from Sue... making some progress

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Hi Everybody!

Just thought I would check in and let you know I have made some progress on my 10%. I have lost 11 lbs. I have not been able to exercise, but I am changing that this week. I bought a scale and I only get on once a week.

So many things going on with everyone! Congratulations on Surgery dates, and pounds lost!

Thank you for your encouragement. Does anyone have a spouse that does not want them to have the surgery? Any ideas on what and how to deal with that?

I did see where someone has been having some counseling..... and that seems to help.... anyone else?

Thanks Friends....

Sue

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Sue,

I believe this is a pretty common thing. Mine said yes due to all my health problems, then when I lost 42 pounds before surgery he wanted me to change my mind and do it on my own. I made him go to orientation and every appointment and then he was okay with it on surgery day and I had him attend my appointments after until my 6 month post op which he couldn't go due to his depression. Keep reading e-mails and you'll hear about more husband problems. Do what you need to do for yourself and if your marriage is strong all will work out. If your husband is to hard on you jealous or what ever after surgery, a counseling, or communication class, there's things that can help them. If your marriage is bad sometimes this add to the damage. My marriage was strong, but my husband isn't with his chronic depression and anxiety, so as I got smaller he got more jealous, as I got more energetic he would say you never set with me any more, I'm lonely and

they feel sorry for themselves. My husband is worse because life itself is just hard. So I hope things work out for you, and if you really want this surgery remember you need be true to yourself in this life to be happy. Donna Moniz wrote:

Hi Everybody!

Just thought I would check in and let you know I have made some progress on my 10%. I have lost 11 lbs. I have not been able to exercise, but I am changing that this week. I bought a scale and I only get on once a week.

So many things going on with everyone! Congratulations on Surgery dates, and pounds lost!

Thank you for your encouragement. Does anyone have a spouse that does not want them to have the surgery? Any ideas on what and how to deal with that?

I did see where someone has been having some counseling..... and that seems to help.... anyone else?

Thanks Friends....

Sue

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Good job, Sue...keep up the progress. Exercise will really help.

As far as unsupportive spouses...even though I am now going through a divorce, and was separated from Steve for more than a year before my surgery journey began. He was very concerned about it at first. We were still close, and not sure that the marriage would end...so of course I included him in the process.

He was worried I would die, or that it wouldn't work, or that I wouldn't take my vitamins. He was worried that I would be sick all of the time. And he probably was worried that I would get thin and not need him anymore. (This is not the reason for the divorce, I can assure you.)

After he became properly educated on the subject, went along with me to orientation and a couple of other appointments, read the binder that Richmond gives out (you can find it online at Dr. Bagg's website, he is a Kaiser Richmond bariatric surgeon), he started to relax a bit more. He was still nervous, to be sure...but he realized that this was going to help save my life. (Keep in mind, I was 100 lbs. overweight, and had only mild sleep apnea, and hyperinsulinimia (pre diabetic stage). But generally, my health wasn't all that bad...and he had to get his arms around the fact that i might get heavier and heavier with time...and that my health would be ultimately compromised.)

So, arm him with information. Tell him that you are doing this, your primary care physician supports the idea, thinks it is best for your health...and get him to read some stuff. Or, find the Carnie (A doctor in your house) films that are on the web, he can watch the procedure and hear the experts talk about it, and hear her testimony before and after. Maybe then he'll understand, and feel more comfortable.)

The mortality rate through Kaiser is far less than the national average. Let him know that this procedure has been around for more than 40 years, so there actually is a lot of long-term study information on the effects of the surgery.

He'll come around. And if he doesn't...well, maybe there are some other issues in your relationship that you will have to deal with...

Good luck,

Robynn Moniz wrote:

Hi Everybody!

Just thought I would check in and let you know I have made some progress on my 10%. I have lost 11 lbs. I have not been able to exercise, but I am changing that this week. I bought a scale and I only get on once a week.

So many things going on with everyone! Congratulations on Surgery dates, and pounds lost!

Thank you for your encouragement. Does anyone have a spouse that does not want them to have the surgery? Any ideas on what and how to deal with that?

I did see where someone has been having some counseling..... and that seems to help.... anyone else?

Thanks Friends....

Sue

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Hi Donna

Thank you for sharing. I think my marriage is really strong.... but as the reality of the surgery gets closer I think that my husband's opinion will get stronger... he is really worried that something will happen to me.... I know that I really need to do this.... I have been overweight all my life.... I am a diabetic, I have high blood pressure, and I have arthritis...this will make me healthier.... I know I can and will live better having this surgery. I am going to talk to him more about it.... and take him to all my appointments(great idea!) and I bet this helps!

Thank you again

SueDonna Jordon wrote:

Sue,

I believe this is a pretty common thing. Mine said yes due to all my health problems, then when I lost 42 pounds before surgery he wanted me to change my mind and do it on my own. I made him go to orientation and every appointment and then he was okay with it on surgery day and I had him attend my appointments after until my 6 month post op which he couldn't go due to his depression. Keep reading e-mails and you'll hear about more husband problems. Do what you need to do for yourself and if your marriage is strong all will work out. If your husband is to hard on you jealous or what ever after surgery, a counseling, or communication class, there's things that can help them. If your marriage is bad sometimes this add to the damage. My marriage was strong, but my husband isn't with his chronic depression and anxiety, so as I got smaller he got more jealous, as I got more energetic he would say you never set with me any more, I'm lonely and

they feel sorry for themselves. My husband is worse because life itself is just hard. So I hope things work out for you, and if you really want this surgery remember you need be true to yourself in this life to be happy. Donna Moniz wrote:

Hi Everybody!

Just thought I would check in and let you know I have made some progress on my 10%. I have lost 11 lbs. I have not been able to exercise, but I am changing that this week. I bought a scale and I only get on once a week.

So many things going on with everyone! Congratulations on Surgery dates, and pounds lost!

Thank you for your encouragement. Does anyone have a spouse that does not want them to have the surgery? Any ideas on what and how to deal with that?

I did see where someone has been having some counseling..... and that seems to help.... anyone else?

Thanks Friends....

Sue

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Sue,

I know it will help if he learns more. Donna Moniz wrote:

Hi Donna

Thank you for sharing. I think my marriage is really strong.... but as the reality of the surgery gets closer I think that my husband's opinion will get stronger... he is really worried that something will happen to me.... I know that I really need to do this.... I have been overweight all my life.... I am a diabetic, I have high blood pressure, and I have arthritis...this will make me healthier.... I know I can and will live better having this surgery. I am going to talk to him more about it.... and take him to all my appointments(great idea!) and I bet this helps!

Thank you again

SueDonna Jordon wrote:

Sue,

I believe this is a pretty common thing. Mine said yes due to all my health problems, then when I lost 42 pounds before surgery he wanted me to change my mind and do it on my own. I made him go to orientation and every appointment and then he was okay with it on surgery day and I had him attend my appointments after until my 6 month post op which he couldn't go due to his depression. Keep reading e-mails and you'll hear about more husband problems. Do what you need to do for yourself and if your marriage is strong all will work out. If your husband is to hard on you jealous or what ever after surgery, a counseling, or communication class, there's things that can help them. If your marriage is bad sometimes this add to the damage. My marriage was strong, but my husband isn't with his chronic depression and anxiety, so as I got smaller he got more jealous, as I got more energetic he would say you never set with me any more, I'm lonely and

they feel sorry for themselves. My husband is worse because life itself is just hard. So I hope things work out for you, and if you really want this surgery remember you need be true to yourself in this life to be happy. Donna Moniz wrote:

Hi Everybody!

Just thought I would check in and let you know I have made some progress on my 10%. I have lost 11 lbs. I have not been able to exercise, but I am changing that this week. I bought a scale and I only get on once a week.

So many things going on with everyone! Congratulations on Surgery dates, and pounds lost!

Thank you for your encouragement. Does anyone have a spouse that does not want them to have the surgery? Any ideas on what and how to deal with that?

I did see where someone has been having some counseling..... and that seems to help.... anyone else?

Thanks Friends....

Sue

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Does anyone know exactly what the Kaiser mortality rate is? I've been

curious about that for some time - I mean, I'm going to have the

surgery even if it's the same as the national average, but it would

sure be reasuring to my husband if I could show him that it's safer

through Kaiser.

Cathy C.

> The mortality rate through Kaiser is far less than the national

average. Let him know that this procedure has been around for more

than 40 years, so there actually is a lot of long-term study

information on the effects of the surgery.