Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 This is a tough question. I am MO, scheduled to have a DS in July. I have two teenaged daughters, one of whom is already showing signs of an eating disorder - and I don't know what to do! She is thrilled that I am having the surgery, but knows that I have gone through years of hell, self-blame, dieting and failing, etc. to get here. Does anyone know how to stop the progression of this disease while she is still young, that she may never have to diet or have surgery to live a healthy life? I'm truly frightened for her, and want to help her to not have to go through what I did. Suggestions? Debbie in Philly Pre-op, Dr. Ren 7/12/01 BMI 43, Age 42 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 Debra- There is a great book called, " How To Get Your Kids To Eat But Not Too Much " by Ellyn Satter - $7.99 on Amazon in paperback. It's all about how not to mess up your childrens' relationship with food. That book is for you to read. A book that might be good for your daughters to read themselves (you'll like it for yourself, too) is called " Intuitive Eating : A Recovery Book for the Chronic Dieter : Rediscover the Pleasures of Eating and Rebuild Your Body Image " by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch. Paperback, $6.99 on Amazon. It's all about listening to your body's cues about hunger and fullness and trusting your body to tell you what it needs. It's also about breaking out of that dieting/weight gain cycle that can come from deprivation and the deprivation syndrome it causes. By the way, your upcoming surgery date is on my birthday; I hope that brings you luck! Take care! -Sherry (Lake Marcel, WA) BPD/DS Feb. 2, 2001 self-pay 5'5 " / 329 pounds / 33 years old Lost 9 pounds in pre-op weight loss efforts Have lost 82 pounds since surgery! Total of 91 pounds gone forEVER! http://www.fluffynet.com/wls/ > This is a tough question. I am MO, scheduled to have a DS in July. I > have two teenaged daughters, one of whom is already showing signs of > an eating disorder - and I don't know what to do! She is thrilled > that I am having the surgery, but knows that I have gone through years > of hell, self-blame, dieting and failing, etc. to get here. Does > anyone know how to stop the progression of this disease while she is > still young, that she may never have to diet or have surgery to live > a healthy life? I'm truly frightened for her, and want to help her to > not have to go through what I did. Suggestions? > > Debbie in Philly > Pre-op, Dr. Ren > 7/12/01 > BMI 43, Age 42 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 You may want to try the book " Preventing Childhood Eating Problems: A Practical, Positive Approach to Raising Children Free of Food and Weight Conflicts " by Jane R. Hirschmann, Lela Zaphiropoulos (Contributor) It is sold at Amazon.com for $8.76 In a message dated 5/30/01 12:11:51 AM Eastern Daylight Time, duodenalswitch writes: << > This is a tough question. I am MO, scheduled to have a DS in July. I > have two teenaged daughters, one of whom is already showing signs of > an eating disorder - and I don't know what to do! She is thrilled > that I am having the surgery, but knows that I have gone through years > of hell, self-blame, dieting and failing, etc. to get here. Does > anyone know how to stop the progression of this disease while she is > still young, that she may never have to diet or have surgery to live > a healthy life? I'm truly frightened for her, and want to help her to > not have to go through what I did. Suggestions? > > Debbie in Philly > Pre-op, Dr. Ren > 7/12/01 > BMI 43, Age 42 >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Debbie, I think about this often too, as I have two beautiful teenage daughters, neither of which have a weight problem. We are doing the very best we can with this surgery to treat our disease. It is risky and to some drastic, but it is the best medicine has to offer, and we are luckier now then those 15 years ago. Scientists have identified three seperate obesity genes, and are beginning to understand the role of leptin (sp?) a newly discovered neurotransmitter in the role of obesity. I believe that in the very near years to come, obesity will be treated with gene therapy, or medications that correct the chemical problem in the brain (as opposed to the old school appetite supressants) As far as your daughter, if she has the gene, she will battle weight. It may not be to the extent that you have. I guess I would do all that I can to build her self-esteem, and give her many opportunities for education and healthy activities such as sports or music. Help her learn that she is much, much more than what the scale says. My own mother tried desperately to get me to diet, even at a young age, and here I am with a BMI of 47. She did her best with the knowledge she had, but I wish she had put her energies into building me as a whole person, not justmy shape or size. Be optomistic Debbie, it will probably be easier for our daughters than it was for us. Meli BMI 47 Dr Hess June 21,01 Summer Solstice -- In duodenalswitch@y..., " Debra S. Kardon-Brown " wrote: > This is a tough question. I am MO, scheduled to have a DS in July. I > have two teenaged daughters, one of whom is already showing signs of > an eating disorder - and I don't know what to do! She is thrilled > that I am having the surgery, but knows that I have gone through years > of hell, self-blame, dieting and failing, etc. to get here. Does > anyone know how to stop the progression of this disease while she is > still young, that she may never have to diet or have surgery to live > a healthy life? I'm truly frightened for her, and want to help her to > not have to go through what I did. Suggestions? > > Debbie in Philly > Pre-op, Dr. Ren > 7/12/01 > BMI 43, Age 42 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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