Guest guest Posted July 8, 2002 Report Share Posted July 8, 2002 <<Maybe I'm just getting ugly, and trying to make excuses for it, but if that were the case, why would my complexion be so volatile(spelling?). Any words of incouragement? >> you won't actually start to get ugly until you are, oh, 30 or so. so cheer up you 've still got 7 years of cuteness ahead of you ... on a serious note patience is the order of the day when dealng with any kind of skin problem keep pursuing until you find your answers and in the mean time remember that no one else cares the way you do if your face looks perfect or not. i know it's hard i had times when i didn't want to go out in public or in family or in friends because i felt hideous but truthfully people may comment on it but it's your shining personality that they love anyway. hang in there don't give up we've all been there and (hopefully) lived to tell the tale. stacey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2002 Report Share Posted July 8, 2002 <<Maybe I'm just getting ugly, and trying to make excuses for it, but if that were the case, why would my complexion be so volatile(spelling?). Any words of incouragement? >> you won't actually start to get ugly until you are, oh, 30 or so. so cheer up you 've still got 7 years of cuteness ahead of you ... on a serious note patience is the order of the day when dealng with any kind of skin problem keep pursuing until you find your answers and in the mean time remember that no one else cares the way you do if your face looks perfect or not. i know it's hard i had times when i didn't want to go out in public or in family or in friends because i felt hideous but truthfully people may comment on it but it's your shining personality that they love anyway. hang in there don't give up we've all been there and (hopefully) lived to tell the tale. stacey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2003 Report Share Posted March 19, 2003 I have wanted to respond to this post since I read it. My biggest problem was trying to say what I wanted without offending anyone most especially the author. I first want to acknowledge that I hear your concerns. I have so been where you are. I do not have a husband but I do have a sister that was considering haveing the surgery at about the same time I had it. I am not real sure why she decided to post pone it but she is currently looking into the surgery again. I found my weight lose coming to a stand still the closer I got to her weight. I am still fighting to decide to lose more weight for me. I often am worried about her reaction to it. It occured to me when I read this that I didn't have this surgery to please my sister, I had this surgery to have a better life. The best way for me to have a better life and to be supportive to my sister in her decision is to do what is best for me. Her feelings about my weight loss should not really be my concern. It should be my concern to take care of my health. So, my question is, would it be better for you to be at a healthier weight if you didn't have to worry about your husbands' mood? At what point does your husband take responsibility for his own actions? Are you responsible for his depression or his weight problem? Who can solve those problems if not your husband? I realize these are not easy questions with easy answers. But these are the same questions I have to ask myself. It is the same questions a zillion other people have to ask everyday. Do what is best for you and let your husband take care of his side of the street. Lori Owen - Denton, Texas CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs. SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs. Current Weight 335 Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce On Tue, 18 Mar 2003 21:44:22 -0000 " meowkittyme " writes: > First of all I wish to remain anonymous, so I've just set up a new > name. Forgive the mysterious of it all, but hopefully you'll > understand. I had my surgery about 3 1/2 years ago. I've lost 100 > > pounds give or take, and in a perfect world, I'd like to loose > another 50 to 75 pounds. That being said, I've found myself halting > > my efforts, as to not make my husband feel worst about his weight > and > the fact that he does not qualify for WLS. (Not heavy enough) For > the last 3 years, he's found occaision to comment on the fact that I > > was lucky to have the surgery, and even went so far to say that he > was glad that HIS insurance could pay for MY surgery. (ouch) And at > > this point, even though the insurance coverage would cover a > " Panni " , > I haven't even considered it, as I think it would upset him further. > > I mention depression in the subject matter, as I'm sure that's where > > it stems from. He's medicated on Paxil now, and has been on Prozac. > > And at this time every day is a new adventure (help!) Now, I'm > guessing I'm off topic (maybe) but any one else out there with a > depressed spouse? How can we cope year after year? Advice please? > > > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2003 Report Share Posted March 19, 2003 I have wanted to respond to this post since I read it. My biggest problem was trying to say what I wanted without offending anyone most especially the author. I first want to acknowledge that I hear your concerns. I have so been where you are. I do not have a husband but I do have a sister that was considering haveing the surgery at about the same time I had it. I am not real sure why she decided to post pone it but she is currently looking into the surgery again. I found my weight lose coming to a stand still the closer I got to her weight. I am still fighting to decide to lose more weight for me. I often am worried about her reaction to it. It occured to me when I read this that I didn't have this surgery to please my sister, I had this surgery to have a better life. The best way for me to have a better life and to be supportive to my sister in her decision is to do what is best for me. Her feelings about my weight loss should not really be my concern. It should be my concern to take care of my health. So, my question is, would it be better for you to be at a healthier weight if you didn't have to worry about your husbands' mood? At what point does your husband take responsibility for his own actions? Are you responsible for his depression or his weight problem? Who can solve those problems if not your husband? I realize these are not easy questions with easy answers. But these are the same questions I have to ask myself. It is the same questions a zillion other people have to ask everyday. Do what is best for you and let your husband take care of his side of the street. Lori Owen - Denton, Texas CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs. SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs. Current Weight 335 Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce On Tue, 18 Mar 2003 21:44:22 -0000 " meowkittyme " writes: > First of all I wish to remain anonymous, so I've just set up a new > name. Forgive the mysterious of it all, but hopefully you'll > understand. I had my surgery about 3 1/2 years ago. I've lost 100 > > pounds give or take, and in a perfect world, I'd like to loose > another 50 to 75 pounds. That being said, I've found myself halting > > my efforts, as to not make my husband feel worst about his weight > and > the fact that he does not qualify for WLS. (Not heavy enough) For > the last 3 years, he's found occaision to comment on the fact that I > > was lucky to have the surgery, and even went so far to say that he > was glad that HIS insurance could pay for MY surgery. (ouch) And at > > this point, even though the insurance coverage would cover a > " Panni " , > I haven't even considered it, as I think it would upset him further. > > I mention depression in the subject matter, as I'm sure that's where > > it stems from. He's medicated on Paxil now, and has been on Prozac. > > And at this time every day is a new adventure (help!) Now, I'm > guessing I'm off topic (maybe) but any one else out there with a > depressed spouse? How can we cope year after year? Advice please? > > > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2003 Report Share Posted April 11, 2003 Dear Bert, I started taking wellbutrin in 1992. I took it a couple of months but did not find it to help much. My sister takes wellbutrin and is happy with it. I have been taking celexa now for ten years. I started out with 20 mg once a day. Went to 40 mg once a day last year when I was having very bad attacks. I tried to go back to 20 mg, but it was too low. I have been on 30 mg for 8 months. I am 5'2 " and wiegh 120#. I am VERY happy with using celexa. I could not live without it or rather others could not live WITH me... Cecilia Cecilia soce@... Mesa, Arizona Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2003 Report Share Posted April 18, 2003 , have you gone to your PCP about this? There are a lot of things post-op, that can cause fatigue. Are you getting regular labs? If you are low on iron, B12, calcium, protein, thyroid, it can make you feel awful. If you need a list of recommended labs for us, let me know and I'll send it to you. In my experience, sometimes depression can have a physical cause, and feel pretty much the same as fatigue would feel. It's pretty hard to tell the difference. BarbaraJean distal from 300 to 128 My Mantra , I want to thank you for your courage in posting your message. I have been so depressed all day. I still binge and I'm 2- 1/2 years out. I was afraid to post anything because I was afraid of getting chewed out (no pun intended). I mean, I know what I'm supposed to eat and what I'm not supposed to eat and how much, and how I should do my protein shakes, but knowing and doing are two different things. I know I have to work the tool to make it work, but sometimes I don't have it in me. I've been very depressed for a few weeks (psychiatrist just adjusted my meds today) and nothing seems to bring me joy. I used to love walks and now that the weather is breaking I thought I'd be walking all the time. I just don't have the energy. My psychologist said my depression is using up all my energy. I'm just glad you posted, , and I glad it inspired others to share. I could have written your post myself. Again, thank you. in Akron Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2003 Report Share Posted April 18, 2003 , have you gone to your PCP about this? There are a lot of things post-op, that can cause fatigue. Are you getting regular labs? If you are low on iron, B12, calcium, protein, thyroid, it can make you feel awful. If you need a list of recommended labs for us, let me know and I'll send it to you. In my experience, sometimes depression can have a physical cause, and feel pretty much the same as fatigue would feel. It's pretty hard to tell the difference. BarbaraJean distal from 300 to 128 My Mantra , I want to thank you for your courage in posting your message. I have been so depressed all day. I still binge and I'm 2- 1/2 years out. I was afraid to post anything because I was afraid of getting chewed out (no pun intended). I mean, I know what I'm supposed to eat and what I'm not supposed to eat and how much, and how I should do my protein shakes, but knowing and doing are two different things. I know I have to work the tool to make it work, but sometimes I don't have it in me. I've been very depressed for a few weeks (psychiatrist just adjusted my meds today) and nothing seems to bring me joy. I used to love walks and now that the weather is breaking I thought I'd be walking all the time. I just don't have the energy. My psychologist said my depression is using up all my energy. I'm just glad you posted, , and I glad it inspired others to share. I could have written your post myself. Again, thank you. in Akron Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2003 Report Share Posted April 18, 2003 Sorry, I meant , not . BarbaraJean distal from 300 to 128 My Mantra , I want to thank you for your courage in posting your message. I have been so depressed all day. I still binge and I'm 2- 1/2 years out. I was afraid to post anything because I was afraid of getting chewed out (no pun intended). I mean, I know what I'm supposed to eat and what I'm not supposed to eat and how much, and how I should do my protein shakes, but knowing and doing are two different things. I know I have to work the tool to make it work, but sometimes I don't have it in me. I've been very depressed for a few weeks (psychiatrist just adjusted my meds today) and nothing seems to bring me joy. I used to love walks and now that the weather is breaking I thought I'd be walking all the time. I just don't have the energy. My psychologist said my depression is using up all my energy. I'm just glad you posted, , and I glad it inspired others to share. I could have written your post myself. Again, thank you. in Akron Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2003 Report Share Posted April 18, 2003 Sorry, I meant , not . BarbaraJean distal from 300 to 128 My Mantra , I want to thank you for your courage in posting your message. I have been so depressed all day. I still binge and I'm 2- 1/2 years out. I was afraid to post anything because I was afraid of getting chewed out (no pun intended). I mean, I know what I'm supposed to eat and what I'm not supposed to eat and how much, and how I should do my protein shakes, but knowing and doing are two different things. I know I have to work the tool to make it work, but sometimes I don't have it in me. I've been very depressed for a few weeks (psychiatrist just adjusted my meds today) and nothing seems to bring me joy. I used to love walks and now that the weather is breaking I thought I'd be walking all the time. I just don't have the energy. My psychologist said my depression is using up all my energy. I'm just glad you posted, , and I glad it inspired others to share. I could have written your post myself. Again, thank you. in Akron Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2003 Report Share Posted September 18, 2003 I used to be depressed; but, the effort for that emotion just became too much for me to handle. Very Best Wishes, Poncho - GA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2003 Report Share Posted September 18, 2003 Heidi, Becky, and all, In my humble opinion, it would be very hard to deal with almost any chronic illness and not have some level of depression. I had some problems off and on with depression since being diagnosed with systemic lupus in 1996, but at the time my acute panc attacks returned in July 2002, I wasn't on any medication for depression and as far as I could tell was not having any problems with depression. By the end of August 2002 I think I had been in the hospital 4 times (maybe 5) and to the ER even more. I had my internal med doc saying I needed a liver biopsy, my local pcp saying he had no clue what was causing my problems, my gastric bypass surgeon saying he felt my problems were being caused by SOD and the attacks may have already led to CP, and my old GI doc saying both my liver and pancreas were fine (despite the fact that the first hospitalization showed elevated liver enzymes, amylase, and a lipase of 1960; second hospitalization showed elevated liver enzymes and amylase - that was at my local hospital and they didn't check the lipase since it can't be done in house - BIG MISTAKE; 3rd and 4th hospitalizations I had normal amylase but liver enzymes were 15 times the normal limit). The GI was insistent that my problems were being caused by adhesions blocking the bile duct. This theory was later proved incorrect as was his assessment that my liver and pancreas were 'perfectly healthy'. Anyway, by the end of August, I was in a major depression. I had not been able to work more than a couple of days a week (if that) since getting sick. I was very worried about our financial situation. I was in pain 24 hours a day. Most days I couldn't eat. I became despondent and just felt like giving up. This was very unlike me so I knew I needed help. I told my pcp I thought I should go back on wellbutrin, which I had been on a year previously. He agreed and it made a major difference with my depression and my ability to handle my illness. It gave me back my willingness to fight and to keep pushing the doctors to determine what was wrong with me. I ended up applying for disability retirement from my job in Dec 02 and it was effective in Mar 03. In the meantime, I found out I have autoimmune liver disease after the GI's adhesion theory was proven wrong and he finally did a liver biopsy. I was diagnosed with diabetes in Jan 03, but still my GI insisted my pancreas was 'perfectly healthy'. He couldn't explain what had caused the definite episodes of acute panc (as evidenced by elevated labs) but insisted my pain was from the liver disease. Around Mar 03, I decided I needed to get a better handle on my tendency to obsess over things so I went to a psychologist and we discussed whether a different anti-depressant might be better for me. The psychologist recommended zoloft and my pcp agreed. About two weeks after beginning the zoloft, I was much better able to get on with the rest of my life. This was in spite of the fact that in only a matter of months, my whole life was different. By this time, I'd been in the hospital about 16 or 17 times, my career was ending 20 years earlier than I had planned, and we'd had a major change in our income. I credit zoloft with helping me to cope and keep a positive attitude (most days) in spite of the changes in my life. In June my internal medicine doc called in a new GI and I was diagnosed with CP. Ends up during many of the attacks my lipase was probably elevated despite my normal amylase. It took going to the next town where they could check the lipase in house to figure this out. The facts of my life are that I have systemic lupus, antiphospholipid syndrome (an autoimmune clotting disorder which means I will be on coumadin for life), diabetes, autoimmune hepatitis (which means I must be on steriods and an immunosuppressant - may not have to be on steriods for life, but I have been on prednisone since January), and chronic pancreatitis. I take 25 different medications daily. ER visits and hospitalizations are a fact of life. However, I have been better since going under the care of the new GI. He added actigall because he thinks part of my problem with the pancreatitis is that my bile was not flowing well. He also added panc enzymes to keep my panc from having to work as hard. He added imuran (an immunosuppressant) for the liver disease in hopes of eventually getting me off of the steriods. I don't think I will ever quit taking the zoloft because it has made such a difference in my ability to cope with the hand life has dealt me. I have many blessings which include a wonderfully supportive husband and family, great health insurance, and finally great doctors. All of those things help, too. Just thought I'd share what being on the right anti-depressant has done for me. W Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I know - and I wasn't trying to minimize any of those " situational things " . You at least probably got lots of sun in Hawai'i, and you've also got some pretty major stuff going on that's affecting your feelings right now. But hey, sunlight's cheap, relatively safe, and low-carb. . . and if it helps boost your mood, go for it! Cathy > > I'm sure the lack of sunlight is contributing, Cathy. I have some situational things that are also contributing, but I could probably be helped a bit by a little Vitamin D. Thanks for the suggestion... > > Robynn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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