Re: horrible situation/ PRAYERS

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Honey there is no way that this is your fault. None of us know when

its our time to pass on. Thats only in Gods book. When its your time

theres nothing we can do about that. You did your best and was a good

friend to him. Please dont feel guilt about this. There are many

risks with this procedure and we all know that. Was his doctor the

best of the best? Was his doctor also your doctor? Thats possilby who

i would be looking to for answers. My prayers for you sweety. I pray

that God gives you comfort and peace. Hugs,

sheryll in Oklahoma

273/233/145ish

7/20/05 Dr (san diego)

LP RNY

> This is long but you will understand why after you

> read it.

>

> I had gastric bypass surgery about 2 years ago and I

> am doing great. The situation is this:

>

> A friend that I had not saw for a while due to him

> moving out of town say me about a year ago and did not

> recognize me due to the weight loss. He himself was

> almost 400 pounds as was I the last time he saw me. So

> he was very impressed with my weight loss. We I got

> call from him several months later and he was

> considering surgery. Then about a two months ago he

> called and said he had started the process, then again

> to say he was approved but had some apprehensions

> about going through with it. We talked for about an

> hour about my experience and his fear. Several calls

> later he tells me he has a date. He was afraid an ask

> that I be his support and encouragement. I agreed and

> we continued to talk on a regular bases until the day

> of his surgery.

>

> He had it and the day afterwards I called and he was

> in severe pain and about to have an x-ray or

> something. Well they found out he had a leak. That was

> not a rare thing and somewhat easily fix. Three days

> later I call and he is out the hospital and feeling

> find. He however, told me he had a tube in his stomach

> for his to inject Ensure of some other suppliment(

> can't remember which). I had never heard of this by

> anyone who I have talked to that had gastric-bypass.

> Has anyone else?

>

> Well anyway to get tot he point. Saturday (10 days

> after the surgery he was admitted to the hospital

> after he was throwing up feces. I think he had an

> instestinal blockage and was to have surgery. In the

> process he throw up and feces when into his lungs

> whereby his system was poisoned and his organs began

> to shut down. He had to be place in a medical induced

> comma, massive antibiotics, and placed in ICU. Well,

> today he died.

>

> I feel an overwhelming feeling of guilt and as if I am

> responsible. Although I was always honest with him

> about the surgery based on my experience and the

> experience of those I know who had the surgery, I

> still feel my positive encouraged of him, because he

> never stop being afraid to have the surgery, motivated

> him to go forward and have the surgery and now he is

> dead.

>

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