Guest guest Posted August 22, 2001 Report Share Posted August 22, 2001 Hi Renae I can't comment on the UTI but as for the plateaus I have gone through the same thing. I was 6 months on 8/16 and experienced my first plateua a few weeks out. From my experience the scales will start moving again. Hope you feel better soon! Peace, TJ > I need some words of encouragment > I am almost 6 moths post-op. I went thru a > huge plateau and lost nothing for 6 weeks. I came off the plateau and > lost 3 lbs now I have gained the same three pounds back!! My starting > weight was 245, I am now 181 AGAIN..Has anyone experienced this? I am > afraid the surgery is not working for me. > I am also suffering from cronic urinary tract infections. > I can't go to a specialist because we lost our insurance. I am taking > 1500 mg of ciparo daily and this is day 6 and it has not helped also > I am taking cranberry tablets, I am still registering the max on the > test strips for UTI. I am drinking about 60-80 oz of water a day > still no help. Any input would be appreciated.. > > Thank You > Renae > 2/28/01 245lbs > 8/23/01 181lbs > Dr Scholten Grand Rapids Mich Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2001 Report Share Posted August 22, 2001 Hi Renae I can't comment on the UTI but as for the plateaus I have gone through the same thing. I was 6 months on 8/16 and experienced my first plateua a few weeks out. From my experience the scales will start moving again. Hope you feel better soon! Peace, TJ > I need some words of encouragment > I am almost 6 moths post-op. I went thru a > huge plateau and lost nothing for 6 weeks. I came off the plateau and > lost 3 lbs now I have gained the same three pounds back!! My starting > weight was 245, I am now 181 AGAIN..Has anyone experienced this? I am > afraid the surgery is not working for me. > I am also suffering from cronic urinary tract infections. > I can't go to a specialist because we lost our insurance. I am taking > 1500 mg of ciparo daily and this is day 6 and it has not helped also > I am taking cranberry tablets, I am still registering the max on the > test strips for UTI. I am drinking about 60-80 oz of water a day > still no help. Any input would be appreciated.. > > Thank You > Renae > 2/28/01 245lbs > 8/23/01 181lbs > Dr Scholten Grand Rapids Mich Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2001 Report Share Posted August 22, 2001 Dear Renae, I have experienced dome of the same. I am just months out as well and have dealt with a bad bad UTI that took me 2 courses of Cipro to get through. It was by far hte worst UTI I had ever had in my life. And I am no stranger to them. I started drinking regular cranberry juice instead of the pills. Even though it gave me alot of sugar in my diet for a few days it was well worth it. I got almost immediate relief. As for your platue. I have lost 100 pounds in 6 months but in the last 7 weeks I have lost almost nothing. Than wam in one week I love 4 pounds again. I too would loose two or three than out it back in during this 7 week period. I am concentrting as heavy as I can on protien and starting to excersice more. I am sure both had something to do with this break thru this week. It is frustrating to loose and loose and tham BAM get stuck. I do understand! Hang in there!! At least the pouns we lost are never coming back !!! ((HUGSZ)) Deanna 08-22-01 200lbs 02-15-01 300lbs (Dr. K Delano, CA) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2001 Report Share Posted August 22, 2001 Dear Renae, I have experienced dome of the same. I am just months out as well and have dealt with a bad bad UTI that took me 2 courses of Cipro to get through. It was by far hte worst UTI I had ever had in my life. And I am no stranger to them. I started drinking regular cranberry juice instead of the pills. Even though it gave me alot of sugar in my diet for a few days it was well worth it. I got almost immediate relief. As for your platue. I have lost 100 pounds in 6 months but in the last 7 weeks I have lost almost nothing. Than wam in one week I love 4 pounds again. I too would loose two or three than out it back in during this 7 week period. I am concentrting as heavy as I can on protien and starting to excersice more. I am sure both had something to do with this break thru this week. It is frustrating to loose and loose and tham BAM get stuck. I do understand! Hang in there!! At least the pouns we lost are never coming back !!! ((HUGSZ)) Deanna 08-22-01 200lbs 02-15-01 300lbs (Dr. K Delano, CA) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2001 Report Share Posted August 22, 2001 Hi Renae, Ive hit plateaus and gained a couple pounds that I lost in the process only to gain them again. It happens. In order to break plateaus, my husband eats donuts! For some strange reason, it works for many....I havent done that myself yet so maybe I should give it a shot! The closer you are to your goal (Im 22 lbs to goal right now) the slower it comes off and the longer the plateaus. You started off at the same weight I did.....245. How tall are you? Im 5' 4 " and Im now 162 with 140 as my goal. Judie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2001 Report Share Posted August 22, 2001 Hi Renae, Ive hit plateaus and gained a couple pounds that I lost in the process only to gain them again. It happens. In order to break plateaus, my husband eats donuts! For some strange reason, it works for many....I havent done that myself yet so maybe I should give it a shot! The closer you are to your goal (Im 22 lbs to goal right now) the slower it comes off and the longer the plateaus. You started off at the same weight I did.....245. How tall are you? Im 5' 4 " and Im now 162 with 140 as my goal. Judie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2001 Report Share Posted August 22, 2001 In a message dated 8/22/01 12:19:55 PM, duodenalswitch writes: << I am almost 6 moths post-op. I went thru a huge plateau and lost nothing for 6 weeks. I came off the plateau and lost 3 lbs now I have gained the same three pounds back!! My starting weight was 245, I am now 181 AGAIN..Has anyone experienced this? I am afraid the surgery is not working for me. >> Hi, Renae: I was on a plateau recently, too (I think it lasted for about 2 weeks but it seemed like forever - maybe it was longer?). Then, I gained 2lbs then it was 3 lbs! AGH! I've found that I can gain anywhere from 2-4 lbs on a plateau and I usually start losing again right after the weight maxes out. Perhaps my body was holding on with all it's might and the few lbs weight gain is it's last possible defense before it 'gives in' for awhile. I was down to 228, then up to 230. Hung out at 230 for awhile, even going up to 231-232... Now, I'm down to 225! Wow! It's like I lost 2 lbs overnight... Hope this lasts for awhile before the next big plateau! My starting weight was 307 and now I'm at 225 (thank GOD for that! :)). So far, my plateaus have lasted a few weeks at most and then I go down about 5 lbs or so before my body starts fighting again. Have you made your '50 pct' mark yet? That is what reassured me - the fact that, although I may have started out relatively slowly, I've lost more than 80 lbs at 6 months out ... and have about 60 more to go! Also, it's good to measure oneself because it is true that you may be losing INCHES even if the weight is not dropping and/or if you've gained a few lbs. The 2 lbs or so could also be water retention (especially with PMS/period on a monthly cycle). Hang in there! all the best, lap ds with gallbladder removal January 25, 2001 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2001 Report Share Posted August 22, 2001 In a message dated 8/22/01 12:19:55 PM, duodenalswitch writes: << I am almost 6 moths post-op. I went thru a huge plateau and lost nothing for 6 weeks. I came off the plateau and lost 3 lbs now I have gained the same three pounds back!! My starting weight was 245, I am now 181 AGAIN..Has anyone experienced this? I am afraid the surgery is not working for me. >> Hi, Renae: I was on a plateau recently, too (I think it lasted for about 2 weeks but it seemed like forever - maybe it was longer?). Then, I gained 2lbs then it was 3 lbs! AGH! I've found that I can gain anywhere from 2-4 lbs on a plateau and I usually start losing again right after the weight maxes out. Perhaps my body was holding on with all it's might and the few lbs weight gain is it's last possible defense before it 'gives in' for awhile. I was down to 228, then up to 230. Hung out at 230 for awhile, even going up to 231-232... Now, I'm down to 225! Wow! It's like I lost 2 lbs overnight... Hope this lasts for awhile before the next big plateau! My starting weight was 307 and now I'm at 225 (thank GOD for that! :)). So far, my plateaus have lasted a few weeks at most and then I go down about 5 lbs or so before my body starts fighting again. Have you made your '50 pct' mark yet? That is what reassured me - the fact that, although I may have started out relatively slowly, I've lost more than 80 lbs at 6 months out ... and have about 60 more to go! Also, it's good to measure oneself because it is true that you may be losing INCHES even if the weight is not dropping and/or if you've gained a few lbs. The 2 lbs or so could also be water retention (especially with PMS/period on a monthly cycle). Hang in there! all the best, lap ds with gallbladder removal January 25, 2001 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2001 Report Share Posted August 22, 2001 In a message dated 8/22/01 2:21:20 PM, duodenalswitch writes: << Ive hit plateaus and gained a couple pounds that I lost in the process only to gain them again. It happens. In order to break plateaus, my husband eats donuts! For some strange reason, it works for many....I havent done that myself yet so maybe I should give it a shot! >> Hot dog, Judie -- I should give this a try! LOL Any particular type better than another? I really have been avoiding the doughnuts but I do like them.... hmmmm... Next plateau, eh? It's worth a try, I agree! <<<<<<<<<<Im 5' 4 " and Im now 162 with 140 as my goal.>>>>>>>> That's great, congrats to you, Judie! I'd love to be there... I'll get there, I know... I'm down to 225 with 170 as my goal, so although I've lost a lot (over 80 lbs) and am over halfway there, the numbers in front of me are still somewhat 'formidable'. It's great to hear from people who are almost there... knowing that it is possible and someday it will happen for me, too! all the best, lap ds with gallbladder removal January 25, 2001 Dr. Gagner/mt. Sinai/nYC preop: 307 lbs/bmi 45 now: 225 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2001 Report Share Posted August 22, 2001 In a message dated 8/22/01 2:21:20 PM, duodenalswitch writes: << Ive hit plateaus and gained a couple pounds that I lost in the process only to gain them again. It happens. In order to break plateaus, my husband eats donuts! For some strange reason, it works for many....I havent done that myself yet so maybe I should give it a shot! >> Hot dog, Judie -- I should give this a try! LOL Any particular type better than another? I really have been avoiding the doughnuts but I do like them.... hmmmm... Next plateau, eh? It's worth a try, I agree! <<<<<<<<<<Im 5' 4 " and Im now 162 with 140 as my goal.>>>>>>>> That's great, congrats to you, Judie! I'd love to be there... I'll get there, I know... I'm down to 225 with 170 as my goal, so although I've lost a lot (over 80 lbs) and am over halfway there, the numbers in front of me are still somewhat 'formidable'. It's great to hear from people who are almost there... knowing that it is possible and someday it will happen for me, too! all the best, lap ds with gallbladder removal January 25, 2001 Dr. Gagner/mt. Sinai/nYC preop: 307 lbs/bmi 45 now: 225 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2001 Report Share Posted August 22, 2001 Re: Re: Depressed > Hot dog, Judie -- I should give this a try! LOL Any particular type better > than another? I really have been avoiding the doughnuts but I do like > them.... hmmmm... Next plateau, eh? I wonder -- does the donut thing work because it induces diarrhea or something? Or is it that the body feels deprived of fat so it's holding onto its own? Or is it just a mysterious and beautiful phenomenon?? alyssa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2001 Report Share Posted August 22, 2001 Re: Re: Depressed > Hot dog, Judie -- I should give this a try! LOL Any particular type better > than another? I really have been avoiding the doughnuts but I do like > them.... hmmmm... Next plateau, eh? I wonder -- does the donut thing work because it induces diarrhea or something? Or is it that the body feels deprived of fat so it's holding onto its own? Or is it just a mysterious and beautiful phenomenon?? alyssa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2004 Report Share Posted September 11, 2004 In a message dated 9/11/2004 6:35:32 PM Eastern Daylight Time, babyhebe@... writes: How many of you, like me, were on the pill when you got pregnant? Please let me know. ---------------------------------------------------------------------- I am sorry you are depressed! ( a quiet congrats on Pregnancy ) The Pill and WLS is a ticking time bomb for unplanned pregnancy. Due to Malabsorption issues.. the Pill is not as effective. My first pg ( my almost 2 year old Noah) was so not planned.. in fact.. it happened only 3 weeks after I got together with my new boyfriend.. now husband. ( PRE WLS) Noah was born 9 weeks early... rather traumatic. 6 months later... I was on the Pill.. still PRE WLS.. and very overweight... and concieved again. Miscarried at 14 weeks. That was 7/03. 12/03 I had WLS.. and 10 weeks later ( Valentines Day ) got pregnant again. We were using condoms... but Dh forgot.. and that one time... well... Here I sit 30 weeks preggers... I have to say... after the shock of each pg wore off.. I was delighted and apprehensive. I can tell you tho.. after this baby is born.. it is Mirena for me!!! *************************************************** K in Ft Lauderdale Noah - 10/14/02 (31 weeker - DX of SID ) Jonah - edd 11/18/04 ( currently High Risk Pg.. not WLS related) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2004 Report Share Posted September 11, 2004 In a message dated 9/11/2004 6:35:32 PM Eastern Daylight Time, babyhebe@... writes: How many of you, like me, were on the pill when you got pregnant? Please let me know. ---------------------------------------------------------------------- I am sorry you are depressed! ( a quiet congrats on Pregnancy ) The Pill and WLS is a ticking time bomb for unplanned pregnancy. Due to Malabsorption issues.. the Pill is not as effective. My first pg ( my almost 2 year old Noah) was so not planned.. in fact.. it happened only 3 weeks after I got together with my new boyfriend.. now husband. ( PRE WLS) Noah was born 9 weeks early... rather traumatic. 6 months later... I was on the Pill.. still PRE WLS.. and very overweight... and concieved again. Miscarried at 14 weeks. That was 7/03. 12/03 I had WLS.. and 10 weeks later ( Valentines Day ) got pregnant again. We were using condoms... but Dh forgot.. and that one time... well... Here I sit 30 weeks preggers... I have to say... after the shock of each pg wore off.. I was delighted and apprehensive. I can tell you tho.. after this baby is born.. it is Mirena for me!!! *************************************************** K in Ft Lauderdale Noah - 10/14/02 (31 weeker - DX of SID ) Jonah - edd 11/18/04 ( currently High Risk Pg.. not WLS related) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2004 Report Share Posted September 12, 2004 My husband and I were also in shock when finding out that we were expecting. (I'm now 29wks) We were together in HS, and reunited four years ago...married two years ago. My son (previous 12 yr marriage) is 6 now - my husband loves being his stepfather - but was NOT hoping to be a 'bio' father and had some MAJOR problems with my getting pregnant. I too thought that although it was not planned, that he would handle the news a little better...maybe 'maturely' is a more specific word for it? We had two miscarriages in the past and during those times he constantly said 'don't worry, we can try for another' and was very saddened by the losses too. He too, was actually the one (this time around) that teased me about being late for my period, being fatigued, etc....so when I took three hpt's and got the positives I was pretty put-off by his throwing (my opinion) a toddler temper- tantrum. He's been on an emotional roller coaster since. For the most part he's in good spirits about it, but there have been a handful of times that I told him shape-up or leave. Hold your decision once it's made. While it's great to both be happy about the baby, it's not always the game. I told him it's one thing to be concerned about my health (while the wls was awesome in results...it's caused some major health issues with me and he is watching me like a hawk) and it's another thing to use it as an excuse to throw tantrums about an unplanned pregnancy...that I DO NOT NEED THE STRESS! And you don't either. Good luck - hope things work out for the best. in Detroit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2004 Report Share Posted September 12, 2004 My husband and I were also in shock when finding out that we were expecting. (I'm now 29wks) We were together in HS, and reunited four years ago...married two years ago. My son (previous 12 yr marriage) is 6 now - my husband loves being his stepfather - but was NOT hoping to be a 'bio' father and had some MAJOR problems with my getting pregnant. I too thought that although it was not planned, that he would handle the news a little better...maybe 'maturely' is a more specific word for it? We had two miscarriages in the past and during those times he constantly said 'don't worry, we can try for another' and was very saddened by the losses too. He too, was actually the one (this time around) that teased me about being late for my period, being fatigued, etc....so when I took three hpt's and got the positives I was pretty put-off by his throwing (my opinion) a toddler temper- tantrum. He's been on an emotional roller coaster since. For the most part he's in good spirits about it, but there have been a handful of times that I told him shape-up or leave. Hold your decision once it's made. While it's great to both be happy about the baby, it's not always the game. I told him it's one thing to be concerned about my health (while the wls was awesome in results...it's caused some major health issues with me and he is watching me like a hawk) and it's another thing to use it as an excuse to throw tantrums about an unplanned pregnancy...that I DO NOT NEED THE STRESS! And you don't either. Good luck - hope things work out for the best. in Detroit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2004 Report Share Posted September 12, 2004 aalison, i'm so sorry you are going thru this. this should be such a joyeous time for you and here he is stressing you out. how rude! we were not on teh pill, but after 4 1/2 years of infertility and hubby having a low sperm count test the month before and me having had lap RNY 2 months before, we certainly weren't expecting to get pregnant. it's very scary to think of and the fact that i was jsut getting onto solids when i got pregnant, etc, but we were still very happy. you tell your BF to shape up or ship out. his negativity is the last thing you need and if he can't be happy for you and you guys together then he doesn't need to be around. how far post op are you? jsut tell him it could be my situation, only 2 months post op! tell him to go with the flow, take your vitamins and supplements and drink lots of water and do the best you can. hugs. hope things get better... aka mom2ben99 (jennilee75@...) Kay Independent Beauty Consultant http://www.marykay.com/koopmans I have all your summer care needs...tanning lotion, sunblock, even sunblock for your lips, get yours today! depressed Hello all, I just found out yesterday that I am preggo. I was just shocked. I told my boyfriend today and he is not impressed because we didn't plan it. Not to mention that he says that he is not sure if my body can handle it since the wls. So, I told him to think about it for a few more days and then we will discuss it. He kept on making all these comments all week about my being late for my period and now that I took the tests and they were positive, he isn't happy? What gives. How many of you, like me, were on the pill when you got pregnant? Please let me know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2004 Report Share Posted September 12, 2004 aalison, i'm so sorry you are going thru this. this should be such a joyeous time for you and here he is stressing you out. how rude! we were not on teh pill, but after 4 1/2 years of infertility and hubby having a low sperm count test the month before and me having had lap RNY 2 months before, we certainly weren't expecting to get pregnant. it's very scary to think of and the fact that i was jsut getting onto solids when i got pregnant, etc, but we were still very happy. you tell your BF to shape up or ship out. his negativity is the last thing you need and if he can't be happy for you and you guys together then he doesn't need to be around. how far post op are you? jsut tell him it could be my situation, only 2 months post op! tell him to go with the flow, take your vitamins and supplements and drink lots of water and do the best you can. hugs. hope things get better... aka mom2ben99 (jennilee75@...) Kay Independent Beauty Consultant http://www.marykay.com/koopmans I have all your summer care needs...tanning lotion, sunblock, even sunblock for your lips, get yours today! depressed Hello all, I just found out yesterday that I am preggo. I was just shocked. I told my boyfriend today and he is not impressed because we didn't plan it. Not to mention that he says that he is not sure if my body can handle it since the wls. So, I told him to think about it for a few more days and then we will discuss it. He kept on making all these comments all week about my being late for my period and now that I took the tests and they were positive, he isn't happy? What gives. How many of you, like me, were on the pill when you got pregnant? Please let me know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2004 Report Share Posted September 12, 2004 my dear boyfriend will be 51 in November. He has 2 grown children and some grandchildren. I am 26. I am nearly 5 months post op. I was shocked and kind of excited, but his reaction is just so bad that I don't know what to think. I have my first appt. with my ob/gyn on Tuesday. I have not told him yet. The only thing that I can think about is weather I am going to do this on my own or if he is going to stay and do this with me, as a team. Either way, I am going to be ok. We talked about having children. We talked about it ALL the time! We had decided that this time next year would be a great time to try to start a family. So, we're a year ahead of schedule! Babies don't have calendars!!!! URGH! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2004 Report Share Posted September 12, 2004 my dear boyfriend will be 51 in November. He has 2 grown children and some grandchildren. I am 26. I am nearly 5 months post op. I was shocked and kind of excited, but his reaction is just so bad that I don't know what to think. I have my first appt. with my ob/gyn on Tuesday. I have not told him yet. The only thing that I can think about is weather I am going to do this on my own or if he is going to stay and do this with me, as a team. Either way, I am going to be ok. We talked about having children. We talked about it ALL the time! We had decided that this time next year would be a great time to try to start a family. So, we're a year ahead of schedule! Babies don't have calendars!!!! URGH! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2004 Report Share Posted September 12, 2004 he is just so wishy washy about the baby. This morning, he was ok, then BAM! His mood drastically changed. Then BAM! He was fine again, and said something about maybe the twin boys that he wants are inside me. I don't know what to think, so I am just ignoring everything. We live in our hometown. We are both originally from here. I only left for a VERY short while and he just moved back. We have known each other for a few years and then I fought to keep him away and I finally caved in a nd we were happy...now? urgh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2004 Report Share Posted September 12, 2004 he is just so wishy washy about the baby. This morning, he was ok, then BAM! His mood drastically changed. Then BAM! He was fine again, and said something about maybe the twin boys that he wants are inside me. I don't know what to think, so I am just ignoring everything. We live in our hometown. We are both originally from here. I only left for a VERY short while and he just moved back. We have known each other for a few years and then I fought to keep him away and I finally caved in a nd we were happy...now? urgh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2004 Report Share Posted September 12, 2004 > > I left chicago and moved back to where I grew up as a young kid, in the twin > cities, MN. Hey Jen If you haven't already you should check out OSSGMN email list, you will probably find some support there OSSGpreg lurker Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2004 Report Share Posted September 12, 2004 > > I left chicago and moved back to where I grew up as a young kid, in the twin > cities, MN. Hey Jen If you haven't already you should check out OSSGMN email list, you will probably find some support there OSSGpreg lurker Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2004 Report Share Posted September 12, 2004 Jen-...My name is Robin and I had a lapds 3/03 and if you need to talk or have questions..email me at rokin2rich@.... I am 32 wks pregnant Robin > , > > I am so sorry that you are going through this. I wasn't on the pill, THAT > MONTH, but had been for YEARS before that, and had been with my boyfriend > about 2 weeks when a condom broke. I told him not to stress because I had > been told many times I wouuldn't be able to get preggers without tons of > work. Well I didn't think twice about it, and then about a month later a > girlfriend of mine was talking about how she had cramps and I about fell off > my stool realizing it had been almost 2 months since my last period. The > next day I took a pregnancy test, and then 5 more, just in case the first > five were wrong... Needless to say, that wasn't the case. > > I was not in a " baby place " I lived in a high rise in downtown Chicago, > living the sex in the city life to the fullest. I didn't have any illusions > about the guy I had been seeing being Mr. Right, he didn't even have a > divorce yet, although he had been seperated for 3 years, but we had fun > together and that was where we both were in life. I have wanted children my > whole life, when all my friends in our college town started to get married > and have kids, I was still the fat chick, no prospects of anyone seeing past > it for anything but a good time in the sac, and I certainly wasn't finding > anyone I could start a family with. It was very hard to watch all of my > friends live the life I so desperately wanted so I picked up and moved > downtown. I had my DS about a year later after I moved and so began my > life. I swear, I didn't know what living was until almost a year after my > wls. > > I was single, cute, sexy, and normal for the first time in my life. Guys > were falling all over me, I was finally happy with me, had a ton of friends > that were my age, no kids, no responsibilities, and really none of us wanted > any at that point. We were at a very selfish stage in our lives were it was > all about us, and we didn't really need anyone else to have to worry about. > I was dating many people, not just one, and at times even sleeping with a > few of them. It was a very free love time of my life, and while I am glad > that I experienced it, because I never did when I was younger... As a > result I got preggers. > > Last winter, I was working with the father, we were both pretty big > partyers, and we always had a blast. It was all very casual, and then BAM! > About a week before I found out I was pregnant, he decided to try to work > things out with his wife. That was actually fine with me, like I said, it > wasn't like I was in love with the guy, we just really liked each other. So > when a week later I found out I was pregnant that didn't exactly sit well > with him. He demanded I have an abortion, said I was irresponsible, had > been drinking, smoking, etc. and that if I had the baby it would have all > kinds of problems because I was a terrible person and could never be a > mother, etc. At 31 years old, after having wanted this my whole life and > having recent surgeries and fertilitiy issues that told me that I might > never have my own kids, I was an emotional wreck. > > I wasn't in a place in my life when I wanted a baby either, I didn't want to > move out of the city, but couldn't afford day care in Chicago on my own. > All my friends didn't know what to do with me, if they couldn't take me out > dancing and buy me a martini to ease the pain, they were pretty much at a > loss, as I would have been if it was one of them. As I said, a baby just > wasn't part of the life plan just then... But at the same time, this was > something I had always wanted, and without a doubt, might never happen > again. I personally couldn't go through with an abortion. Maybe at 22, but > not at 30. So to me it wasn't a question of what, it was how and when. > > I left chicago and moved back to where I grew up as a young kid, in the twin > cities, MN. It was a HUGE culture shock, plus I had to stay with Mom and > Dad for about 3 months while I found a job at 16 weeks pregnant, and an > apartment, etc. The father still wont speak to me, and I am looking at > doing it all alone. > > And I would do it all over again in a heart beat. No questions asked. I > have monthly ultra sounds and feel almost like I know this little peroson > living inside me already. Every time it moves, or gets the hiccups it > almost makes me want to cry. I have had a number of complications, and am > on partial bed rest at the moment, and still, there is nothing I would do to > change a thing. Hang in there, trust YOUR gut. Know that you will make the > right decision, and that with or without his support you will be just fine. > > Keep the faith girl, it will be ok. > Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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