadvantage in the world. We are sophisticated, intelligent

women and want to look that way! Not like somebody's grandma (no offense to

grandmothers anywhere!) or a teeny-bopper. Do we all have " we love

polyester " stamped on our foreheads?

It will truly be a joy to be able to buy nice clothes, although, admittedly,

that's pretty far down the line on the benefits of this surgery -- being

healthy being the most important. Clothing is just another thing that is so

very difficult for large people, and that just wears us down more.

Enough of my tirade!

Love and peace to all,

Robyn

Re: Clothing Commiseration

> >

> > Betsy,

> >

> > If you ever open up shop, let me know! Wow, half the stuff in Lane

> > that they consider trendy, I consider down right ugly! The

> > other half may look great on those size 8 models in the window, but

> > they don't look as nice when I'm trying to wear them on my size 26/28

> > body! It definitely gets kind of depressing when you want to look

> > nice, but the majority of outfits just seem to accentuate the

> > negative! One thing I will enjoy after BPD/DS, is not having to

> > worry so much about covering making sure my arms are covered or the

> > shirt doesn't come up and show my stomach when I stretch, etc. It's

> > by no means the reason I'm having this surgery, but I have to say

> > it's a definite side benefit!

> >

> > Anita

> > Pre-pre-op in Denver

> >

> >

> >

> > > I am going to chime in on this thread about Lane

> > > . They have gone so trendy - making clothes

> > > that you see the high school kids wear - lots of

> > > clingy material and bright neon colors. What a joke

> > > for someone like me who wants to look as presentable

> > > as possible and doesn't want to be stuffed into

> > > something. And tons of sleeveless clothes. Where are

> > > the clothes to wear to work????

> > >

> > > If I had money I would open up a clothing store for

> > > large men and women. Clothes that are realistic - not

> > > trendy. That fit in the upper arms without tons of

> > > extra cloth below. Long, pretty shirts to wear over

> > > slacks. Elegant affordable clothes. I would consult

> > > with men and women to find out what they need and

> > > want.

> > >

> > > Comfy clothes to exercise in and not look ridiculous.

> > >

> > >

> > > OK - enough from me!

> > >

> > >

> > > __________________________________________________

> > >

[Guest guest]

Dear Robyn:

AMEN! I have always hated the clothes we are forced to buy, I was not ever any good at sewing so I had to buy, fortunately for me I could wear jeans to work even if I had to buy them at a big and tall men's store but now I still have a problem I have had since I was 16, women are not allowed to be tall unless they are willing to spend twice as much money on the for tall clothes! And speaking of tall what moron decided that 5'10" was tall and paints with a 34-36 inch inseam are only for jeans unless of course you go back to the specialty stores and the double prices.

I just can't win! I look at great skirts, soft slender with great colors and soft pretty designs and then I wake up as I try them on and they reach only to the bottom of my calves and really look silly. You know those great Capri pants that are supposed to be at calve length? Well, I now have no problem finding sizes I am wearing somewhere between a 10 and 14 depending on what bran but they only reach my knees! Sheesh! And in the same vein tops are now at least long enough as I no longer have to worry about covering my belly and butt but I still wear 3/4 length sleeves or long sleeves, now some of the 3/4 sleeves are fine but long sleeves are funny if I hold my arms out they scoot up to mid forearm.

Okay enough venting I just wish that the companies making these clothes would get it through their heads that heavy woman do not want to look like a 90 year old sack or that they are wearing the special of the day from the tent maker and you are so right! What is with those armholes for goddess sake they reach all the way down to your waist!

And that some of us are actually and really tall 6' and over, oh in case anyone is looking for jeans and they are tall I actually found Wrangler jeans in cool colors, (sage green, light brick red, light gray and 3 different shades of blues and also black) for $18 and change they carry assorted lengths but their talls fit me great and actually reach my ankles, I would prefer if then were a little closer cut but they only have the relaxed fit so I am going to try the size 12 next time and see if I can snap them, I know the rest of them will fit as I have plenty of room in the 14, more than I care for but the waist in the 12 may be a wee bit snug!

Okay sorry this has run on and on so I will close thanks for listening to my griping.

Huggles,

Tiger