My first plateau...and is the honeymoon already over?!?!

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Ok...I am not quite 5 months out yet (it will be five months on the

8th), and my weightloss finally slowed down. I think I lost about 5

or 6 lbs. in October...and I've been hovering at the same weight (up

a lb. down a lb.) for two weeks now...

this is my first " plateau " . I have consistently lost weight every

week since I started. And it's fine if it is just a plateau...but I

have some bad behaviours that are starting up, so I need a little

help here.

The past two weeks have been very very tough emotionally. My husband

filed for divorce, and even though that was coming for a long while,

the reality of it is quite devastating. He is very hurt and upset by

my relationship with (who can blame him), and he is unwilling to

stand by and let me date during our separation (even though that was

what I had told him from day one.) Steve has been my good friend for

13 years. He is family. And now, I'm faced with the distinct

possibility that I will never see him again. That is killing me.

On top of that, I'm dealing with the fact that is probably

moving here in January, and I will be his sole support for a hwile,

at least until it's legal for him to work. He's trying to get a

student visa that will also let him work...that way he can work on

his English, and get an additional certificate or two year

degree...and then he'll be at a better place to secure a job.

But the whole thing is kind of freaking me out, now. It feels so

fast..but everything with him is great...and circumstances are

converging to make all of this come together.

But Robynn is turning to carbs a bit, and is emotionally eating. I

have done stupid things, like bought those peanut butter filled

pretzel bits from Trader Joe's. Went through a whole bag in about a

week. Bought a second bag...and wound up throwing that away.

Bought cookies (the ginger types with lemon filling). Ate a couple

of cookies each day...threw the rest away. Ate a little bit of

Halloween candy. (no, I'm not throwing up, unfortunately.) I eat

too many crackers. And gee...have I been exercising? Well, not

much. Yesterday, I walked for an hour...and today, I've done my

treadclimber for 45 minutes.

I'm hungry, but I'm pretty sure it's emotional hunger...because even

when I'm NOT hungry, i've been nibbling. Anxiety nibbling.

That worries me, A LOT. I am at 168 right now. And even though I

look pretty good, I'm technically still overweight at my height until

I reach 153. Dr. Fischer and I had decided that 145 would be a good

middle range, and I have subsequently set a private goal for 135.

So, I have 33 lbs. to go...and a minimimum of 15 to go before I'm of

normal weight.

I know I have to stop this before it becomes habitual. Focus on

protein. Make sure I'm getting my water. (I'm good about my

vitamins, that's the one thing I'm being well-behaved about).

Please help me. Is there anyone out there who started being non-

compliant so darned early? This divorce thing is throwing me for a

loop..and so far, I haven't gained...and I'm trying to nip the

behaviours in the bud...but it worries me that I'm going right back

into " food as comfort when anxious " mode.

HELP!!!!

Robynn

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Robynn,

I can tell you that when you eat one carb, your body then wants two. You can talk to the nutritionist about this, if you don't eat them you don't crave them so much. As far as emotional eating it's not a good thing, but it's hard when your going through so much. Just try to think Steve is really hurt right now, but later he may come around to being your friend, that's what my ex-husband did, but it was after a year when I remarried. You and Steve really still care for each other give him time, try to just keep in touch with him, but not now he needs his space he's hurt. After the divorce is final send him a note tell him all the things you loved about him, that you wish him happiness, that you'll always be there as a friend and he may come back around, we all need time. As far as I don't know everything I haven't been on here for a long time, but get the story, it may be to good of a thing to pass up or it may be to fast, only you in your

heart can tell. If it's really bothering you that much it may be to soon, other plans my need to be made, but if you and are meant to be together you will be. So stop the carb stuff and if you need emotional eating, it's just being able to put things in your mouth buy SF popsicles, SF jello, chicken broth, no carb yogurts and eat when you get the urge this don't have carbs, makes your brain you're eating when you shouldn't and there's not a lot of calories. Don't buy the carbs you see that you might want for emotions then they won't be there at home. Listen to your heart, think with your brain and do what you need to do for Robynn or you will not be happy, and we all have a tendency to not think of ourselves at all or until last, that's why so many people have to end up with WLS. Stay strong, talk with your friends and family and really think things out. If you need more help with your emotional behavior go see the psych doctor, he may

put you on something if your not to calm you as you go through this hard time, if you are on a medicine already for your anxiety he may have to adjust it. Don't feel like you can't ask for help. Take Care. DonnaRobynn wrote:

Ok...I am not quite 5 months out yet (it will be five months on the 8th), and my weightloss finally slowed down. I think I lost about 5 or 6 lbs. in October...and I've been hovering at the same weight (up a lb. down a lb.) for two weeks now...this is my first "plateau". I have consistently lost weight every week since I started. And it's fine if it is just a plateau...but I have some bad behaviours that are starting up, so I need a little help here.The past two weeks have been very very tough emotionally. My husband filed for divorce, and even though that was coming for a long while, the reality of it is quite devastating. He is very hurt and upset by my relationship with (who can blame him), and he is unwilling to stand by and let me date during our separation (even though that was what

I had told him from day one.) Steve has been my good friend for 13 years. He is family. And now, I'm faced with the distinct possibility that I will never see him again. That is killing me.On top of that, I'm dealing with the fact that is probably moving here in January, and I will be his sole support for a hwile, at least until it's legal for him to work. He's trying to get a student visa that will also let him work...that way he can work on his English, and get an additional certificate or two year degree...and then he'll be at a better place to secure a job.But the whole thing is kind of freaking me out, now. It feels so fast..but everything with him is great...and circumstances are converging to make all of this come together.But Robynn is turning to carbs a bit, and is emotionally eating. I have done stupid things, like bought those peanut butter filled pretzel

bits from Trader Joe's. Went through a whole bag in about a week. Bought a second bag...and wound up throwing that away.Bought cookies (the ginger types with lemon filling). Ate a couple of cookies each day...threw the rest away. Ate a little bit of Halloween candy. (no, I'm not throwing up, unfortunately.) I eat too many crackers. And gee...have I been exercising? Well, not much. Yesterday, I walked for an hour...and today, I've done my treadclimber for 45 minutes.I'm hungry, but I'm pretty sure it's emotional hunger...because even when I'm NOT hungry, i've been nibbling. Anxiety nibbling.That worries me, A LOT. I am at 168 right now. And even though I look pretty good, I'm technically still overweight at my height until I reach 153. Dr. Fischer and I had decided that 145 would be a good middle range, and I have subsequently set a private

goal for 135. So, I have 33 lbs. to go...and a minimimum of 15 to go before I'm of normal weight.I know I have to stop this before it becomes habitual. Focus on protein. Make sure I'm getting my water. (I'm good about my vitamins, that's the one thing I'm being well-behaved about).Please help me. Is there anyone out there who started being non-compliant so darned early? This divorce thing is throwing me for a loop..and so far, I haven't gained...and I'm trying to nip the behaviours in the bud...but it worries me that I'm going right back into "food as comfort when anxious" mode.HELP!!!!RobynnDonna JordonDSJordon@...

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Thanks Donna. Actually, I just made an appointment with the psych. that works with the Richmond Bariatric group. I just don't want to go down that rabbit hole into compulsive eating again. You are right, I'll stock up on my SF popsicles again. I will limit my carbs to veggies and occasional fruits. I'll get rid of the crackers. They kind of send me spiraling into the carb craving a bit.

I don't want this to turn into a problem that I can't get ahold of...so, I'm calling out all of the troops early on! Darn it, I want to get down to a normal weight, and I want to stay there.

Good idea about the letter post divorce. I already did that in e-mails, but it could use reiteration after all of the dust has settled.

Thanks,

Robynn

Donna Jordon wrote:

Robynn,

I can tell you that when you eat one carb, your body then wants two. You can talk to the nutritionist about this, if you don't eat them you don't crave them so much. As far as emotional eating it's not a good thing, but it's hard when your going through so much. Just try to think Steve is really hurt right now, but later he may come around to being your friend, that's what my ex-husband did, but it was after a year when I remarried. You and Steve really still care for each other give him time, try to just keep in touch with him, but not now he needs his space he's hurt. After the divorce is final send him a note tell him all the things you loved about him, that you wish him happiness, that you'll always be there as a friend and he may come back around, we all need time. As far as I don't know everything I haven't been on here for a long time, but get the story, it may be to good of a thing to pass up or it may be to fast, only you in your

heart can tell. If it's really bothering you that much it may be to soon, other plans my need to be made, but if you and are meant to be together you will be. So stop the carb stuff and if you need emotional eating, it's just being able to put things in your mouth buy SF popsicles, SF jello, chicken broth, no carb yogurts and eat when you get the urge this don't have carbs, makes your brain you're eating when you shouldn't and there's not a lot of calories. Don't buy the carbs you see that you might want for emotions then they won't be there at home. Listen to your heart, think with your brain and do what you need to do for Robynn or you will not be happy, and we all have a tendency to not think of ourselves at all or until last, that's why so many people have to end up with WLS. Stay strong, talk with your friends and family and really think things out. If you need more help with your emotional behavior go see the psych doctor, he may

put you on something if your not to calm you as you go through this hard time, if you are on a medicine already for your anxiety he may have to adjust it. Don't feel like you can't ask for help. Take Care. DonnaRobynn wrote:

Ok...I am not quite 5 months out yet (it will be five months on the 8th), and my weightloss finally slowed down. I think I lost about 5 or 6 lbs. in October...and I've been hovering at the same weight (up a lb. down a lb.) for two weeks now...this is my first "plateau". I have consistently lost weight every week since I started. And it's fine if it is just a plateau...but I have some bad behaviours that are starting up, so I need a little help here.The past two weeks have been very very tough emotionally. My husband filed for divorce, and even though that was coming for a long while, the reality of it is quite devastating. He is very hurt and upset by my relationship with (who can blame him), and he is unwilling to stand by and let me date during our separation (even though that was what

I had told him from day one.) Steve has been my good friend for 13 years. He is family. And now, I'm faced with the distinct possibility that I will never see him again. That is killing me.On top of that, I'm dealing with the fact that is probably moving here in January, and I will be his sole support for a hwile, at least until it's legal for him to work. He's trying to get a student visa that will also let him work...that way he can work on his English, and get an additional certificate or two year degree...and then he'll be at a better place to secure a job.But the whole thing is kind of freaking me out, now. It feels so fast..but everything with him is great...and circumstances are converging to make all of this come together.But Robynn is turning to carbs a bit, and is emotionally eating. I have done stupid things, like bought those peanut butter filled pretzel

bits from Trader Joe's. Went through a whole bag in about a week. Bought a second bag...and wound up throwing that away.Bought cookies (the ginger types with lemon filling). Ate a couple of cookies each day...threw the rest away. Ate a little bit of Halloween candy. (no, I'm not throwing up, unfortunately.) I eat too many crackers. And gee...have I been exercising? Well, not much. Yesterday, I walked for an hour...and today, I've done my treadclimber for 45 minutes.I'm hungry, but I'm pretty sure it's emotional hunger...because even when I'm NOT hungry, i've been nibbling. Anxiety nibbling.That worries me, A LOT. I am at 168 right now. And even though I look pretty good, I'm technically still overweight at my height until I reach 153. Dr. Fischer and I had decided that 145 would be a good middle range, and I have subsequently set a private

goal for 135. So, I have 33 lbs. to go...and a minimimum of 15 to go before I'm of normal weight.I know I have to stop this before it becomes habitual. Focus on protein. Make sure I'm getting my water. (I'm good about my vitamins, that's the one thing I'm being well-behaved about).Please help me. Is there anyone out there who started being non-compliant so darned early? This divorce thing is throwing me for a loop..and so far, I haven't gained...and I'm trying to nip the behaviours in the bud...but it worries me that I'm going right back into "food as comfort when anxious" mode.HELP!!!!RobynnDonna JordonDSJordon@...

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Mine hit at about 8 -12 months post op. You have alot of changes

happening all at once. Ive been very frank about my continuing

struggles in order to help the new post ops. Its a day at a time, a

victory at a time for the rest of our lives. Re read all the great

advice you've given me and just change the to Robynn. Im here

for you if you ever need to vent. Do you still have my phone numbers.

Huggles

>

> Ok...I am not quite 5 months out yet (it will be five months on the

> 8th), and my weightloss finally slowed down. I think I lost about

5

> or 6 lbs. in October...and I've been hovering at the same weight

(up

> a lb. down a lb.) for two weeks now...

>

> this is my first " plateau " . I have consistently lost weight every

> week since I started. And it's fine if it is just a plateau...but

I

> have some bad behaviours that are starting up, so I need a little

> help here.

>

> The past two weeks have been very very tough emotionally. My

husband

> filed for divorce, and even though that was coming for a long

while,

> the reality of it is quite devastating. He is very hurt and upset

by

> my relationship with (who can blame him), and he is unwilling

to

> stand by and let me date during our separation (even though that

was

> what I had told him from day one.) Steve has been my good friend

for

> 13 years. He is family. And now, I'm faced with the distinct

> possibility that I will never see him again. That is killing me.

>

> On top of that, I'm dealing with the fact that is probably

> moving here in January, and I will be his sole support for a hwile,

> at least until it's legal for him to work. He's trying to get a

> student visa that will also let him work...that way he can work on

> his English, and get an additional certificate or two year

> degree...and then he'll be at a better place to secure a job.

>

> But the whole thing is kind of freaking me out, now. It feels so

> fast..but everything with him is great...and circumstances are

> converging to make all of this come together.

>

> But Robynn is turning to carbs a bit, and is emotionally eating. I

> have done stupid things, like bought those peanut butter filled

> pretzel bits from Trader Joe's. Went through a whole bag in about

a

> week. Bought a second bag...and wound up throwing that away.

>

> Bought cookies (the ginger types with lemon filling). Ate a couple

> of cookies each day...threw the rest away. Ate a little bit of

> Halloween candy. (no, I'm not throwing up, unfortunately.) I eat

> too many crackers. And gee...have I been exercising? Well, not

> much. Yesterday, I walked for an hour...and today, I've done my

> treadclimber for 45 minutes.

>

> I'm hungry, but I'm pretty sure it's emotional hunger...because

even

> when I'm NOT hungry, i've been nibbling. Anxiety nibbling.

>

> That worries me, A LOT. I am at 168 right now. And even though I

> look pretty good, I'm technically still overweight at my height

until

> I reach 153. Dr. Fischer and I had decided that 145 would be a

good

> middle range, and I have subsequently set a private goal for 135.

> So, I have 33 lbs. to go...and a minimimum of 15 to go before I'm

of

> normal weight.

>

> I know I have to stop this before it becomes habitual. Focus on

> protein. Make sure I'm getting my water. (I'm good about my

> vitamins, that's the one thing I'm being well-behaved about).

>

> Please help me. Is there anyone out there who started being non-

> compliant so darned early? This divorce thing is throwing me for a

> loop..and so far, I haven't gained...and I'm trying to nip the

> behaviours in the bud...but it worries me that I'm going right back

> into " food as comfort when anxious " mode.

>

> HELP!!!!

>

> Robynn

>

[Guest guest]

Robynn...I hear you! As you know, I'm just a few weeks ahead of you

(I'll be 6 months out on the 24th of this month). I've been sick

with the flu and went back to work after being home with my kids for

a year and I'm depressed about it. I, too, find myself snacking just

to be snacking. I find myself eating too many carbs and yes, I've

even eaten some Halloween candy. I don't dump on sugar (or not in

the quantities I've eaten so far anyway). I also want to get to a

normal weight and I have a good 35 pounds to go to get to that. I

haven't been exercising either. Contemplating a big move to the

Reno/Sparks area. Isn't it scary on how easy these " bad " habits

creep back into our lives even after all of this? I told myself this

morning that I would not eat not even one piece of candy and that I

would stick to my protein first at every meal and no snacking. I'll

drink ALL of my water today (I've been bad about that) and that I'll

get in some time on my Treadclimber no matter what today.

I don't have any magic words of wisdom but I hear you. You have lots

of emotional turmoil going on right now. Finding ways other than

eating to deal with all those emotions is new and tough. I find

writing and going for a walk anywhere helps.

Hang in there and keep me posted on how you are doing.

Tina

>

> Ok...I am not quite 5 months out yet (it will be five months on

the

> 8th), and my weightloss finally slowed down. I think I lost about

5

> or 6 lbs. in October...and I've been hovering at the same weight

(up

> a lb. down a lb.) for two weeks now...

>

> this is my first " plateau " . I have consistently lost weight every

> week since I started. And it's fine if it is just a plateau...but

I

> have some bad behaviours that are starting up, so I need a little

> help here.

>

> The past two weeks have been very very tough emotionally. My

husband

> filed for divorce, and even though that was coming for a long

while,

> the reality of it is quite devastating. He is very hurt and upset

by

> my relationship with (who can blame him), and he is unwilling

to

> stand by and let me date during our separation (even though that

was

> what I had told him from day one.) Steve has been my good friend

for

> 13 years. He is family. And now, I'm faced with the distinct

> possibility that I will never see him again. That is killing me.

>

> On top of that, I'm dealing with the fact that is probably

> moving here in January, and I will be his sole support for a

hwile,

> at least until it's legal for him to work. He's trying to get a

> student visa that will also let him work...that way he can work on

> his English, and get an additional certificate or two year

> degree...and then he'll be at a better place to secure a job.

>

> But the whole thing is kind of freaking me out, now. It feels so

> fast..but everything with him is great...and circumstances are

> converging to make all of this come together.

>

> But Robynn is turning to carbs a bit, and is emotionally eating.

I

> have done stupid things, like bought those peanut butter filled

> pretzel bits from Trader Joe's. Went through a whole bag in about

a

> week. Bought a second bag...and wound up throwing that away.

>

> Bought cookies (the ginger types with lemon filling). Ate a

couple

> of cookies each day...threw the rest away. Ate a little bit of

> Halloween candy. (no, I'm not throwing up, unfortunately.) I eat

> too many crackers. And gee...have I been exercising? Well, not

> much. Yesterday, I walked for an hour...and today, I've done my

> treadclimber for 45 minutes.

>

> I'm hungry, but I'm pretty sure it's emotional hunger...because

even

> when I'm NOT hungry, i've been nibbling. Anxiety nibbling.

>

> That worries me, A LOT. I am at 168 right now. And even though I

> look pretty good, I'm technically still overweight at my height

until

> I reach 153. Dr. Fischer and I had decided that 145 would be a

good

> middle range, and I have subsequently set a private goal for 135.

> So, I have 33 lbs. to go...and a minimimum of 15 to go before I'm

of

> normal weight.

>

> I know I have to stop this before it becomes habitual. Focus on

> protein. Make sure I'm getting my water. (I'm good about my

> vitamins, that's the one thing I'm being well-behaved about).

>

> Please help me. Is there anyone out there who started being non-

> compliant so darned early? This divorce thing is throwing me for

a

> loop..and so far, I haven't gained...and I'm trying to nip the

> behaviours in the bud...but it worries me that I'm going right

back

> into " food as comfort when anxious " mode.

>

> HELP!!!!

>

> Robynn

>

[Guest guest]

Tina,

Read the e-mails and you'll read what I wrote Robynn about carbs, psych doctor. Tina if you feel you really need something really sweet go buy yourself some SF candy hard kind so you suck on it for a very long time, this will help give you something sweet and if you don't chew them they last a long time then you won't over do and get to many calories. I went to SF down to the Pier 39 and at the Candy shop there, they had a whole wall of SF candy I picked me up different flavors so if I got the urge for a piece of candy since Halloween was coming then I just sucked on mine. It worked, we have to not feel deprived, but use foods that work for us. Life will always have stress and you have to find ways to deal with it, but not by giving into the eating habits. Take care and a move is a big deal, so figure out ways of handling all the situations and prioritize things to make it easier. DonnaTina

wrote:

Robynn...I hear you! As you know, I'm just a few weeks ahead of you (I'll be 6 months out on the 24th of this month). I've been sick with the flu and went back to work after being home with my kids for a year and I'm depressed about it. I, too, find myself snacking just to be snacking. I find myself eating too many carbs and yes, I've even eaten some Halloween candy. I don't dump on sugar (or not in the quantities I've eaten so far anyway). I also want to get to a normal weight and I have a good 35 pounds to go to get to that. I haven't been exercising either. Contemplating a big move to the Reno/Sparks area. Isn't it scary on how easy these "bad" habits creep back into our lives even after all of this? I told myself this morning that I would not eat not even one piece of candy and that I would stick to my protein first at every meal

and no snacking. I'll drink ALL of my water today (I've been bad about that) and that I'll get in some time on my Treadclimber no matter what today. I don't have any magic words of wisdom but I hear you. You have lots of emotional turmoil going on right now. Finding ways other than eating to deal with all those emotions is new and tough. I find writing and going for a walk anywhere helps.Hang in there and keep me posted on how you are doing.Tina >> Ok...I am not quite 5 months out yet (it will be five months on the > 8th), and my weightloss finally slowed down. I think I lost about 5 > or 6 lbs. in October...and I've been hovering at the same weight (up > a lb. down a lb.) for two weeks now...> > this is my first "plateau". I have consistently lost weight

every > week since I started. And it's fine if it is just a plateau...but I > have some bad behaviours that are starting up, so I need a little > help here.> > The past two weeks have been very very tough emotionally. My husband > filed for divorce, and even though that was coming for a long while, > the reality of it is quite devastating. He is very hurt and upset by > my relationship with (who can blame him), and he is unwilling to > stand by and let me date during our separation (even though that was > what I had told him from day one.) Steve has been my good friend for > 13 years. He is family. And now, I'm faced with the distinct > possibility that I will never see him again. That is killing me.> > On top of that, I'm dealing with the fact that is probably > moving here in January, and I will be

his sole support for a hwile, > at least until it's legal for him to work. He's trying to get a > student visa that will also let him work...that way he can work on > his English, and get an additional certificate or two year > degree...and then he'll be at a better place to secure a job.> > But the whole thing is kind of freaking me out, now. It feels so > fast..but everything with him is great...and circumstances are > converging to make all of this come together.> > But Robynn is turning to carbs a bit, and is emotionally eating. I > have done stupid things, like bought those peanut butter filled > pretzel bits from Trader Joe's. Went through a whole bag in about a > week. Bought a second bag...and wound up throwing that away.> > Bought cookies (the ginger types with lemon filling). Ate a couple > of cookies each

day...threw the rest away. Ate a little bit of > Halloween candy. (no, I'm not throwing up, unfortunately.) I eat > too many crackers. And gee...have I been exercising? Well, not > much. Yesterday, I walked for an hour...and today, I've done my > treadclimber for 45 minutes.> > I'm hungry, but I'm pretty sure it's emotional hunger...because even > when I'm NOT hungry, i've been nibbling. Anxiety nibbling.> > That worries me, A LOT. I am at 168 right now. And even though I > look pretty good, I'm technically still overweight at my height until > I reach 153. Dr. Fischer and I had decided that 145 would be a good > middle range, and I have subsequently set a private goal for 135. > So, I have 33 lbs. to go...and a minimimum of 15 to go before I'm of > normal weight.> > I know I have to stop

this before it becomes habitual. Focus on > protein. Make sure I'm getting my water. (I'm good about my > vitamins, that's the one thing I'm being well-behaved about).> > Please help me. Is there anyone out there who started being non-> compliant so darned early? This divorce thing is throwing me for a > loop..and so far, I haven't gained...and I'm trying to nip the > behaviours in the bud...but it worries me that I'm going right back > into "food as comfort when anxious" mode.> > HELP!!!!> > Robynn>Donna JordonDSJordon@...

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Thanks, Tina...it helps to know i'm not alone. I made an apponitment with the psychologist, and today (so far) I'm on track. This is jut something I have to get a handle on. Eating is just eating out of nervousness, anxiety and depression. And eating doesn't help. That's the thing. And certainly, if I should gain weight...it DEFINITELY wouldn't help!!!

RobynnTina wrote:

Robynn...I hear you! As you know, I'm just a few weeks ahead of you (I'll be 6 months out on the 24th of this month). I've been sick with the flu and went back to work after being home with my kids for a year and I'm depressed about it. I, too, find myself snacking just to be snacking. I find myself eating too many carbs and yes, I've even eaten some Halloween candy. I don't dump on sugar (or not in the quantities I've eaten so far anyway). I also want to get to a normal weight and I have a good 35 pounds to go to get to that. I haven't been exercising either. Contemplating a big move to the Reno/Sparks area. Isn't it scary on how easy these "bad" habits creep back into our lives even after all of this? I told myself this morning that I would not eat not even one piece of candy and that I would stick to my protein first at every meal

and no snacking. I'll drink ALL of my water today (I've been bad about that) and that I'll get in some time on my Treadclimber no matter what today. I don't have any magic words of wisdom but I hear you. You have lots of emotional turmoil going on right now. Finding ways other than eating to deal with all those emotions is new and tough. I find writing and going for a walk anywhere helps.Hang in there and keep me posted on how you are doing.Tina >> Ok...I am not quite 5 months out yet (it will be five months on the > 8th), and my weightloss finally slowed down. I think I lost about 5 > or 6 lbs. in October...and I've been hovering at the same weight (up > a lb. down a lb.) for two weeks now...> > this is my first "plateau". I have consistently lost weight

every > week since I started. And it's fine if it is just a plateau...but I > have some bad behaviours that are starting up, so I need a little > help here.> > The past two weeks have been very very tough emotionally. My husband > filed for divorce, and even though that was coming for a long while, > the reality of it is quite devastating. He is very hurt and upset by > my relationship with (who can blame him), and he is unwilling to > stand by and let me date during our separation (even though that was > what I had told him from day one.) Steve has been my good friend for > 13 years. He is family. And now, I'm faced with the distinct > possibility that I will never see him again. That is killing me.> > On top of that, I'm dealing with the fact that is probably > moving here in January, and I will be

his sole support for a hwile, > at least until it's legal for him to work. He's trying to get a > student visa that will also let him work...that way he can work on > his English, and get an additional certificate or two year > degree...and then he'll be at a better place to secure a job.> > But the whole thing is kind of freaking me out, now. It feels so > fast..but everything with him is great...and circumstances are > converging to make all of this come together.> > But Robynn is turning to carbs a bit, and is emotionally eating. I > have done stupid things, like bought those peanut butter filled > pretzel bits from Trader Joe's. Went through a whole bag in about a > week. Bought a second bag...and wound up throwing that away.> > Bought cookies (the ginger types with lemon filling). Ate a couple > of cookies each

day...threw the rest away. Ate a little bit of > Halloween candy. (no, I'm not throwing up, unfortunately.) I eat > too many crackers. And gee...have I been exercising? Well, not > much. Yesterday, I walked for an hour...and today, I've done my > treadclimber for 45 minutes.> > I'm hungry, but I'm pretty sure it's emotional hunger...because even > when I'm NOT hungry, i've been nibbling. Anxiety nibbling.> > That worries me, A LOT. I am at 168 right now. And even though I > look pretty good, I'm technically still overweight at my height until > I reach 153. Dr. Fischer and I had decided that 145 would be a good > middle range, and I have subsequently set a private goal for 135. > So, I have 33 lbs. to go...and a minimimum of 15 to go before I'm of > normal weight.> > I know I have to stop

this before it becomes habitual. Focus on > protein. Make sure I'm getting my water. (I'm good about my > vitamins, that's the one thing I'm being well-behaved about).> > Please help me. Is there anyone out there who started being non-> compliant so darned early? This divorce thing is throwing me for a > loop..and so far, I haven't gained...and I'm trying to nip the > behaviours in the bud...but it worries me that I'm going right back > into "food as comfort when anxious" mode.> > HELP!!!!> > Robynn>

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Robynn,

That's right, you're doing the right thing by seeing the psychologist today. Stay on track if you can. You go girl. DonnaRobynn VanPatten wrote:

Thanks, Tina...it helps to know i'm not alone. I made an apponitment with the psychologist, and today (so far) I'm on track. This is jut something I have to get a handle on. Eating is just eating out of nervousness, anxiety and depression. And eating doesn't help. That's the thing. And certainly, if I should gain weight...it DEFINITELY wouldn't help!!!

RobynnTina wrote:

Robynn...I hear you! As you know, I'm just a few weeks ahead of you (I'll be 6 months out on the 24th of this month). I've been sick with the flu and went back to work after being home with my kids for a year and I'm depressed about it. I, too, find myself snacking just to be snacking. I find myself eating too many carbs and yes, I've even eaten some Halloween candy. I don't dump on sugar (or not in the quantities I've eaten so far anyway). I also want to get to a normal weight and I have a good 35 pounds to go to get to that. I haven't been exercising either. Contemplating a big move to the Reno/Sparks area. Isn't it scary on how easy these "bad" habits creep back into our lives even after all of this? I told myself this morning that I would not eat not even one piece of candy and that I would stick to my protein first at every meal

and no snacking. I'll drink ALL of my water today (I've been bad about that) and that I'll get in some time on my Treadclimber no matter what today. I don't have any magic words of wisdom but I hear you. You have lots of emotional turmoil going on right now. Finding ways other than eating to deal with all those emotions is new and tough. I find writing and going for a walk anywhere helps.Hang in there and keep me posted on how you are doing.Tina >> Ok...I am not quite 5 months out yet (it will be five months on the > 8th), and my weightloss finally slowed down. I think I lost about 5 > or 6 lbs. in October...and I've been hovering at the same weight (up > a lb. down a lb.) for two weeks now...> > this is my first "plateau". I have consistently lost weight

every > week since I started. And it's fine if it is just a plateau...but I > have some bad behaviours that are starting up, so I need a little > help here.> > The past two weeks have been very very tough emotionally. My husband > filed for divorce, and even though that was coming for a long while, > the reality of it is quite devastating. He is very hurt and upset by > my relationship with (who can blame him), and he is unwilling to > stand by and let me date during our separation (even though that was > what I had told him from day one.) Steve has been my good friend for > 13 years. He is family. And now, I'm faced with the distinct > possibility that I will never see him again. That is killing me.> > On top of that, I'm dealing with the fact that is probably > moving here in January, and I will be

his sole support for a hwile, > at least until it's legal for him to work. He's trying to get a > student visa that will also let him work...that way he can work on > his English, and get an additional certificate or two year > degree...and then he'll be at a better place to secure a job.> > But the whole thing is kind of freaking me out, now. It feels so > fast..but everything with him is great...and circumstances are > converging to make all of this come together.> > But Robynn is turning to carbs a bit, and is emotionally eating. I > have done stupid things, like bought those peanut butter filled > pretzel bits from Trader Joe's. Went through a whole bag in about a > week. Bought a second bag...and wound up throwing that away.> > Bought cookies (the ginger types with lemon filling). Ate a couple > of cookies each

day...threw the rest away. Ate a little bit of > Halloween candy. (no, I'm not throwing up, unfortunately.) I eat > too many crackers. And gee...have I been exercising? Well, not > much. Yesterday, I walked for an hour...and today, I've done my > treadclimber for 45 minutes.> > I'm hungry, but I'm pretty sure it's emotional hunger...because even > when I'm NOT hungry, i've been nibbling. Anxiety nibbling.> > That worries me, A LOT. I am at 168 right now. And even though I > look pretty good, I'm technically still overweight at my height until > I reach 153. Dr. Fischer and I had decided that 145 would be a good > middle range, and I have subsequently set a private goal for 135. > So, I have 33 lbs. to go...and a minimimum of 15 to go before I'm of > normal weight.> > I know I have to stop

this before it becomes habitual. Focus on > protein. Make sure I'm getting my water. (I'm good about my > vitamins, that's the one thing I'm being well-behaved about).> > Please help me. Is there anyone out there who started being non-> compliant so darned early? This divorce thing is throwing me for a > loop..and so far, I haven't gained...and I'm trying to nip the > behaviours in the bud...but it worries me that I'm going right back > into "food as comfort when anxious" mode.> > HELP!!!!> > Robynn>Donna JordonDSJordon@...

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Robynn, I'm sure you were aware that the divorce was going to come eventually. Between this and your emotional eating, your plateau will turn into weight gain in no time. Now get back on the horse dear and ride off into weight-loss sunset. As difficult as a divorce can be (yes, been there, done that), you need to not get on that emotional rollercoaster because you know what can happen. You've seen in the mirror what WILL happen. All of that is in past. Please keep it back there.

From all the wonderful advice you pass around here, it's time you take a dose of it yourself. You know that right thing to do. You know the right is a very difficult thing to do all the time, but you've been bad, so now you have to be extra good for a while. I know you can do this Robynn. Keep up with the exercises, stay away from those sweets (too bad you're not dumping from them). There's still one thing we can all keep in mind from the Reagan administration... "Just Say NO!". I know how easy it is to justify certain things, but you know in reality it's only YOU that gets cheated in the end.

Ron

Just say NO

My first plateau...and is the "honeymoon" already over?!?!

Ok...I am not quite 5 months out yet (it will be five months on the 8th), and my weightloss finally slowed down. I think I lost about 5 or 6 lbs. in October...and I've been hovering at the same weight (up a lb. down a lb.) for two weeks now...this is my first "plateau". I have consistently lost weight every week since I started. And it's fine if it is just a plateau...but I have some bad behaviours that are starting up, so I need a little help here.The past two weeks have been very very tough emotionally. My husband filed for divorce, and even though that was coming for a long while, the reality of it is quite devastating. He is very hurt and upset by my relationship with (who can blame him), and he is unwilling to stand by and let me date during our separation (even though that was what I had told him from day one.) Steve has been my good friend for 13 years. He is family. And now, I'm faced with the distinct possibility that I will never see him again. That is killing me.On top of that, I'm dealing with the fact that is probably moving here in January, and I will be his sole support for a hwile, at least until it's legal for him to work. He's trying to get a student visa that will also let him work...that way he can work on his English, and get an additional certificate or two year degree...and then he'll be at a better place to secure a job.But the whole thing is kind of freaking me out, now. It feels so fast..but everything with him is great...and circumstances are converging to make all of this come together.But Robynn is turning to carbs a bit, and is emotionally eating. I have done stupid things, like bought those peanut butter filled pretzel bits from Trader Joe's. Went through a whole bag in about a week. Bought a second bag...and wound up throwing that away.Bought cookies (the ginger types with lemon filling). Ate a couple of cookies each day...threw the rest away. Ate a little bit of Halloween candy. (no, I'm not throwing up, unfortunately.) I eat too many crackers. And gee...have I been exercising? Well, not much. Yesterday, I walked for an hour...and today, I've done my treadclimber for 45 minutes.I'm hungry, but I'm pretty sure it's emotional hunger...because even when I'm NOT hungry, i've been nibbling. Anxiety nibbling.That worries me, A LOT. I am at 168 right now. And even though I look pretty good, I'm technically still overweight at my height until I reach 153. Dr. Fischer and I had decided that 145 would be a good middle range, and I have subsequently set a private goal for 135. So, I have 33 lbs. to go...and a minimimum of 15 to go before I'm of normal weight.I know I have to stop this before it becomes habitual. Focus on protein. Make sure I'm getting my water. (I'm good about my vitamins, that's the one thing I'm being well-behaved about).Please help me. Is there anyone out there who started being non-compliant so darned early? This divorce thing is throwing me for a loop..and so far, I haven't gained...and I'm trying to nip the behaviours in the bud...but it worries me that I'm going right back into "food as comfort when anxious" mode.HELP!!!!Robynn

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Ok, Ron, duly spanked. You are right, I'm back on the saddle right now...I'm planning on staying in it. Thanks!!

RobynnBBQ Man wrote:

Robynn, I'm sure you were aware that the divorce was going to come eventually. Between this and your emotional eating, your plateau will turn into weight gain in no time. Now get back on the horse dear and ride off into weight-loss sunset. As difficult as a divorce can be (yes, been there, done that), you need to not get on that emotional rollercoaster because you know what can happen. You've seen in the mirror what WILL happen. All of that is in past. Please keep it back there.

From all the wonderful advice you pass around here, it's time you take a dose of it yourself. You know that right thing to do. You know the right is a very difficult thing to do all the time, but you've been bad, so now you have to be extra good for a while. I know you can do this Robynn. Keep up with the exercises, stay away from those sweets (too bad you're not dumping from them). There's still one thing we can all keep in mind from the Reagan administration... "Just Say NO!". I know how easy it is to justify certain things, but you know in reality it's only YOU that gets cheated in the end.

Ron

Just say NO

My first plateau...and is the "honeymoon" already over?!?!

Ok...I am not quite 5 months out yet (it will be five months on the 8th), and my weightloss finally slowed down. I think I lost about 5 or 6 lbs. in October...and I've been hovering at the same weight (up a lb. down a lb.) for two weeks now...this is my first "plateau". I have consistently lost weight every week since I started. And it's fine if it is just a plateau...but I have some bad behaviours that are starting up, so I need a little help here.The past two weeks have been very very tough emotionally. My husband filed for divorce, and even though that was coming for a long while, the reality of it is quite devastating. He is very hurt and upset by my relationship with (who can blame him), and he is unwilling to stand by and let me date during our separation (even though that was what I had told him from day one.) Steve has been my good friend for 13

years. He is family. And now, I'm faced with the distinct possibility that I will never see him again. That is killing me.On top of that, I'm dealing with the fact that is probably moving here in January, and I will be his sole support for a hwile, at least until it's legal for him to work. He's trying to get a student visa that will also let him work...that way he can work on his English, and get an additional certificate or two year degree...and then he'll be at a better place to secure a job.But the whole thing is kind of freaking me out, now. It feels so fast..but everything with him is great...and circumstances are converging to make all of this come together.But Robynn is turning to carbs a bit, and is emotionally eating. I have done stupid things, like bought those peanut butter filled pretzel bits from Trader Joe's. Went through a whole bag in about a

week. Bought a second bag...and wound up throwing that away.Bought cookies (the ginger types with lemon filling). Ate a couple of cookies each day...threw the rest away. Ate a little bit of Halloween candy. (no, I'm not throwing up, unfortunately.) I eat too many crackers. And gee...have I been exercising? Well, not much. Yesterday, I walked for an hour...and today, I've done my treadclimber for 45 minutes.I'm hungry, but I'm pretty sure it's emotional hunger...because even when I'm NOT hungry, i've been nibbling. Anxiety nibbling.That worries me, A LOT. I am at 168 right now. And even though I look pretty good, I'm technically still overweight at my height until I reach 153. Dr. Fischer and I had decided that 145 would be a good middle range, and I have subsequently set a private goal for 135. So, I have 33 lbs. to go...and a minimimum of

15 to go before I'm of normal weight.I know I have to stop this before it becomes habitual. Focus on protein. Make sure I'm getting my water. (I'm good about my vitamins, that's the one thing I'm being well-behaved about).Please help me. Is there anyone out there who started being non-compliant so darned early? This divorce thing is throwing me for a loop..and so far, I haven't gained...and I'm trying to nip the behaviours in the bud...but it worries me that I'm going right back into "food as comfort when anxious" mode.HELP!!!!Robynn

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Robynn, wow, it sounds like you really are on an

emotional rollercoaster. It all sounds overwhelming.

I'm sure I'd be hiding in the cookie jar, or in bed

with the comforter up over my head! Actually, we are

buying a house, and I'm pretty stressed out myself.

I'm stress eating, also. The kids' halloween candy

has been calling my name daily. So I've been

answering. I'm not gaining, even broke my little mini

plateau, but I don't like how I've been eating. I

can't wait till this candy is out of the house! I

don't have any advice to offer, but I can comisserate

to an extent. Just hang in there and do the best you

can do. Maybe try to behave a little better every day

than you did the day before. Baby steps? Hmmm, I

knew there was a reason I was fat.

Laurie

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Laurie,

You hang in there. Like I said have things that are okay for you, instead of the kids candy, buy yourself some SF hard candy to suck on, less calories and helps so you're not tempted to eat the kids and gain weight back. You hang in there also buying a house, then moving is a very stressful thing. DonnaLLLORY@... wrote:

Robynn, wow, it sounds like you really are on anemotional rollercoaster. It all sounds overwhelming. I'm sure I'd be hiding in the cookie jar, or in bedwith the comforter up over my head! Actually, we arebuying a house, and I'm pretty stressed out myself. I'm stress eating, also. The kids' halloween candyhas been calling my name daily. So I've beenanswering. I'm not gaining, even broke my little miniplateau, but I don't like how I've been eating. Ican't wait till this candy is out of the house! Idon't have any advice to offer, but I can comisserateto an extent. Just hang in there and do the best youcan do. Maybe try to behave a little better every daythan you did the day before. Baby steps? Hmmm, Iknew there was a reason I was fat.

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Laurie,

Are you staying in Livermore or have you been priced out? I love

living in Livermore and love the schools for my son.

Jeanne

>

> Robynn, wow, it sounds like you really are on an

> emotional rollercoaster. It all sounds overwhelming.

> I'm sure I'd be hiding in the cookie jar, or in bed

> with the comforter up over my head! Actually, we are

> buying a house, and I'm pretty stressed out myself.

> I'm stress eating, also. The kids' halloween candy

> has been calling my name daily. So I've been

> answering. I'm not gaining, even broke my little mini

> plateau, but I don't like how I've been eating. I

> can't wait till this candy is out of the house! I

> don't have any advice to offer, but I can comisserate

> to an extent. Just hang in there and do the best you

> can do. Maybe try to behave a little better every day

> than you did the day before. Baby steps? Hmmm, I

> knew there was a reason I was fat.

> Laurie

>

>

>

>

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Jeanne, we are staying in livermore, probably at the

sacrafice of food and clothing! Cross your fingers!

Laurie

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Fingers crossed on both hands and feet. I just love living in

Livermore.

Jeanne

>

> Jeanne, we are staying in livermore, probably at the

> sacrafice of food and clothing! Cross your fingers!

> Laurie

>

>

>

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Thanks Jeanne! You never replied about getting

together, so I'm guessing you're not up for it right

now. Good luck with your letter from yourPCP!

Laurie

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Laurie,

When was that, I must have missed it. Well, I am really not up to

much lately. I have been woking 7 days straight all through October

and until December 24th when I am taking 2 weeks off. I was hoping

my surgery was going to be during that time but I hear the Drs take

vacation around that time too. Anyway if the letter from my PCP

urging a sooner date minus the 11 pounds left for me to go, it will

be next March. Over a year from start to finish.

Jeanne

>

> Thanks Jeanne! You never replied about getting

> together, so I'm guessing you're not up for it right

> now. Good luck with your letter from yourPCP!

> Laurie

>

>

>

>

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Jeanne,

I think I posted about us getting together on the

Fremont list back when you told me you lived in

Livermore. Don't worry about it, just take care.

Sounds like your plate is full right now. I'm going

to be spending the next two months packing and moving

and a weeks vacation with my family in Indiana. Maybe

in Jan? You can come to my new house!

Laurie

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