Re: Re: REply to PAM E

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Hi Pam-

Please dont put work first, put yourself first. I think you are going to be so amazed with yourself and the transformations your going to encounter. I know when i first met you at the Vacaville Support group you were still sort of on the fence about all of this..................I just feel so great that i did this surgery in February. I am now down a total of 112 pounds and 80 of those are since surgery in Feb. I no longer have diabetes, my blood pressure is still high but not as high and i knew going in that most of my blood pressure was from herditary factors not just the weight. I feel better, and I look better, I am happier.........................I Vote for you to do this as soon as you can and not delay it ! I delayed my surgery from Dec to Feb for work reasons and now my company was sold, i am reapplying for my same job and i put my life on hold for them and they are thinking about themselves in the sale of the company not us

employees.................... So please think carefully on that......................... I dont get to read Robynn or s posts anymore for some reason what ever they write does not come through i dont know what happened there.

Colleengranela52 wrote:

--Hi ,Welcome. I can relate to all your anxieties,and I really liked Robynn's reply. Someone from this group once told me that the emotional part of this journey is sometimes harder to adjust to than the physical part. I really should be elated right now because I have more than met my preop goal weight,and I have a surgery date in October. However,lately, because of pressures at work I sometimes feel like maybe I should put the surgery off for a while, and I really don't want to do that. I am so used to thinking about others more than myself, and trying to be the "pleaser" that I have to stop and remember to put myself first for once.Pam E.- In gastric-bypass-support-kaiser-patients , Robynn VanPatten wrote:> ...> > Congratulations on taking this brave step.

It takes a lot to get to this point. Of course you are anxious...you are worried that this surgery, which seems like the final resort...well, maybe it won't really work for you. And if that happens, then what? you will have exhausted your options. > > And maybe you are worried about giving up a part of your personality. i know, for me...I was worried about giving up the joie de vivre of eating and drinking with reckless abandon. You know...I mean, I'm the party girl, the hostess with the mostest...the woman with passion and gusto...and I was afraid that I would become less of that...that I'd become less energetic. Less of me.> > And maybe you are worried about letting go of your emotional companion...or your "drug" that helps you to cope with the emotional issues in life. i choked down food because I had a lot of anger that I was unwilling to acknowledge. i was always an accomodator for other people,

hiding my own needs and feelings...and then eating to deal with my frustration, or loneliness, or sadness.> > And I had anxiety about whether I'd be a success or not. Also about How I would deal with sexual temptation when I didn't have my fat suit of armour around me. As a survivor of child molestation...sometimes that fat around me felt like a protection.> > Finally...I was nervous about what woul dhappen to my health. Would I die? Would I be sick all of the time? Who would I be? Would I be able to handle the limitations?> > OK...so here I am today, after having had the surgery on June 8th of this year. I lost 26 lbs. before the surgery. I am now down 60 more lbs. I weight 175. I am 5'6". I have been anemic, and so I am more tired than I would like to be, but my body is still healing, and I'm getting better. Other than that, no complications.> > I want to lose another 40 lbs, but in 20

lbs I will no longer be considered overweight. I have gone from morbidly obese to severely obese, to obese to overweight. And soon, I'll be out of that category into "NORMAL". I wore a size 20 pants, and now my size 12 jeans are too big. > > I was propositioned in a club by two mid-20 year old Brazilian HOTTIES who wanted to er...well, you know. And I'm 41. And I was at a club that was filled with beautiful young women. I was able to handle it with grace, and just take it as a compliment. i wasn't afraid.> > I am still me. i just hosted a party at Teatro Zinzanni, and played the hostess with gusto, even though I'm anemic and tired, and I couldn't eat as much as others. but, I was able to enjoy what I had...and it was enough.> > I am rarely hungry, and I am not obsessed with food. That's a big relief. > > The surgery wasn't very painful, and I recovered relatively quickly,

except for my energy level.> > The thing is...it's totally worth it. Having a new life...being able to go into a REGULAR store, and try on clothes that fit...well, it's fabulous. Having photos taken where you actually look great...well, hey. i'll take it. Knowing that I won't be getting diabetes and heart disease and cancer and all of those weight related diseases...well, that's great. A huge relief.> > Also, you mentioned not having a child yet. At over 400 lbs., you probably wouldn't be able to get pregnant. If you did...it would be very dangerous for you and your child. Losing weight will put you into a much healthier place...and you'll be able to be a more active, involved mother.> > You'll have a new life.> > It's worth it. Go for it!!!!> You'll do great, and we're here for you.> > Robynn> > > > MICHELLE URIBE

wrote:> Cheri,> > Thanks so much for your prayers. Before I found this group, it seemed praying was the only thing that was helping me keep on. I can already see that this group was a great choice. Thank you so much once again.> > Cheri Ortiz wrote:> ,> > Congratulations on a sucessfull journey thus far. Your new life will begin in 7 days. > > My name is Cheri and I had lap RNY on 9/12. That was the first day of my new life. It is very normal to be scared and anxious. I was too. What kept me going, was thinking of WHY I was doing this. You are so young and haven't even started living yet. When you loose your weight, you will be a new person. You will experience things you thought were only for someone else to experience. You will no longer have the restrictions placed upon you by your size. I am proud you have begun this journey.

You CAN and WILL make it through to the end. You will be a new person.> > I am excited for you and you will find a wonderful support group in this site. The people here are understanding and empathetic to our plight, as we have all been down the same road. Although I usually just lurk on this site, I have learned valuable lessons from its wisdom. You will too.> > We are with you and will be praying for you on your big day.> > Cheri> > LE URIBE wrote:> Hello everyone, I just discovered this group, and am thrilled about it. I'm 26 yrs old and 460lbs.. Im married with no kids yet. My surgery is scheduled for 9/27/05 @ Harbor City Kaiser. Im so scared.. I've been waiting for 2 years and now its 7 days away, and Im scared, anxious, thrilled, all at once. For those of you that have had this done, please tell me, how did you deal with these feelings ( if you had them

)?? Part of me finally sees a future, but another part of me, (I guess the part that still recalls the negative past) is scared to imagine anything hopeful too soon.. I'd love to hear from anyone with any words of hope.. Thanks..> > > > > Ciao, > > > Ciao, > > >